STICKING POINT! I choked BAD nearing the close

[dsdezzy]

So there was this girl that I failed to sleep with earlier in the semester. (We had a great vibe going, I noticed she expected me to make a move, but I didn't. I know I screwed up.)
I somehow got her interested in me again (or maybe it never went away, not really sure), she came over to my place yesterday to help me with my project. We had good conversations. I could see the signs she wanted me... and for some reason I choked AGAIN!!! She hugged me before she walked out of my place. Immediately afterwards, I knew I had failed to meet expectations again. Someone please explain why or what is causing this?

 

[nino]

Playing not to lose instead of playing to win. Or being afraid to escalate because she "might not like it" but then again you lose her either way. Just happened to me the other night and it sucks. (and that even though I have been learning and doing the game for over a year now, sometimes those AFC habits hunt you down)

 

[Franco]

Playing not to lose instead of playing to win. Or being afraid to escalate because she "might not like it" but then again you lose her either way.

This.

As you get better with women, one of the things you'll learn not to do is to not fall in love with any of her other qualities besides her sexual appeal until after you've bedded her. One of the reasons you bed women quickly is not just so that she'll love you, but it's also so that you don't fall into the dangerous area of having feelings for her before she has feelings for you! If you haven't bedded her by a certain point, your mind starts to become attached to her and you get worried about losing her, and that's when your toast!

This will be absolutely contrary to mainstream advice you'll hear, but it's golden: think and love with your penis first, then use your head later!

- Franco

 

[Mr.Rob]

I know it was just replied but.

BUMP!

Fantastic advice Franco! Everyone that's a beginner read!!!

As you get better with women, one of the things you'll learn not to do is to not fall in love with any of her other qualities besides her sexual appeal until after you've bedded her. One of the reasons you bed women quickly is not just so that she'll love you, but it's also so that you don't fall into the dangerous area of having feelings for her before she has feelings for you! If you haven't bedded her by a certain point, your mind starts to become attached to her and you get worried about losing her, and that's when your toast!

 

[dsdezzy]

Thank you for the great advice guys. How do I keep the AFC from creeping into my head though?