State and Approach Signals

[drexciyan]

I was out for a walk listening to music, and heard a girl saying very loudly '"'. She repeated
it a few times, and when I looked over to see where the sound was coming from, we made eye-contact, and I briefly held it, smiled,
then turned my head and kept walking.

As I walked away, I heard her say 'Fuck that kid'. It was funny, but I quickly realized that she was trying to get me to approach her, and I
should have.

I'm trying to understand how I rationalized not approaching and kind of tooling her in front of her friends like that. I initially thought
that it was a drunk girl just enjoying the moment, and I did not feel like engaging with a drunk person, I just wanted to go smoke my weed.
But she made eye-contact with me, and was clearly upset after I brushed her off.

In this case I did not recognize the signal, but I also know that had I recognized it as an approach signal, I probably still would
have not approached.

I assume recognizing signals comes with experience, but how do you act on the signal with zero social momentum? Just do it?

 

[DarkKnight]

You simply train yourself to act when you recognize it.. and yes recognizing it comes with experience. For instance a chick rolls her eyes up and gives you a look like "dont think you are all that" while you have been nothing but normal, you know the girl gives you indicator of disinterest, although she likes you.

But it can take some while before you understand all this, therefore it is good to assume attraction (without going crazy haha)