Standards for Girls vs Honest Wanderlust?

[TheEcho]

Hey all!

It's something we all hear about, having standards for girls makes you more attractive, but what about if you're genuinely attracted to a ton of things? I strongly embody Sagittarius traits (my lone tattoo is a half-sleeve focused around an arrow) and in line with that, my curiosity leads me to find "value" in most people. Sure I have cutoffs for attractiveness and craziness, but I'm as down for an emo girl, as a book worm, as a gym bunny. My "wanderlust" extends to nearly everything, including experiencing the gambit of women of all kinds. Is this truly a negative when your personality honestly leads to being drawn to all types? Sure it means a girl isn't special BEFORE you meet her, but I grow in appreciation of individuals as I learn about them.

Thanks all!

 

[Kvothe]

I think you're missing a piece:

Is Qualifying Women Really That Important?

If you're like me and you come from a background of being low attainability with girls -- teasing them a little too hard, seeming a little too aloof, causing them to clam up and get cold and snippy and dismissive -- or if you started off as a nice guy and ended up swinging to the opposite...

www.girlschase.com

The very act of a man screening her reassures a woman that she's getting something unique, special, and tailored to exactly what she wants.

Qualifying is the other side of the equation. Qualifying is how you let a woman know she meets your screens.

Having a wide variety of tastes is fine. What you want to be is to seem discerning. A girl doesn't want to be just some random hole for you to masturbate into. She wants to feel special. And as an exceptional guy, you would want a girl who meets your standards, because that would make you feel the most powerful.

So go after the wide variety of girls, but let them know why you're interested in them. Make them understand it's for the unique traits that makes them, them.

 

[TheEcho]

So go after the wide variety of girls, but let them know why you're interested in them. Make them understand it's for the unique traits that makes them, them.

Ahh, there's the key in why I felt like a wide range of interests wasn't game over. It hinges on spelling out those things. Suppose my ex always felt a little "un-special", since there wasn't some stellar reason I liked her. My list usually was: cute, sweet, intelligent, caring, nice body, great smile, pretty eyes and hair, steady. Didn't quite do it for her, though, not totally sure what else to say without making stuff up lol.

 

[Kvothe]

Keep in mind that you shouldn't treat qualifying like a hammer. The article illustrates ways to be smooth and unsmooth with qualifying. Be smooth with it... like a scalpel. Don't qualify on physical traits (usually). If you couldn't think of anything for your ex, it kind of makes sense why she felt unspecial-she probably was to you.