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Quick briefing on my current state: My main issues right now are getting myself to cold approach, close, and escalate. Feel like I'm afraid to shake up the boat. I've probably afraid to let my ego get hurt from potentially awkward situations. The worst/best part is, when I do break out of that shell and do something bold, it always goes okay and most often goes very well. I'm actually pretty smooth but afraid that when I get to asking a number or something else "bold" I'll show a crack in my still developing skills.
Now to the report. The other night I attended a dance performance on campus as requirement for a college class. As I walk in, I notice a cute girl and check her out eyes on her up and down basically. She seems familar and even says to me, "how is it that I always run into you?" But I can't remember where I've ever seen this girl and I say something like, ha I don't know! I almost give her a cold shoulder as I'm trying my best not to piss myself on the way to the bathroom and I figure I will catch up with her after I'm out. Well, one thing I have learned in this game is that opportunity is abundant but usually you get one chance with a girl. That was my chance, she was nowhere to be found.
So I find my way to the theatre and scope out the place for cuties or the mystery girl. (I want to remember an important point from this book called Undercover Sex Signals, it said when you enter a place, be aware of girls that are giving you subtle signs of interest and you will have a better rate of success with those girls! Great book) I sit down and figure I'm too far so I slide up a few rows and sit a seat away from a cute girl in pink.
I open her with something like, have you ever been to a school performance? Pretty sure I did the slow turn after she looked over with my body language minimally invested in her at the moment. She's warm and tells me no and we begin chatting about school and the play and how weird the theme is. It's a dance about buildings aparrently. She's cool and we are getting along. I make a point to deep dive, keep aware of what my body language is communicating and just be chill. She's leaning in to me, asking me questions and investing into the interaction. I can tell she is attracted.
The show started out normal will some construction workers tap dancing and then plunged deep in experimental and out there stuff. I thought it was interesting but not entertaining, there was a part where the dancers moved in a reppetative pattern for about 3 minutes without music... I can appreciate it, but I'd rather watch some Kpop style sexy dancing. One reason I want to dance more is the girls usually have killer bodies. One girl in the show had my eye and I was channeling the energy imagining meeting her and her body.
There was a intermission and I made sure to break the ice that came over causally. I think I'm very good at reading subtle social nuances. It makes me both smooth and weary of doing things wrong. Regardless things were still going great. She was leaning into me even more and I built compliance with her by having Google something on her phone for me, calling her "my assistant." Corny but I love establishing little role playing games, injects a lot of fun and callback humor.
Before the intermission I was debating on where I should ask her to join me for a walk at the lake at the intermission or after the show ends. I dislike interactions that are drawn out from a boring performance or class like this, I tend to get tired, and the vibe tends to fall and rise. I decided to wait til the end.
When the show ends I start to lose it. I ask her what she is up to now and she says she has a lot of school work to do and is pretty convincing. This throws me, it's Friday night wasn't expecting this. I didn't even think to ask for her number for a different time so I began ruminating how to work up to a smooth way to ask for her number. She also says bye which I ignore because we are walking together. Outside she says she is very cold, Which throws out my walk idea and I'm still wondering how to ask for her number. Dumb but this is my issue at the moment. It felt so off to say hey, we should hang out some time give me your number. Even though I bet you she would have gladly given it and not flaked on me either.
Looking back if I were to word it like this, "Hey Debrahlina-san right? You know what, I thought we had a fun conversation I wouldn't mind talking with you more sometime. What's your schedule like?" That would have been pretty smooth.
Id like to get over this whole smooth thing. I'm sure if I overcome my sticking points I will be cleaning up like a vacuum in a dust storm, but right now I've got to learn to be a caveman.
During one point, I thought it might be a good idea to move a set over next to her and caress her leg and get playful in the dark, as I was looking to bring her back to my car and want to work on just being bold in general.
Frustrated with myself, but I know I can overcome this. The last six months I've been locked up in my house under snow and now the sun is shining and everyone is outside again.
This summer is my summer.
-JW
Now to the report. The other night I attended a dance performance on campus as requirement for a college class. As I walk in, I notice a cute girl and check her out eyes on her up and down basically. She seems familar and even says to me, "how is it that I always run into you?" But I can't remember where I've ever seen this girl and I say something like, ha I don't know! I almost give her a cold shoulder as I'm trying my best not to piss myself on the way to the bathroom and I figure I will catch up with her after I'm out. Well, one thing I have learned in this game is that opportunity is abundant but usually you get one chance with a girl. That was my chance, she was nowhere to be found.
So I find my way to the theatre and scope out the place for cuties or the mystery girl. (I want to remember an important point from this book called Undercover Sex Signals, it said when you enter a place, be aware of girls that are giving you subtle signs of interest and you will have a better rate of success with those girls! Great book) I sit down and figure I'm too far so I slide up a few rows and sit a seat away from a cute girl in pink.
I open her with something like, have you ever been to a school performance? Pretty sure I did the slow turn after she looked over with my body language minimally invested in her at the moment. She's warm and tells me no and we begin chatting about school and the play and how weird the theme is. It's a dance about buildings aparrently. She's cool and we are getting along. I make a point to deep dive, keep aware of what my body language is communicating and just be chill. She's leaning in to me, asking me questions and investing into the interaction. I can tell she is attracted.
The show started out normal will some construction workers tap dancing and then plunged deep in experimental and out there stuff. I thought it was interesting but not entertaining, there was a part where the dancers moved in a reppetative pattern for about 3 minutes without music... I can appreciate it, but I'd rather watch some Kpop style sexy dancing. One reason I want to dance more is the girls usually have killer bodies. One girl in the show had my eye and I was channeling the energy imagining meeting her and her body.
There was a intermission and I made sure to break the ice that came over causally. I think I'm very good at reading subtle social nuances. It makes me both smooth and weary of doing things wrong. Regardless things were still going great. She was leaning into me even more and I built compliance with her by having Google something on her phone for me, calling her "my assistant." Corny but I love establishing little role playing games, injects a lot of fun and callback humor.
Before the intermission I was debating on where I should ask her to join me for a walk at the lake at the intermission or after the show ends. I dislike interactions that are drawn out from a boring performance or class like this, I tend to get tired, and the vibe tends to fall and rise. I decided to wait til the end.
When the show ends I start to lose it. I ask her what she is up to now and she says she has a lot of school work to do and is pretty convincing. This throws me, it's Friday night wasn't expecting this. I didn't even think to ask for her number for a different time so I began ruminating how to work up to a smooth way to ask for her number. She also says bye which I ignore because we are walking together. Outside she says she is very cold, Which throws out my walk idea and I'm still wondering how to ask for her number. Dumb but this is my issue at the moment. It felt so off to say hey, we should hang out some time give me your number. Even though I bet you she would have gladly given it and not flaked on me either.
Looking back if I were to word it like this, "Hey Debrahlina-san right? You know what, I thought we had a fun conversation I wouldn't mind talking with you more sometime. What's your schedule like?" That would have been pretty smooth.
Id like to get over this whole smooth thing. I'm sure if I overcome my sticking points I will be cleaning up like a vacuum in a dust storm, but right now I've got to learn to be a caveman.
During one point, I thought it might be a good idea to move a set over next to her and caress her leg and get playful in the dark, as I was looking to bring her back to my car and want to work on just being bold in general.
Frustrated with myself, but I know I can overcome this. The last six months I've been locked up in my house under snow and now the sun is shining and everyone is outside again.
This summer is my summer.
-JW
