Hey guys.
I could definitely use your advice on how to approach this girl I have had my eye on for a long time now. She works at her family’s specialty market store. When I first saw her, it was some 7 years ago. She was still in high school, about to graduate. I was 29. Naturally, I didn’t do anything because I didn’t want to end up in jail. Now, many years later at 24, she’s back in our little small town of 28,000, helping to run the family market. I‘m 36, so there’s definitely an age difference.
I have no idea if she is even interested in me. I’m a dude, so I will always assume the best, that she likes me. I have noticed these possible indicators-of-interest:
• Just last week, I was walking down the aisle at her store, looking at the shelves when something caught my eye. It’s that feeling you get when you someone watches you without you knowing. I looked up to see her watching me. Knowing she got caught she looked back down and towards her customers who were just chit-chatting from across the counter, deciding what they want to buy.
• She hardly ever makes small talk with me. I’ve tried on several occasions, and they hardly go beyond the perfunctory, “How do you do?” I noticed she does talk more with other customers. This may not mean anything or it could be something. I am reminded of what Chase wrote, saying that if a girl has the hots for you, she will be too nervous to flirt with you. So, maybe she has the hots for me and is too nervous to talk to me. I remember hitting on this girl one time. At the time, she was looking down, seemingly oblivious to everything around her. My friend nudged me to approach, and I did. She instantly lit up. So, my friend knows how to read interest. I just suck at it.
But I have some reservations about approaching her.
• The age difference. I have heard that her family is very traditional and religious as one of my friends is dating her sister and, even after 5 years, will still not allow her to spend the night at his place. And that’s the extra rub: Usually the parents or some other family friend/member are almost always there at the shop with her, making me feel awkward about approaching her and feeling her out for a date. With the age difference, I’m also concerned they will think I’m a creepy pervert, going after their daughter. (But you can’t blame a guy for liking them young!)
• She may already have a boyfriend. I just don’t know but not atypical, given the high number of guys-to-girls in my town. Some estimates put it at 10-to-1.
• The market is a specialty store and one-of-a-kind in the small town where I live. I am afraid that if she shoots me down or the parents know what I am trying to do that I will be too embarrassed to go back and shop there ever again. I can’t go anywhere else to get the same items, unless I drive 3+ hours.
So, what would you guys do in a situation like this? Thanks.
I could definitely use your advice on how to approach this girl I have had my eye on for a long time now. She works at her family’s specialty market store. When I first saw her, it was some 7 years ago. She was still in high school, about to graduate. I was 29. Naturally, I didn’t do anything because I didn’t want to end up in jail. Now, many years later at 24, she’s back in our little small town of 28,000, helping to run the family market. I‘m 36, so there’s definitely an age difference.
I have no idea if she is even interested in me. I’m a dude, so I will always assume the best, that she likes me. I have noticed these possible indicators-of-interest:
• Just last week, I was walking down the aisle at her store, looking at the shelves when something caught my eye. It’s that feeling you get when you someone watches you without you knowing. I looked up to see her watching me. Knowing she got caught she looked back down and towards her customers who were just chit-chatting from across the counter, deciding what they want to buy.
• She hardly ever makes small talk with me. I’ve tried on several occasions, and they hardly go beyond the perfunctory, “How do you do?” I noticed she does talk more with other customers. This may not mean anything or it could be something. I am reminded of what Chase wrote, saying that if a girl has the hots for you, she will be too nervous to flirt with you. So, maybe she has the hots for me and is too nervous to talk to me. I remember hitting on this girl one time. At the time, she was looking down, seemingly oblivious to everything around her. My friend nudged me to approach, and I did. She instantly lit up. So, my friend knows how to read interest. I just suck at it.
But I have some reservations about approaching her.
• The age difference. I have heard that her family is very traditional and religious as one of my friends is dating her sister and, even after 5 years, will still not allow her to spend the night at his place. And that’s the extra rub: Usually the parents or some other family friend/member are almost always there at the shop with her, making me feel awkward about approaching her and feeling her out for a date. With the age difference, I’m also concerned they will think I’m a creepy pervert, going after their daughter. (But you can’t blame a guy for liking them young!)
• She may already have a boyfriend. I just don’t know but not atypical, given the high number of guys-to-girls in my town. Some estimates put it at 10-to-1.
• The market is a specialty store and one-of-a-kind in the small town where I live. I am afraid that if she shoots me down or the parents know what I am trying to do that I will be too embarrassed to go back and shop there ever again. I can’t go anywhere else to get the same items, unless I drive 3+ hours.
So, what would you guys do in a situation like this? Thanks.
