It's been almost a year now that I'm learning the game and it's been great. After a very successful newbie assignment I continued with my ups and downs but I guess in the past two months or so I've been stepping it up quite a bit - and I feel like people do notice that, especially since my main focus has been on day game. And this lead to a new "problem": girls start to flirt with me.
Now I know it sounds strange to call that a problem, especially since it's rather obvious and sometimes even aggressive flirting, in all kinds of venues. And while I certainly do enjoy that, each and every time it happens it results in frustration - because I have yet to take action. It would be something else if it happen every now and then only but for the past two weeks or three "it" "happened" nearly every day, sometimes even multiple times a day. Because of that I started to think of some ways in my head how to react, how to open that girl or force myself to just say hi or just ANYTHING, really. But I couldn't bring myself to.
Then on Friday and yesterday, there were three occasions that stuck with me and made me write this topic. One was nothing too special, a blonde HB8 in a store (a customer) who kept looking at me with a warm smile, looking down playfully and so on. Even when I did nothing and we met again she did the same. Needless to say that when we met even a third time she didn't bother to gave me yet another glance.
Next was an HB 9, maybe even 9 1/2 who entered the shop while me and my friend left. We locked eyes, she gave me a pretty darn sexy smile and threw her head/hair back a little, kinda like in the movies. Even my (female) friend told me "she just hit on you". I pretended "what? who?" She: "the girl who just entered, she gave you that cute smile and even played with her hair for you". Hiding my inner anger I answered "oh well I'm used to that so I didn't really notice *hehe* "
The third girl was a natural 7 who probably is a 9 when she really dresses up, and is the reason why I finally decided to get some advice. It was on the bus, she directly in front of me (facing each other), me having my headphones on listening to some music. We made quick eye contact when she entered but then nothing happened for quite a while, apart from me quickly looking at her through her reflection in the window every now and then. Then, she finally caught me and we held eye contact for a couple of seconds (which is nothing I had a problem with because at that moment I came from the frame of mind that I initiated the flirt). When I broke contact and looked past her thru the window I noticed she started to look at me again so I returned the eye contact, this time changing my facial expression. Not necessarily a smile but just subtle changes so I look warmer and more open. I again broke eye contact but noticed she was still looking at me, now starting to smile at me. We kept up that play for quite a while, each time she smiled more obviously until she eventually gave me such a big smile, showing her teeth, looking very friendly and beautiful. I still didn't make a move on her and she just rolled her eyes in anger and frustration - definitely the sign for our mutual frustration, all but my very own goddamn fault.
Soo guys, any tips, advices? How do you handle being hit on? (during day game that is).
Appreciate your help!
- nino
Now I know it sounds strange to call that a problem, especially since it's rather obvious and sometimes even aggressive flirting, in all kinds of venues. And while I certainly do enjoy that, each and every time it happens it results in frustration - because I have yet to take action. It would be something else if it happen every now and then only but for the past two weeks or three "it" "happened" nearly every day, sometimes even multiple times a day. Because of that I started to think of some ways in my head how to react, how to open that girl or force myself to just say hi or just ANYTHING, really. But I couldn't bring myself to.
Then on Friday and yesterday, there were three occasions that stuck with me and made me write this topic. One was nothing too special, a blonde HB8 in a store (a customer) who kept looking at me with a warm smile, looking down playfully and so on. Even when I did nothing and we met again she did the same. Needless to say that when we met even a third time she didn't bother to gave me yet another glance.
Next was an HB 9, maybe even 9 1/2 who entered the shop while me and my friend left. We locked eyes, she gave me a pretty darn sexy smile and threw her head/hair back a little, kinda like in the movies. Even my (female) friend told me "she just hit on you". I pretended "what? who?" She: "the girl who just entered, she gave you that cute smile and even played with her hair for you". Hiding my inner anger I answered "oh well I'm used to that so I didn't really notice *hehe* "
The third girl was a natural 7 who probably is a 9 when she really dresses up, and is the reason why I finally decided to get some advice. It was on the bus, she directly in front of me (facing each other), me having my headphones on listening to some music. We made quick eye contact when she entered but then nothing happened for quite a while, apart from me quickly looking at her through her reflection in the window every now and then. Then, she finally caught me and we held eye contact for a couple of seconds (which is nothing I had a problem with because at that moment I came from the frame of mind that I initiated the flirt). When I broke contact and looked past her thru the window I noticed she started to look at me again so I returned the eye contact, this time changing my facial expression. Not necessarily a smile but just subtle changes so I look warmer and more open. I again broke eye contact but noticed she was still looking at me, now starting to smile at me. We kept up that play for quite a while, each time she smiled more obviously until she eventually gave me such a big smile, showing her teeth, looking very friendly and beautiful. I still didn't make a move on her and she just rolled her eyes in anger and frustration - definitely the sign for our mutual frustration, all but my very own goddamn fault.
Soo guys, any tips, advices? How do you handle being hit on? (during day game that is).
Appreciate your help!
- nino
