..while I was reading some articles here today and stumbled upon this one: https://www.girlschase.com/content/girl- ... ited-girls
It completely blew my mind. Like literally, it described a girl I was recently with like 99% perfectly. I've had so many "problems" figuring her out that I pretty much gave up on anything, since it just didn't make any sense at all.. until I read this article. Now I understand why she acted the way she did, it all just started to make sense. Though I still have no idea what, if anything, I should do about it?
(Not so) short story: We met a year ago, didn't see each other till recently, found out we would go to same party for a weekend in June and ended up getting the same ride. I paid no attention to her, didn't think I had any chance with her and then she started chasing after me and got me to bed twice (without me doing literally anything). Agreed this would "not leave the party", back in town we didn't talk, invited her out for beer once when more ppl were around, she showed interested again (telling me she's home alone, staying longer than planned, going to bus station together), but I failed to close it and allowed neighbour to walk with us (since we would take same taxi). Didn't see her again for a while, she refused to meet with me or write back, I gave up on it, till we met again at party of our common friend, she ignored me till she drank a bit, started talking and we then she wouldn't let me away for the rest of the night. She asked me to leave party together, but then suddenly decided to take taxi home, I didn't let her and took the dominant role saying "you ain't going anywhere without me", which surprised her in a positive manner and later I told her I'd like to be friends with benefits with her, but she was reluctant, since she believed I'd fall in love with her, like all the guys before and it is always messed up because of that etc. - I promised her I wouldn't and we spent few more hours together (couldn't sleep together, both living at home, she didn't want to deal with "parents issue" in the morning - which kind of makes friends with benefits thingie useless, we cant sleep together since we are rarely home alone lmao).
After that she randomly came to some festival in town (I attended it on FB), I didn't know she would come, but suddenly my friend told me "hey looks who's behind you", she was standing literally 2 meters away from me, pretending she didn't know I was there (I'm a tall guy, like 6.3, so I stand out from the crowd, surely did there), went to say hi, talked a bit, but then she started talking to her friends and I was fine with that (but my friends told me she kept looking after me and every time I'd move, she'd try to find me and see where I was. Also heard her talking to the friend, while looking at me "but i don't know how to, i suck at this, im scared" - I always had feeling that she is more afraid that she feels too much about me rather than the other way around, since the way she is usually looking at me.. and the way she is acting while we are "together", it just reminds me of times when I was starting relationship with my ex, "the honeymoon phase".). But I had to leave party early, had job in the morning but she agreed she would "maybe come on weekend to some bday party", even though she wasnt invited I asked her to come.
I texted her then on weekend for that bday party, she said she cant come, has to work till midnight, but might come to the after-party, so that was it then for me, whatever. BUT, she still showed up for the bday party, few hours before midnight (she knew some other ppl, she came and ignored me, didnt even say hi, but said (loudly) that she will have to go back to work later to finish some deal and come back afterwards again). When she came back 2nd time, I said hi to her and we talked and had nice time for the rest of night, we moved later to some club and she would just stand there smoking, I got bored and went inside with another girl friend of mine, we danced and noticed that immediately few minutes after that, she came inside also, saying that she just wanted to hear the song (you could hear the song from outside just as well), she left back inside along with us, so that was that.. she left the place then, since she had to work next day, but said "see you soon, we seem to meet often lately anyway" - something I'd not expect from her, even though it probably meant nothing, since we dont text/talk/go out or make plans together ever.
Now, didnt see her since, didnt talk to her since, i think about her every now and then, but in general i was like "i dont care, dont have time for this since she doesnt know what she wants". I still feel that way, I dont have special feelings for her since i dont know her on personal level that well, since we dont really talk, but still i'd be open to getting to know her better.. though as I said, she is "Shy excited" type of girl and apparently best is to let them chase. Should I just live on and let things take their own course? Or is there literally anything at all that I can do?
