Most guys keep asking the same question over and over: "How can I change and what can I do - so she likes me and I get laid?". Then you go and try to change all of your behavior, your personality, the way you express yourself, things that you do and ways you express yourself...
The problem is, that all this is supplication, putting her on a pedestal, showing weakness... You always try to fit into her behavior and her expectations. You let her lead by following WHAT SHE WANTS instead of you being the leader and showing her WHAT YOU WANT. You are playing her game by following her rules. All this behavior is not seduction, it is Chasing. Girls don't like to be chased by you, they don't want to lead you, they don't want you to adjust to them, and that is why you are having so many problems.
You must not change your behavior because of woman. You should not change your frame so it fits hers. You should not adjust to her expectations, it must be the other way. Her frame needs to collapse under strenght of your frame. Her behavior must adjust to your behavior, and she must fit your expectations.
All you have to do is to be around, talk to her. Once you are talking to her see if there is a good vibration between you too - does she get excited, happy, talkative, flirty...? If not you should work on fundamentals and being more positive, more open. Talk about anything except you. Deflect any questions about you and your life, tell her Nothing about you. The less she knows about you and your wimpy little life the higher chances you have. She doesn't want to be your friend and she doesn't want to hear stories about your miserable sorry ass victim life either. She doesn't even want to hear that you are a great winner with amazing personality, because you simply are not.
If there is a good vibration, get ready for two possible outcomes: Either sex or rejection. There is no middle ground, there is nothing else: no friendship, no platonic love, no thinking about her, and no dreaming about her. Nothing.
On the other hand, if you don't have much experience with women and you are shy because you have too many girly feeeelings, friendship is good. Make friends with couple of girls just to get used to them. Get a feel of how they think emotionally instead of logically. It is a good practice to make "just friends" with bunch of girls, with no sexual intention whatsoever. You can always meet her friends later on.
Suggest going to your place as soon as you think she is comfortable around you and seems to be interested in you. I'm talking about first "date", within first 1-3 hours. You don't have to talk about sex, by suggesting your place she will understand your intentions right away. Just be friendly and casual, keep your excitement and energy low. Don't try to be Alpha, don't try to be funny and entertaining clown, don't try to be sophisticated Casanova, don't pretend to be experienced sexual machine, don't try to have any complicated plans for your date. Simply don't be anything, have no skills and no knowledge, forget any seduction skills. Just 'empty' your mind before you go out and keep the focus on her.
If she is agreeing to go with you alone to your place you must be able to deliver sex, otherwise you will end up in an awkward situation. She will think that you are an impotent weirdo. You have to have place ready, and indirectly push for it. Let her do most of the talking; talk here and there, but don't get stuck on talking. Say stupid things if you must, then laugh at it. As long as you are making some sounds it doesn't really matter. No need for compliments, leave that for betas. Don't waste your time on flirting either, it raises too much excitement. You want to keep your excitement low.
If she starts talking about sex in any content (positive and negative) on her own, you should get the clue. Her talking about sex while going to your place is a big clue that she is thinking about having sex - and since you are the only guy around it would be a sin to fuck up your chances to get laid. And you are a sinner, aren't you?
She may try to confuse you. She will try that just to see if you are a man with real hairy balls rather than confused immature boy who doesn't know what he wants and who feels sorry for his tiny little testicles, thus keeps hiding them deeply in pants, between his thighs. Yes, she will say, her friends are having sex but she is not, she definitely doesn't do that stuff on first date because she is a good girl. Yes, she will go to your place but just so you know, nothing will happen there, she only wants to see that exotic fish in that cool aquarium of yours. Right. She doesn't really care about your stupid fish, she wants to see if you are a man who can pull it off. So don't get confused by this nonsense, keep your mind crystal clear: if she goes with you she is well aware that it might happen and she is quite open to it. Unless, of course, she drank half a liter of vodka first and you have to carry her to your cave. In that case, you actually might go to jail.
Once you are at your place, I would suggest that you start touching asap, assuming that you didn't do so yet. Put your palm gently on her lower back, lightly touch her stomach and tits from behind, put your body against hers. If you keep your excitement and emotions low it shouldn't be a big problem, keep it light and friendly, be relaxed and slow. If she pulls away let her, then try again. Touch her thighs and ass, touch her pussy. The more you touch the better, just keep your energy low. She should start touching back. If she doesn't get horny you really fucked up somewhere. Let her leave, go jerk off like you do any other day, and try with another one. Either way it was a great experience, finally you found balls to be a man, and you should never apologize for that.
