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Prehistoric

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Everything happened very quickly.

I was coming home with the bus after a night out with friends. It was quite late, around midnight I'd say. Still the bus was full.

I am sitting close to the window when this pretty nice dark-skinned asian-looking woman sits close to me. I notice she has some funny shoes. I thought about making a remark, but was quite tired and and drunk so I thought "never mind".

I was almost falling asleep when I heard she telling me something:

her: "You know, I don't generally like this perfume (she names the brand), but on you it smells quite good"

I need 4-5 seconds to realise what's going on. Then I answer.

me: "I'm impressed, not many people recognise this brand"
her: "yeah well, I knew a guy who was using it but smelled horrible on him"
me: "haha. cool shoes by the way, I was noticing them before"
her: "yeah, I like colourful stuff"

(I noticed she had a strong accent)

me: "where are you from by the way?"
her: "from the Caribbean"
me: "nice, podemos hablar español"
her: "no I am from Barbados, we speak english there"
me: "never met somebody from there. how long have you been living in Europe?"
her: "around 3 years now"
me: "like it?"
her: "yes, I love it. this city especially! It's so free and open"
me: "yes I know, I just came back from a club and got hit on by a gay guy, which I am not used to in my hometown"
her: "haha, but surely that wasn't a problem, right?"
me: "no, obviously not.. I like girls but I am very liberal politically-speaking"

(here's the first missed chance. I could have said "I like girls, especially those from exotic countries" or something similar)

her: "haha"
me: "so coming back from a proper night out?"
her: "more or less. I was around drinking cocktails with my girlfriends. We also went to a gay bar now that you mentioned! What about you?"
me: "I also went out with a group of friends, was pretty nice"

(second missed chance. I could have said: "although they all wanted to go home quite early. I was hoping for some more action tonight" and then proposed to continue drinking together)

her: "hahah"
me: "by the way I am -Prehistoric-"
her: "nice to meet you, Prehistoric. I am -Rose-" (I don't even remember her real name, it was a very exotic one)
me: "that's a cool-sounding name"
her: "haha, yeah yours is not bad too! - oh s**t! was that my station. I lost it! I guess I'll have to get out at the next. I am on a group on Facebook. We met quite regularly and go out drinking, check it out"

(forgot the name of the group. man, was I tired and drunk)

me: "sounds cool. I'll look you up then"
her: "sure, repeat your name again sorry"
me: "Prehistoric"
her: "cool, bye!"


She basically did everything. Approached me and even give me a way to contact her (not an easy one but still).

I really felt like a dumba*s. Going to clubs and approaching 10 girls and pushing hard but getting caught with my guard off and doing jack-sh*t when a girl finally approaches me :)

Be ready, always!
 
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