Tuesday, February 10, 2016
Yo guys! Hope you're all slaying well.
This happened after I got off work Tuesday. Just got a new job and it's awesome - been having great hours and learning a lot there.
So I get off around 1 in the morning, walking with my co-worker on the way home, just bullshittin'. Get a block away from our houses when we see a three people walking across the street in our direction. We're waiting at the corner and as they pass they say something, can't really remember right now I was kinda' drunk haha. My friend launches into a story and talks to the two guys in the groups. The girl of the group is then paired off with me and she starts talking to me.
I notice right off the back she has attraction, but I'm not really into it right then. So I decide to play with it a bit and just laser eyes her continously. Just basically listening to her and sexy smiling the entire time. She starts to get more attracted and I start participating in the conversation more. Really little work on my part, just basically really strong eye-contact and smiles. I start to touch her a bit and she's reciprocating.
The group invites us over to their place and we're like sure. Talking to her a bit more and find out she's 40. Lolwut. Cougarrrr. She asks me my age and I say 22 haha. We get to talking about photography and I start to click with her more.
We get to their place and pour some more shots. First thing I notice is that there is NO WHERE to pull her. Their place is small. Was thinking later of the bathroom but didn't think of it in the moment haha. Gotta' start thinking of weird logistics. Now I start to do some of my patented physical drunk game. Wrapping her arms around me, getting close to her face and not wavering eye contact, my hands on her lower back. We talk like this some more and she tells me about her past a bit.
I'm wondering if she's with either of the two dudes there, but I decide she's not. I move in to kiss her and she makes out with me a bit. All of this in front of everyone by the way, but they're drunk so they can see but really don't care. Matter-a-fact I don't really care because I can't pull her anyways and don't know if I even want to see her again after this, basically treating it like a reference experience. We get to talking about piercings, ask her if she has any and tells me she has nipple piercings. Tell her to show me in a commanding but curious voice and she does HAHA. Talk some more and it feels like I missed an escalation window because she starts pulling back more. This happens slowly through the night. She has these arm sleeve things on so I pull one of them up to reveal some cuts on her arm. Huge turn off here, I do not like people who cut themselves. I think it shows low self esteem. Anyways we talk for a bit more then she heads to the bathroom. This is where she's pretty much no longer horny I figure and we start making plans to head out. Around now it's like 4 in the morning. I talk to one of the other guys who is actually pretty cool about the whole thing, and pretty cool himself. Eventually we head out, before I do I tell her to come over. Tell her to show me her nipple piercing just to see if she will. She does and I move down and lick it a bit. Tell her, "Now we're gonna' make out and kiss her for 2 seconds before she pulls away. Start laughing at the weirdness of this night and we leave. As we walk my co-worker and I start laughing, me and my co-worker bullshitting on the way home how it was really entertaining.
Things I learned:
-Eye contact is POWERFUL. Basically got her more and more attracted by just staring at her not caring. Gonna' try this way more. Just gotta' calibrate to shyer girls who look away a lot.
-Opportunities always present themselves. Totally didn't expect to make out with a girl like 20 years older than me haha.
-I might need to start screening girls. This girl totally flipped script near the end, when at first I just thought she was passionate, she turned out to be kinda' crazy haha.
-Alwys be thinking of logistics. Should've thought of pulling her into the bathroom or something.
-Aggressive girls throw me off right now. Wasn't ready to get hit on that hard and that kinda' shook my frame.
-Noticed she was the one seeding pulls and it was odd. When I said I was a cook she said, "Oh I have a spice you should try!" Then when I said I do photography she was like, "We should take pictures together!" Crazy how I can see this stuff now
-Properly calibrated aggression and commanding tones are great. Definitely don't do this enough when I'm sober.
Brought my confidence up a bunch, not much detail because it was really straightforward and I was drunk haha.
Jake.
Thurdsay, February 12, 2016
Yo guys.
Not been doing as much daygame/approaching as I'd like, but I'm noticing a lot of things about my opens and shit that warrant me not doing my challenge just yet. Think I'll save doing 100 approaches for when I have a real sticking point I can't get over. Anyways!~
Woke up, was thinking of wearing my sexy red shirt that I love but it had a grease stain so I decided not to. Instead wore a white shirt, black vest, brown belt with my brown monkstrap brogues. Shirt buttoned down two buttons with a necklace, I thought it was a killer outfit. It was.
Head out and around 4PM and didn't really do any daygame at all. I head to a campus and see some old friends there. Always forget I know people/see people I know everytime I go. I bullshit with them, one of them is working at a front desk and I just make fun conversation. Tell my friend to go ask girls to be his valentine. He does a few but he's an awkward guy so they don't get the jokey vibe of it all. I see a girl I know and ask her and it's great, funny. go to a club that I'm apart of there but I don't go to school there right now. It's fun, chill, I get a workout in as well
Afterwards, me and my friend Fluffy tell some people to meet up at a country club we go to on Thursdays. We've got a few people from the club - two girls, and two other girls that we've been hanging with. One of them is a chubber but the other one is decently cute. They'll play a more important part later.
