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Hello,
I know that some of the members here are probably older(wiser) than i am. Here are just some of the cautions you have to take into considerations, and i see this first hand.
1) Be prepared for while the child might not accept your family, at first or at all.
Yes, the child might allow you to marry his mum, but the child doesn't feel warm up yet to the family. Don't force him. YOu are not like your parents. You need to learn this. Let things grow, but gradual.
2) Be prepared for while the family is always revolved around them and their interest.
Your wife and children are always together, unless your wife doesn't really care about her children or they are grown up, This happens.
3) How your wife treat your children, you must be wary
Sometimes your wife might talk down to you, because it's the way she handles children. IT's not she's bad, She gets carried away at times.
4) Her ex family might still be around/She might talk about them and glorify them
IF her ex husband family is an accommodating family, you will tend to hear her talking about them and how they treated her at times. This sounds, It's like you a nice guy and hearing how she got shagged by someone in London and you not getting the job done. So yea, you get what i mean. It's not she's mean(you can label her that if you want), Feelings can carry people away, and thus make comparisons.
and you should know this, probably.
Drama/Personality Clashes between everyone do happen. Do note, this extends further when your girl is a party girl. I have seen so much personality clashes, i think i experience enough to note this.
Zac
I know that some of the members here are probably older(wiser) than i am. Here are just some of the cautions you have to take into considerations, and i see this first hand.
1) Be prepared for while the child might not accept your family, at first or at all.
Yes, the child might allow you to marry his mum, but the child doesn't feel warm up yet to the family. Don't force him. YOu are not like your parents. You need to learn this. Let things grow, but gradual.
2) Be prepared for while the family is always revolved around them and their interest.
Your wife and children are always together, unless your wife doesn't really care about her children or they are grown up, This happens.
3) How your wife treat your children, you must be wary
Sometimes your wife might talk down to you, because it's the way she handles children. IT's not she's bad, She gets carried away at times.
4) Her ex family might still be around/She might talk about them and glorify them
IF her ex husband family is an accommodating family, you will tend to hear her talking about them and how they treated her at times. This sounds, It's like you a nice guy and hearing how she got shagged by someone in London and you not getting the job done. So yea, you get what i mean. It's not she's mean(you can label her that if you want), Feelings can carry people away, and thus make comparisons.
and you should know this, probably.
Drama/Personality Clashes between everyone do happen. Do note, this extends further when your girl is a party girl. I have seen so much personality clashes, i think i experience enough to note this.Zac
