Staving Off Laziness

[Smurf]

Yo guys!

One thing I notice is a theme for me in game is not getting lazy once I have a FB. Seems especially true when you have girls that really like you and are down for you to come over whenever.

It's hard for me to logic out of it even when I know that whenever we eventually stop seeing each other I'll have to game anyway.

Essentially, is there anything you guys do to motivate yourselves to keep hunting down more bitches once you already have one or two you can call?

Jake.

 

[Hue]

Wassup Jake!

That's definitely a legit theme. The ease of a girl being "on-call" creates too much comfort, which leads to complacency. "Why take risks when I could get pussy with no effort?" Happened to me last year before I slowly inched away before finally cutting it off.

The reality of it for me, unless there's a girl I really like for whatever reason (amazing pussy / cool personality / similar social scene), NEW PUSSY ALWAYS BEATS OLD PUSSY.

The conquest of it. The hunt, the obstacle, the dance is simply more rewarding than a button you push and a wet pussy slides on your dick. In addition, the novel experience of a new girl is exciting for me.


Almost none of those things do you get with a fuck buddy, because the relationship is almost entirely physical anyways - you barely even get the emotional "barriers" or shit tests a girlfriend might throw at you.

So, that's how I "logic" my way out of it, if you chose to call it that.

Essentially, is there anything you guys do to motivate yourselves to keep hunting down more bitches once you already have one or two you can call?

Don't add her cell phone number in your phone. She can text you or you text her, but don't save her contact. Remind yourself that she's just another girl that you pulled lickety-split, and you can go find a new girl to do that with, if you chose to put the effort in.

In the most hedonistic nature of it, you could remind yourself that you can always do better than what you have, and cement in your self that what you have isn't good enough - but that can slip into some unhealthy mentalities and behaviors if taken too far. Maybe, think about it this way though. Would you have posted this unless you were ACTUALLY comfortable with your situation? Fuck no. Logically speaking, that might be reason enough to get yourself out there again.

"I enjoy some of the old and I enjoy some of the new. And if I can find a balance between it, that's where I find my satisfaction"

Cheers!

Hue

 

[Smurf]

Thanks for the reply, Hue!

Definitely working on balancing things like fuck buddies/going out and I'm the shit/I need to improve. Kept those thoughts in my mind when I was at my FB's house last night (can any of you guys sleep properly with girls? I sure as hell can't) and definitely felt how I was being complacent in the familiarity. I'm actually hoping we don't see each other often (which we don't as of now) so I don't have to see the fwb thing we have going die in flames but its bound to happen anyways.

Thanks For putting it in a way that makes sense, I knew there was a way of putting how I was feeling but couldn't grasp the concept.

Also your journal's looking' fuego, man!

Jake.

 

[Hue]

can any of you guys sleep properly with girls? I sure as hell can't

Truth.

I'm actually hoping we don't see each other often (which we don't as of now) so I don't have to see the fwb thing we have going die in flames but its bound to happen anyways.

Yeah I mean, you don't have to end it now or die by the complacency quick-sand, but it happens too often that dudes that could be growing / getting more pussy dwindle in growth for this exact reason.

Also your journal's looking' fuego, man!

Aww, stahp it (;


Hue