If anyone has any sort of advice or whatever, let me know please
Much appreciated!
BR
It completely blew my mind. Like literally, it described a girl I was recently with like 99% perfectly. I've had so many "problems" figuring her out that I pretty much gave up on anything, since it just didn't make any sense at all.. until I read this article. Now I understand why she acted the way she did, it all just started to make sense. Though I still have no idea what, if anything, I should do about it?
(Not so) short story: We met a year ago, didn't see each other till recently, found out we would go to same party for a weekend in June and ended up getting the same ride. I paid no attention to her, didn't think I had any chance with her and then she started chasing after me and got me to bed twice (without me doing literally anything). Agreed this would "not leave the party", back in town we didn't talk, invited her out for beer once when more ppl were around, she showed interested again (telling me she's home alone, staying longer than planned, going to bus station together), but I failed to close it and allowed neighbour to walk with us (since we would take same taxi). Didn't see her again for a while, she refused to meet with me or write back, I gave up on it, till we met again at party of our common friend, she ignored me till she drank a bit, started talking and we then she wouldn't let me away for the rest of the night. She asked me to leave party together, but then suddenly decided to take taxi home, I didn't let her and took the dominant role saying "you ain't going anywhere without me", which surprised her in a positive manner and later I told her I'd like to be friends with benefits with her, but she was reluctant, since she believed I'd fall in love with her, like all the guys before and it is always messed up because of that etc. - I promised her I wouldn't and we spent few more hours together (couldn't sleep together, both living at home, she didn't want to deal with "parents issue" in the morning - which kind of makes friends with benefits thingie useless, we cant sleep together since we are rarely home alone lmao).
After that she randomly came to some festival in town (I attended it on FB), I didn't know she would come, but suddenly my friend told me "hey looks who's behind you", she was standing literally 2 meters away from me, pretending she didn't know I was there (I'm a tall guy, like 6.3, so I stand out from the crowd, surely did there), went to say hi, talked a bit, but then she started talking to her friends and I was fine with that (but my friends told me she kept looking after me and every time I'd move, she'd try to find me and see where I was. Also heard her talking to the friend, while looking at me "but i don't know how to, i suck at this, im scared" - I always had feeling that she is more afraid that she feels too much about me rather than the other way around, since the way she is usually looking at me.. and the way she is acting while we are "together", it just reminds me of times when I was starting relationship with my ex, "the honeymoon phase".). But I had to leave party early, had job in the morning but she agreed she would "maybe come on weekend to some bday party", even though she wasnt invited I asked her to come.
I texted her then on weekend for that bday party, she said she cant come, has to work till midnight, but might come to the after-party, so that was it then for me, whatever. BUT, she still showed up for the bday party, few hours before midnight (she knew some other ppl, she came and ignored me, didnt even say hi, but said (loudly) that she will have to go back to work later to finish some deal and come back afterwards again). When she came back 2nd time, I said hi to her and we talked and had nice time for the rest of night, we moved later to some club and she would just stand there smoking, I got bored and went inside with another girl friend of mine, we danced and noticed that immediately few minutes after that, she came inside also, saying that she just wanted to hear the song (you could hear the song from outside just as well), she left back inside along with us, so that was that.. she left the place then, since she had to work next day, but said "see you soon, we seem to meet often lately anyway" - something I'd not expect from her, even though it probably meant nothing, since we dont text/talk/go out or make plans together ever.
Now, didnt see her since, didnt talk to her since, i think about her every now and then, but in general i was like "i dont care, dont have time for this since she doesnt know what she wants". I still feel that way, I dont have special feelings for her since i dont know her on personal level that well, since we dont really talk, but still i'd be open to getting to know her better.. though as I said, she is "Shy excited" type of girl and apparently best is to let them chase. Should I just live on and let things take their own course? Or is there literally anything at all that I can do?
If anyone has any sort of advice or whatever, let me know please
Much appreciated!BR
