Situational Openers, Locking In, and Sexual Innuendo

[Dern]

1. A quick question about situational openers. I've been approaching girls on the street and going direct but for the places where going situational would be more ideal... like the bookstore, coffee store, grocery store, and the beach. I find it hard to think of something situation appropriate to say. Like, going up to a girl and asking her if she is single, or complimenting her is way easier (for me) to do then observing the environment and saying something interesting about it. Was wondering if you guys could give me some lines to say to a girl in a bookstore, in a coffee store, in a grocery store, and on the beach. And in situation openers, you don't necessarily compliment her or ask her if she's single, so how do you let her know subtly that you are interested? In Chase's coffee store example (gauche cliche coffee store) he doesn't compliment the girl, but he shows interest by talking in a sexy voice. How do you talk in a sexy voice? Do you lean in close? picture her naked on a bed instead of in a coffee store? picture yourself fucking her? Any tips would be great!

The only thing I can think of is...

coffee store: is this chair taken? she says no, so i say: great, because i hate sitting alone

in a line up: hey, can I budge you? she replies. I say: just kidding, I just thought you were cute and wanted to introduce myself
also today, I was at "A Teriyaki experience", it is a fast food place at the food court in the mall, and when you order, you get to see the chiefs cook the food in front of you. Well, there was a cute blonde chick waiting to get her food, and she was in front of me, meaning she would've gotten her food before me, so I couldn't use the line above. Her boyfriend was with her, and he left to go to the washroom or something, and I wanted to say something to her so bad! But i couldn't think of anything to say (this inspired me to make this post). What would you guys have said in this situation? Also, when her food was ready, she requested "extra sauce". I should've said something like: "of course you want extra sauce" in a sexual way. But I didn't think of that until like 5 hours later hahahaha. Damn me.

bookstore: wow, my head's going crazy. she replies, asking why? I reply: I don't know which book to choose. Leads to her telling me what books she likes, tells me what kind of person she is...can deep dive, why do you like that kind of book?

grocery store: tease her about what she's buying

beach: can't think of anything

2. A question about locking in - when approaching a girl on the street, and lets say, she's walking to work. Do you walk with her and talk to her at the same time, or is it better to get her to stop and then lean against a nearby building and continue talking to her. I think I already know the answer but whenever I talk to a girl, I think so much about the conversation that I forget to lock in and I'm afraid of losing her, so I just keep walking with her and then she goes into wherever she goes and I lose her but I'm scared that if I try to command her to stop and talk with me, she will say she's on a mission or what not. How should I go about locking in?

3. A question about sexual innuendo - How do you think of sexual things to say? I mean, today a girl was telling me that she was a biology scientist, and I was trying to think of something sexual to say, but I couldn't. Is thinking of sexual innuendo, just a matter of practice? (Maybe, when she was telling me that she was a scientist, instead of asking what kind, I should've said: "so what do you study? men's bodies?" that would be more like chase framing, I just sorta thought of that off the top of my head lol)

 

[PrettyDecent]

Hey Dern,

1. A quick question about situational openers. I've been approaching girls on the street and going direct but for the places where going situational would be more ideal... like the bookstore, coffee store, grocery store, and the beach. I find it hard to think of something situation appropriate to say. Like, going up to a girl and asking her if she is single, or complimenting her is way easier (for me) to do then observing the environment and saying something interesting about it.

Yeah, situational openers have subtleties to them that make them more complicated than being direct. In my opinion, the less 'situational-stimuli' and more 'we' statement, the better. Women are not interested in random factoids like men are. Situational statements should involve a 'we' statement, involve something emotional, or implicitly focus on her. You don't want her entertained by a topic. You want her attracted to you.

Was wondering if you guys could give me some lines to say to a girl in a bookstore, in a coffee store, in a grocery store, and on the beach.

You can come up with pre-meditated lines. But it would be better if you did it. It takes a few days of constantly thinking of witty, flirty statements to come up with them on the spot. It's its own individual skill you must practice on building.

2. A question about locking in - when approaching a girl on the street, and lets say, she's walking to work. Do you walk with her and talk to her at the same time, or is it better to get her to stop and then lean against a nearby building and continue talking to her. I think I already know the answer but whenever I talk to a girl, I think so much about the conversation that I forget to lock in and I'm afraid of losing her, so I just keep walking with her and then she goes into wherever she goes and I lose her but I'm scared that if I try to command her to stop and talk with me, she will say she's on a mission or what not. How should I go about locking in?

Ideally it's best to stop moving altogether, yes. It's pretty difficult if she must absolutely rush to be at work, but otherwise its solved by walking slower and slower with her until you both stop. Lock in if it's convenient. Probably better just to have her sit with you somewhere if there's a bench/park/restaurant around. You receive more investment by sitting somewhere than standing.

Jake