Still live with parents - How should i adapt my process?

[Ryan]

...if, i assume, the objective therefore is getting her back to her place. (Unless you recommend i just try to have sex with her in some alley.)

And this is going to be very difficult if she lives with her parents/roommates too.

Would love to hear your guys' input into this. This has been troubling me for quite a while. Thanks!

P.s. I'm 19 and i live in a big city where the property prices are ridiculous, so i saved a lot of money by staying with my parents rather than rent/buy.

 

[PrettyDecent]

Ryan,

Cars work well. If you don't have one of your own, you could bring the conversation to her car, and escalate from there.

Also, find public bathrooms that don't have many people surrounding them. Preferably unisex so there aren't other guys and girls walking through!

Any place with privacy in public works, the bigger concern should be placed on LMR, IMO. And for that, I know Alek has an article coming soon, but my tip is that you need to build a great amount of sexual tension, and when it's at a peak you take her to the private place you preplanned, and escalate there. I've failed many a times by kissing her before we are in the place I planned to escalate in...so just hold off! lol

Nick

 

[Ryan]

It's going to be hard work scouting out this 'private place' in a city as big as mine. Are you sure about the toilets? I'm not expecting a girl to find that a very romantic/memorable/clean experience!

 

[Ryan]

bump

Do women mind having sex in a toilet?

I think i'll just have to presume that if a woman doesn't have her own place, then i should just cut off hopes and contact with her.

 

[Mr.Rob]

No you can escalate to sex in a toilet, though not my preferred escalation area but if that's all you have to work with get to it.

 

[Ryan]

Okay, i've been doing some thinking, and the best way (and last resort) would be to have sex in a park, late at night. This won't work in winter as i probably won't be able to get it up (ever tried being horny in freezing temperatures?) and it would be very uncomfortable.

In winter, i have no choice but to go to a hotel. And considering i don't want to be a space monkey all my life (i.e. Sex less than a couple times a month), this isn't going to do in the long run as i won't have much money to spend on this.

But many of the cute girls I've been approaching didn't seem like bad girls who would have sex late at night in a park with a stranger. I have to hope that they have a place for themselves. How to incorporate that into my logistics will be a bit tricky. (I might ask them which area they live when I approach them, and later set up a date in a cafe nearby that area).

So:

1. How can I convince a girl I approached (or taken for a first date) to have sex in a park? It just seems a bit too much to ask.
2. How do i ask her to take her back to her place? Is it just as simple as holding back intimacy when there is sexual tension, and telling her you would like to go back to her place for privacy?

 

[trashKENNUT]

I think i'll just have to presume that if a woman doesn't have her own place, then i should just cut off hopes and contact with her.

It's unconventional but here's some places to consider.

1) Family toilet/Handicapped toilet (where people don't usually use)
2) Dark places where people don't walk around so much.
3) Park
4) School field, HAHA! (i haven't try this one but going to)
5) Graveyard (NarrowJ idea, HAHA!)
6) Swimming Pool, although depends on how many people and if there are any lifeguards

Zac

 

[mountaingoat]

I had to confront this issue a few times this year. The advice I was given here earlier was to move out, but as much as I want to, that is not currently possible and for many in the current state of the economy (contrary to the talking heads), teens and 20s often need to stay with parents. I had a few ideas that seemed more appropriate when its warm out: car, park, forest. Home can also work, but can be awkward and intimidating. One option might be to very lightly hint that your parents should go out themselves! You have to be careful not to imply that you are plotting "evil" plots. Figure out how to plant the idea in their head so it feels like they came up with it. As soon as they are planning and out the door, bring her in and get to work.

It might also help to sow confusion by having a lot of female FRIENDS over regularly, so they have no idea who is what. I know my parents always wondered about my female friends, as I paraded each one in and out of my house (sometimes more than one at a time). Then, if you have a girl over already when your parents are leaving, it wont seem out of the ordinary and they wont think anything of it.

Also, I think most parents will give you space if you hint that you want it. They do want grandchildren after all!