Still have a date but she's kind of cold

[Anonymous]

Ok so quick background, this girl started working with me about 2 years ago. A few months in we started flirting and I found out she was dating another guy so I stopped texting her and things were still normal and fun at work. They went through a rough patch and broke up and got back together a few times that month, each time she would start texting me again.

So about a month ago they broke up for good. I did everything right and got her to go on a date with me, that night she totally opened up to me about all her past relationships and various sexual stuff(one being she was still a virgin). I didn't do anything because she was pretty tipsy by the end of the night, I would've felt bad. I straight up asked her to be my girlfriend a week later, she told me she just wasn't ready for a relationship yet but that she wasn't rejecting me and still wanted to hang out. I figured go for it for a while and it went well. We went on a few more dates but I never pushed for anything, despite the fact that she was sexually framed the whole time(I know that now).

Anyway last friday as we were at her place watching a movie she asks about my birthday, which was the coming wednesday. So she says she wants to do something and we plan a date for saturday(two days from now). I found out Monday via snapchat that she went to a concert with another guy, which is fine. I panicked a bit and tried to get her to see me that night to no avail, I messed up there I know. She's been starting conversations over text with me still but they're kept pretty short now, no more emotion filled texts from her.

My question to you guys. Is there any way I can turn this around? The way I see it I can either just go for it saturday or cancel it and leave another chance down the road.

 

[Mr. oblivious]

I straight up asked her to be my girlfriend a week later.

I usually try and avoid this in generally just the the relationship progress and eventually you will reach a point where both of you are on the same page and discuss were the relationship is going. (Cause if you invest so much so early girls will just go cold and probably think you clingy etc.)

My question to you guys. Is there any way I can turn this around? The way I see it I can either just go for it saturday or cancel it and leave another chance down the road.

Not sure how old you guys are but chances are she want someone manly enough to take her virginity already hence why she does not want a relationship with you at the moment and is seeing the other guy as well.


I would say your best plan of action is to bed her the next time you see her

So she says she wants to do something and we plan a date for saturday(two days from now)

This i think is your breaking point if you fail to bed her on this date it will be a very hard recovery

so plan out your date set up logistics


good luck and keep us updated



(another tip do not mention anything about relationships etc. as far as your concerned the conversation did not exist) if she brings it up post coital then it should be fine. key word "SHE"