Hi guys,
So… I kind of get in a sticky situation late night at the end of my shift at the job. A wonderful girl that I noticed coming at our events on a regular basis was there. This time, she was part of our partner's staff (in charge of the logistic). the opportunity was great: she was there alone, ahead of the rest of the team, so I decided to ask her out.
Unfortunately, I never had a real good chance to do so. Earlier, she was stressed out, so even if we had a great exchange (she was clearly very interested) in the elevator (I deep dive her quickly), the mood wasn't quit there (always ask on a high point remember?) and she was overbusy with plenty of people around soon after.
STILL, I managed to come say good bye at the end of my shift (just before their event start) and she told me that we will meet again soon for a next event. I know, for sure, that it was a cue from her part to make me aware that she was interested.
Not ideal, I guess I could have ask her out anyway. But honestly, hard to tell if that was the thing to do. She wasn't that much emotionally available for that, very nervous and stressed for her first event to organize (and later, with guest and coworkers around, not very good either).
On the other hand, hesitation is bad. Waiting for the next event? In a week at best or worst, THEIR next event, on october. Seriously? Too long, too risky, I would come across as weak… well, worst, I will come across as average.
So I choose to go for the bold move: I send an email.
Ok, I know, e-mail aren't great to ask a girl out. But that's all I've got from her: no number.
Here's the text:
Hi M.
Waking up this morning, I realized that I don't wanna wait for the next event to see you again. So I invite you saturday or sunday for a drink or a coffee. I want to discover you and learn about you under that bright sun not promised by the meteo.
If you tempted by the adventure, call me.
Orelfius.
Sound a little bit chasing? Well, yes, may be. But I'm not chasing: I keep asking around other girls too and I'm taking the bet that what I really do feel will shows more in the long run. Also, this girl is not an experienced player, but a shy girls who doesn't go out in bar and club. So I guess she won't play too much game with me. With a chickplayer, I guess I would be screwed, but it's not the case here.
But more important than anything else: What do I have to loose?
Waiting for the next event is risky too. So all thing considered, I'm betting that the boldness of the move the next day will make up for the "chasing" colour of it.
… and may be more important than everything else: trying this, will result to some new experience, some new references points that will help me in the future even if it doesn't work with that specific girl.
What's your thoughts on that guys?
So… I kind of get in a sticky situation late night at the end of my shift at the job. A wonderful girl that I noticed coming at our events on a regular basis was there. This time, she was part of our partner's staff (in charge of the logistic). the opportunity was great: she was there alone, ahead of the rest of the team, so I decided to ask her out.
Unfortunately, I never had a real good chance to do so. Earlier, she was stressed out, so even if we had a great exchange (she was clearly very interested) in the elevator (I deep dive her quickly), the mood wasn't quit there (always ask on a high point remember?) and she was overbusy with plenty of people around soon after.
STILL, I managed to come say good bye at the end of my shift (just before their event start) and she told me that we will meet again soon for a next event. I know, for sure, that it was a cue from her part to make me aware that she was interested.
Not ideal, I guess I could have ask her out anyway. But honestly, hard to tell if that was the thing to do. She wasn't that much emotionally available for that, very nervous and stressed for her first event to organize (and later, with guest and coworkers around, not very good either).
On the other hand, hesitation is bad. Waiting for the next event? In a week at best or worst, THEIR next event, on october. Seriously? Too long, too risky, I would come across as weak… well, worst, I will come across as average.
So I choose to go for the bold move: I send an email.
Ok, I know, e-mail aren't great to ask a girl out. But that's all I've got from her: no number.
Here's the text:
Hi M.
Waking up this morning, I realized that I don't wanna wait for the next event to see you again. So I invite you saturday or sunday for a drink or a coffee. I want to discover you and learn about you under that bright sun not promised by the meteo.
If you tempted by the adventure, call me.
Orelfius.
Sound a little bit chasing? Well, yes, may be. But I'm not chasing: I keep asking around other girls too and I'm taking the bet that what I really do feel will shows more in the long run. Also, this girl is not an experienced player, but a shy girls who doesn't go out in bar and club. So I guess she won't play too much game with me. With a chickplayer, I guess I would be screwed, but it's not the case here.
But more important than anything else: What do I have to loose?
Waiting for the next event is risky too. So all thing considered, I'm betting that the boldness of the move the next day will make up for the "chasing" colour of it.
… and may be more important than everything else: trying this, will result to some new experience, some new references points that will help me in the future even if it doesn't work with that specific girl.
What's your thoughts on that guys?
