Some questions on intrigue/games, groups, and calling...

[The Byronic Man]

1. If a good relationship with a girls is based on open communication and trust, then why do we play games like building intrigue by not fully communicating? I would think that by not answering questions, you are encouraging game-playing.

2. Is intrigue only recommended in 1-on-1 interactions? When hanging out with a bunch of friends or at a party, I take it it's time to be talkative and rather than build intrigue, right?

3. If a girl and I are texting back and forth, would it be weird to suddenly call her? I feel like this may be breaking some comfort (she trusted you understand to keep things on a textual level until she actually wanted to talk on the phone), but I can also see an exception where you two are really hitting it off with the text messages and you just had to talk to her.

 

[Thedoctor]

Ass Burgers,

First off, I gotta ask what made you choose that name? Cause i imagine some of the good folks on here may not take you seriously.

But here's my take on your questions:

1) You're getting two different stages confused. Building intrigue is something you do initially as you start getting to know someone. As the relationship progresses, obviously more things will come to light and you start with the open communication and trust you were talking about. Although it still important to maintain some intrigue to maintain her interest in you. I wouldn't exactly call that "game-playing". You're just making yourself more appealing to the girl you love (assuming of course that you do).

2) Everyone likes intrigue. Try to make it part of your personality. If you fully disclose everything, why would someone still be interested in getting to know you? So, yes, still do it in group settings. You can be talkative AND intriguing at the same time

3) I wouldn't recommend calling when you're texting. I'd recommend this article:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-text-girl
In it, Chase explains that you use texting for setting up dates, not getting into long-winded conversations that lead nowhere.

-Doc

 

[The Byronic Man]

I gotta ask what made you choose that name? Cause i imagine some of the good folks on here may not take you seriously.

Fair question. I have Asperger's, and it was my way of saying I will kick its butt. But I see your point, so will look into changing it.

Thanks for answering my questions!