Hey guys,
So recently I've been hitting a bit of a plateau with my results, and I diagnosed myself with being too needy and coming across as a jester--chasing girls. I was putting in a lot of effort and not getting much results in return. So today I decided that I was going to put in very little effort, have low energy, and see where things got me.
They actually got me pretty far. I was messaging a girl online and had her chasing me--flirting with me and trying to set up a date with me. We had our date scheduled for earlier today, but she had to cancel because she was looking at apartments. I persisted and it seemed legitimate. So, she told me to text her to schedule a date later in the week. Fine.
However, this date was canceled last minute and it left me with nothing to do for the day. I was really bored at home, and all of my friends are out of town so I was hoping something would come up. Miraculously, a girl whose number I got a couple of nights ago texted me. Here is our conversation:
I was trying to be very low effort and not work hard during this interaction, and it seemed to be working. However, I had not screened her logistics at all, so I could not really make a legitimate plan to meet her out. So, I sent a few more texts which seemed to be mistakes:
After 90 minutes and no response, I accepted that I had fucked this up and sent another text:
This is just so frustrating to me because she was clearly very interested in the beginning and I was keeping my visible energy low, but then I sent a string of texts that made me sounds needy and lost her. I am trying very had to come off as low energy and low effort, but I got really excited when she texted me and sounded interested. This surprised me and broke me out of my low effort mindset because I thought I needed to skip steps and start planning logistics.
Any help with this particular texting thread or not coming across as needy in general would be much appreciated!
Thanks,
BigS
So recently I've been hitting a bit of a plateau with my results, and I diagnosed myself with being too needy and coming across as a jester--chasing girls. I was putting in a lot of effort and not getting much results in return. So today I decided that I was going to put in very little effort, have low energy, and see where things got me.
They actually got me pretty far. I was messaging a girl online and had her chasing me--flirting with me and trying to set up a date with me. We had our date scheduled for earlier today, but she had to cancel because she was looking at apartments. I persisted and it seemed legitimate. So, she told me to text her to schedule a date later in the week. Fine.
However, this date was canceled last minute and it left me with nothing to do for the day. I was really bored at home, and all of my friends are out of town so I was hoping something would come up. Miraculously, a girl whose number I got a couple of nights ago texted me. Here is our conversation:
Her: Hi BigSWhat're your nye plans tonight?
Me: dont have any. wbu?
Her: No plans. Trying to find something fun to do but I'd rather not push my way through a bar lol
Me: haha same. im more into casual drinking on New Years. maybe we could do something together.
Her: Definitely feeling the casual vibes tonight, not necessarily in regards to my outfit but for sure the setting. That would be fun
Me: okay! so what do you want to do?
I was trying to be very low effort and not work hard during this interaction, and it seemed to be working. However, I had not screened her logistics at all, so I could not really make a legitimate plan to meet her out. So, I sent a few more texts which seemed to be mistakes:
After 90 minutes and no response, I accepted that I had fucked this up and sent another text:
Me: I actually think im gonna stay in for tonight
Her: Hi sorry I was at work today and super busy
Her: Aw okay. Well another time then
Me: okay sounds good
This is just so frustrating to me because she was clearly very interested in the beginning and I was keeping my visible energy low, but then I sent a string of texts that made me sounds needy and lost her. I am trying very had to come off as low energy and low effort, but I got really excited when she texted me and sounded interested. This surprised me and broke me out of my low effort mindset because I thought I needed to skip steps and start planning logistics.
Any help with this particular texting thread or not coming across as needy in general would be much appreciated!
Thanks,
BigS
