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Went out to the bars tonight, was fully sober since I had to drive, didn’t want to deal with bullshit cops.
Spent 2-2.5 hours roughly in the bar, 2 levels, 2nd floor kind of a club vibe but not really.
My outfit was black t shirt, black jeans, white sneakers, gold chain, 2 gold rings, and a bracelet. Pretty simple but no one really dresses up for this bar(some people wear the typical frat outfit, khaki shorts at the bar).
Went with 2 friends, one was talking with the other girls, the other one was kind of quiet tbh.
For reference, I’m an average height Indian with heavier stubble, 21 years old, nice lean muscular build.
First approach of the night, got shooed away immediately, didn’t let it deter me.
Approached a few more girls with the “you stole my outfit opener” a couple rejected me on the opener, most bantered a bit but went nowhere.
My main question is how to escalate in loud bars without dancing, I can escalate with dancing, but it doesn’t seem as effective in these venues. The girls hanging around and talking seems to be a strong indicator of potential interest, idt my game is that bad.
However, it could be much improved obviously.
As an average height Indian, I’d have to say I’m proud of myself for hooking multiple blonde girls taller than me, and keeping in the interaction for long, I think both had interest at some points.
Only thing is brunettes are more my type hahaha.
Any feedback would be appreciated.
Spent 2-2.5 hours roughly in the bar, 2 levels, 2nd floor kind of a club vibe but not really.
My outfit was black t shirt, black jeans, white sneakers, gold chain, 2 gold rings, and a bracelet. Pretty simple but no one really dresses up for this bar(some people wear the typical frat outfit, khaki shorts at the bar).
Went with 2 friends, one was talking with the other girls, the other one was kind of quiet tbh.
For reference, I’m an average height Indian with heavier stubble, 21 years old, nice lean muscular build.
First approach of the night, got shooed away immediately, didn’t let it deter me.
Saw a blonde chick taller than me waiting at the bar, almost didn’t even go up to her, I thought she wouldn’t give me the time of the day.
I was wrong however, my opener was “I think you stole my outfit!” Created some flirty banter between us, vibes were good.
Found out she wasn’t drinking tonight either, she put herself down, by saying she was lame. I teased her while building her up, I said “don’t sell yourself short of being lame, come on now, I mean you probably are” she found it funny.
Since we were both sober, we connected on that.
We talked in each others ear, held hands a bit, I spun her around for physical escalation.
Eventually, her friend wandered off and she and her other friend had to find her.
I was wrong however, my opener was “I think you stole my outfit!” Created some flirty banter between us, vibes were good.
Found out she wasn’t drinking tonight either, she put herself down, by saying she was lame. I teased her while building her up, I said “don’t sell yourself short of being lame, come on now, I mean you probably are” she found it funny.
Since we were both sober, we connected on that.
We talked in each others ear, held hands a bit, I spun her around for physical escalation.
Eventually, her friend wandered off and she and her other friend had to find her.
Tbh, this girl and her friend joined my group dancing, another blonde taller than me.
Told her I liked her vibe, made playful banter with the outfit opener, talked to her for a bit, not really a deep dive.
Tried spinning her around to dance a couple of times, I spun her around but she let go of my hand.
Eventually one of her friends was falling over drunk, so she had to take care of her.
Tried getting her number, she said it was pointless because she’s not from the area.
Told her I liked her vibe, made playful banter with the outfit opener, talked to her for a bit, not really a deep dive.
Tried spinning her around to dance a couple of times, I spun her around but she let go of my hand.
Eventually one of her friends was falling over drunk, so she had to take care of her.
Tried getting her number, she said it was pointless because she’s not from the area.
Approached a few more girls with the “you stole my outfit opener” a couple rejected me on the opener, most bantered a bit but went nowhere.
Saw a blonde and brunette sitting down, I asked them if they were watching the fight, they said no, I said I didn’t understand fighting much either.
Blonde had found her guy for the night, so I focused my attention to the brunette.
Had some fun flirty banter with her, called her a baby event though she was older than me(that was funny).
Eventually she told me that the blonde had found her guy for the night.
I think I fucked up when I said “hey you might’ve found your guy for the night as well” putting her on the spot.
After that I pretty much lost her, she wasn’t really talking to me, so I left.
Blonde had found her guy for the night, so I focused my attention to the brunette.
Had some fun flirty banter with her, called her a baby event though she was older than me(that was funny).
Eventually she told me that the blonde had found her guy for the night.
I think I fucked up when I said “hey you might’ve found your guy for the night as well” putting her on the spot.
After that I pretty much lost her, she wasn’t really talking to me, so I left.
My main question is how to escalate in loud bars without dancing, I can escalate with dancing, but it doesn’t seem as effective in these venues. The girls hanging around and talking seems to be a strong indicator of potential interest, idt my game is that bad.
However, it could be much improved obviously.
As an average height Indian, I’d have to say I’m proud of myself for hooking multiple blonde girls taller than me, and keeping in the interaction for long, I think both had interest at some points.
Only thing is brunettes are more my type hahaha.
Any feedback would be appreciated.
