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terabite

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Ok been reading the site for a while wasn't sure if it would work but have to say how well it does.

Was out with some people form work and one girl I really like call her L. Decided that that night wasn't going to go for L but she came on to me. Standing at the bar and she just kisses me out of the blue. I had been up to this point practicing deep diving with girls standing at bar and getting some good results. So was L jealous that I wasn't giving her my full attention or was it a drunken mistake?

I should mention I am also her boss which leads up to the next part. I pull her up to dance and we end up against a wall kissing then she pushes me away. Goes into a rant about how she hates me telling her what to do starts pushing me playfully I do it back and then we end up kissing again this repeats for the next 30mins or so but the pushing get rough and so does the kissing.

We then go to the bar and one of the girls I had been talking to earlier grabs me and start talking to me. I then get pulled away by L who turns round and says that’s my boyfriend. We down a shot and L disappears. I go to find her and can’t so sit down with my friends who have been watching the whole show. This is where I think it goes wrong I tell them that I really like L and have done for a while.

L cousins comes and gets me she’s being sick outside so go and help her. Throw my jacket around her and take her to a taxi. Get her back to hers wit her cousin I put her in bed starts being sick in her sleep so stay for the next hour to make sure she’s ok. Then she wakes up still drunk and starts telling me I such a dick and should fuck off. So start getting ready to go and she starts talking to me normally. Probably should have said she’s from Venezuela and says something to her cousin in Spanish and I say what did you say to which she responds you should learn Spanish if you want to be my boyfriend. Starts cuddling up to me by this point im exhausted and we end up cuddled up in bed.

We start talking and I start deep diving probably a mistake at that point but she starts telling me about herself her family the fact she hates her oldest sister the fact she wants to be doing medicine rather than finance starts asking about me. This is where I start telling her I really like her and have done for a while. I also tell her she is the hottest girl in work to which she says I know. I then ask her what we should do next L says I don't know im really confused we should just forget about it and go back to how things were.

The next day still drunk and exhausted I send her a text message in Spanish asking her out. I get no answer. Fair to say I’ve messed it up any way I can recover?
 
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Thedoctor

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terabite,

I'll try to focus on the main parts of where you went wrong. First off, by pouring your heart out to her, you killed all intrigue you had and you're immediately chasing her from that moment on. Also, kissing her with your co-workers around is probably not the best idea unless you really don't care that they see you do that. Not to mention you normally want to wait until you're back home before you start kissing.

I really don't advise you to pursue anyone that works directly for you. This could lead to all sorts of very obvious problems in the workplace.

Last, you really shouldn't have asked her out over text. Clearly you see her in person regularly and it would have been very easy for you to do in person, which could still be an option. But based on your interactions with her, I would just recommend you leave it alone and move onto the next girl, hopefully not one of your subordinates.

Just my thoughts,

-John
 

terabite

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Hi John

Thanks for the feedback appreciate it and agree with all of it just nice to hear what I was thinking from some one else.
 
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