So we give one of the girls from the school club a ride to the place, the other goes home to shower and get ready. We start pregaming, making drinks in the back of Fluffy's car and shit haha. It's fun and we grab some food then head over.
I get in and it's a pretty good night. A lot of people and I think I'll approach a few. Don't feel like mass approaching like I should but I've been in a really playful mood all day. We see the other two girls we invited and sit with them. The cute one is on a date with some guy she doesn't like, the bigger one is with her fiance. I get his name and all that and find out how she's not interested, which might explain her flirty behavior later on in the night.
There's a chair missing for me so I swing around and ask these two girls if I can use theirs. They light up actually and I get her name. Biggest thing for me right now is moving things forward and not just approaching! grab a chair and chat a bit, and then go dance.
At this point I'm pretty lit so I'm just dancing, not really caring at all. They take a break from line dance country for like 20 minutes of club music so I'm dancing however I want then. I get opened by this cute lesbian girl that's there with her girlfriend. She's the feminine one and starts dancing with me. Why do I always get hit on/am attracted to lesbian girls??? She dances for a bit but then stops and I'm like whatever. Keep dancing.
Later in the night it's hot as hell so we go stand by the fan. I open this girl by saying "YOU'RE BLLOCKING THE FAN" All loud and obvious like. She spreads her arms and stands there, so I take that as an invitation: grab her by the hips and move her away from it. She moves back into place but doesn't reject my touch: I think I'm in. Then Fluffy starts talking to her and kinda' cockblocks me, not intentional, he's just making conversation. I turn and talk to the girls that we brought from the school club. How do you drag someone out of a conversation and draw their attention back to you?
We're still standing by the fan. These two girls walk by and Fluffy's like, "Bro that's you" I say, "I got this" and go for the best intentionally awkward opener ever. I go up to them really awkward, but communicating with my eyes that I'm not and go for a hi five. As she reaches for it I kinda' pull back and lean back. She starts laughing, the friend walks away and I say "Just kidding" and hug her, asking her what her name is. This all happened within 5 seconds and is probably one of my best openers. I definitely dragged her in to me and started asking her questions. Kinda' lost my train of though and she walked off. We see the two girls(I'll call them A Girls, and the ones from school club B girls to avoid further confusion haha), A girls playing pool with their dates. We go talk to them and CuteOne is being really flirt in front of her date. She isn't feeling him at all haha. I flirt with her and just do eye contact with her, not talking with her about real shit too much. This goes on for a bit, eventually we have to take B girls home so we start to head out. CuteOne wants us to come over to chill and have "dinner". It's like 2AM haha. So we're like sure, chill, and take the girls home.
We head over to their place and apparently CuteOne's date has to be at the airport at 5. Well shit, I'm not sleeping now. We get to drinking and CuteOne's date goes for a power nap. We're talking and shit and then the bigger one breaks out a hash pen. We're like, alright let's get high and drunk as fuck. I'm making eyes with CuteOne. Don't know if she's flirting with me to make dude jealous or just because she's into it. Guess I'll find out.
So speeding through, we take dude to the airport. Me and Fluffy are SMASHED and are just laughing, giggling in the car, making conversation and raging in the backseat. We take the liquor with us on the way over, one mixed drink and some tequila, and are switching back and forth like 6 times, just getting progressively more destroyed. We head back, whole trip took like an hour. We get back and we're all tired. CuteOne goes to her bed and I just get in with her like it's totally natural for friends to sleep in the same bed. Don't make any moves on her, I try to make it a conscious effort not to do that when I get drunk so I don't go overboard, but I do cuddle her and use my bedroom voice a lot. Don't know if I should've made a move or not, What do ya'll think? Friends don't sleep in the same bed, but I'm really drunk and high so not a good idea I think. Anyways just spooning her and I pass out, it's 6:30 AM and I sleep 'till 5PM. Damn. They left us the keys so we could walk ourselves out. Dope
. Fluffy's late and still drunk so I drive him to get food and drop him and his car off at his work. Head home and type this shit up real quick so I can head back out and find something to do haha.
Lessons:
-Opening is so easy. Just do it! Say anything.
-I need to push interactions, need to start getting them to move and getting compliance. That's my next step.
-Eye contact is becoming my favorite thing to do. Love that shit.
-Just smile and you'll get away with murder. No one wants to kill the fun.
-Girls will make dudes jealous for no reason. Don't look into it either end you're on. Although I don't know how I feel about CuteOne just yet.
-Don't give two fucks. No one cares.
Positives:
-Eye contact getting stronger. Starting to be able to read signals from other's eye contact. It's like a whole nother language.
-I'm awesome.
-You guys are awesome.
Next time,
Jake.
