Speed Dating

[Estate]

Hey guys,
So not really wanting to get into the Pro's and Con's of speed dating, it's not really my thing. But a female friend asked me this weekend if I'd go with her for moral support.
I was forwarded a very long email by a local Professionals Networking group with is running the event.

From what i can gather the events sell out for women but lack men. The group took a survey of attending women who they are looking for, below are the results:

Profiles:
A 35-39 year old with a bachelors degree who is employed working 40 or more hours per week.
A Foodie with a graduate degree who is employed working 40 or more hours per week
A Black or African American who is not religious and who is employed working 40 or more hours per week
A Black or African American Christian Democrat (x2)
An 35-39 year old white democrat.
A democrat with a graduate degree who is employed working 40 or more hours per week.
A white, independant Christian
A 26-30 year old with a bachelors degree who is employed working 40 or more hours per week.
A 31-34 year old athlete who is employed working 40 or more hours per week.
A white guy who has a bachelors degree and is employed working 40 or more hours per week.
A 26-30 year old guy who is not religious and has a bachelor degree
A white, nonreligious democrat

To me this all sounds bizarre. It basically all comes down to money and status. Nothing else.
I can only assume these are the specific requirements of each woman in attendance so I don't even see the point of the speed-dating. The group is looking for a single male who matches each womans profile. Therefore, wouldn't it just make sense to set each up on a blind date? Woman 1 would not even be interested in speaking to a guy who was matched for Woman 7 or 8 or 9 or whatever. Kinda defeats the purpose.

I was just wondering if you guys had any thoughts on what this says. To me it just tells me why these women are single, there are looking for something so specific they wouldn't even give something else a chance.
I'm tempted to go for laughs but I'd be mortified to date a woman I met at such an event.

Just found this kinda funny.

 

[PinotNoir]

This may sound cruel, but nowadays I tend to not listen to what a women says that she wants and instead look at her actions.

This is something that I first learned reading GC articles, and it's a hard concept to get ingrained. I still get hung up on what women say sometimes, and I end up getting burned.

Now, I'm not saying don't listen to a girl and/or forget her words. I am only referring to key things, such as what she wants in a man. People change all the time, and when being put on the spot, she may just say the first thing that comes to mind or describe the last man that she dated or describe her favorite actor. The same is true for men.

A girl told me that she likes strong men, and that I am too weak and skinny to be her type. I ended up dating her.

A girl told me that she only dates Christians. I ended up dating her.

Heck, a girl told me that she's a lesbian (I have a post on it in the forums). I ended up dating her. I fucked up on the 1st date and tried to be too much of a nice guy and of fulfilling the boyfriend role (counter to her expectations and our first meeting when we kissed randomly in a bar). If I hadn't fucked up, I guarantee that we would be in a relationship right now, or at least have had sex.

When a woman tells you this stuff, just laugh and keep going.

As far as speed dating, I'd love to try it, but never have. Let me know if it's worth it, and I may try it in my neighborhood.

 

[The Byronic Man]

In my experience, when women talk about what they look for in a man, they usually are describing what they think are the attributes of her ideal man. In other words, she is making assumptions about...or stereotyping...her ideal man.