If she is not willing to go for sex try to get another 1-2 more dates. If it doesn't work for second and third time, drop her. Don't do anything, don't text, don't call, don't dream about her, don't hate her. Drop all expectations of her coming back to you. Whatever you do, never ever show your hurt feelings. Do simply nothing, just let her go and wish her all the best. By this time consider her as 'a friend'. She has the right to reject you, and you should have balls to take many rejections like a man.
Don't forget to create your own rules and your own game. She either FOLLOWS YOU, YOUR RULES and YOUR GAME or she is out. At any point of time, before and after sex, be ready to leave her. She must know that you will walk away from her at any time you want, otherwise you will appear weak. She doesn't want weak man and she doesn't respect weak man, no matter how sweet and cute she talks to you. Don't take any crap from her, don't let her disrespect you, because sooner or later she will try to see if you are just a good fake or for real. And don't get caught with high feelings for her before you nail her either, dump her while you can - or you'll suffer….
The problem is, that all this is supplication, putting her on a pedestal, showing weakness... You always try to fit into her behavior and her expectations. You let her lead by following WHAT SHE WANTS instead of you being the leader and showing her WHAT YOU WANT. You are playing her game by following her rules. All this behavior is not seduction, it is Chasing. Girls don't like to be chased by you, they don't want to lead you, they don't want you to adjust to them, and that is why you are having so many problems.
You must not change your behavior because of woman. You should not change your frame so it fits hers. You should not adjust to her expectations, it must be the other way. Her frame needs to collapse under strenght of your frame. Her behavior must adjust to your behavior, and she must fit your expectations.
All you have to do is to be around, talk to her. Once you are talking to her see if there is a good vibration between you too - does she get excited, happy, talkative, flirty...? If not you should work on fundamentals and being more positive, more open. Talk about anything except you. Deflect any questions about you and your life, tell her Nothing about you. The less she knows about you and your wimpy little life the higher chances you have. She doesn't want to be your friend and she doesn't want to hear stories about your miserable sorry ass victim life either. She doesn't even want to hear that you are a great winner with amazing personality, because you simply are not.
If there is a good vibration, get ready for two possible outcomes: Either sex or rejection. There is no middle ground, there is nothing else: no friendship, no platonic love, no thinking about her, and no dreaming about her. Nothing.
On the other hand, if you don't have much experience with women and you are shy because you have too many girly feeeelings, friendship is good. Make friends with couple of girls just to get used to them. Get a feel of how they think emotionally instead of logically. It is a good practice to make "just friends" with bunch of girls, with no sexual intention whatsoever. You can always meet her friends later on.
Suggest going to your place as soon as you think she is comfortable around you and seems to be interested in you. I'm talking about first "date", within first 1-3 hours. You don't have to talk about sex, by suggesting your place she will understand your intentions right away. Just be friendly and casual, keep your excitement and energy low. Don't try to be Alpha, don't try to be funny and entertaining clown, don't try to be sophisticated Casanova, don't pretend to be experienced sexual machine, don't try to have any complicated plans for your date. Simply don't be anything, have no skills and no knowledge, forget any seduction skills. Just 'empty' your mind before you go out and keep the focus on her.
If she is agreeing to go with you alone to your place you must be able to deliver sex, otherwise you will end up in an awkward situation. She will think that you are an impotent weirdo. You have to have place ready, and indirectly push for it. Let her do most of the talking; talk here and there, but don't get stuck on talking. Say stupid things if you must, then laugh at it. As long as you are making some sounds it doesn't really matter. No need for compliments, leave that for betas. Don't waste your time on flirting either, it raises too much excitement. You want to keep your excitement low.
If she starts talking about sex in any content (positive and negative) on her own, you should get the clue. Her talking about sex while going to your place is a big clue that she is thinking about having sex - and since you are the only guy around it would be a sin to fuck up your chances to get laid. And you are a sinner, aren't you?
She may try to confuse you. She will try that just to see if you are a man with real hairy balls rather than confused immature boy who doesn't know what he wants and who feels sorry for his tiny little testicles, thus keeps hiding them deeply in pants, between his thighs. Yes, she will say, her friends are having sex but she is not, she definitely doesn't do that stuff on first date because she is a good girl. Yes, she will go to your place but just so you know, nothing will happen there, she only wants to see that exotic fish in that cool aquarium of yours. Right. She doesn't really care about your stupid fish, she wants to see if you are a man who can pull it off. So don't get confused by this nonsense, keep your mind crystal clear: if she goes with you she is well aware that it might happen and she is quite open to it. Unless, of course, she drank half a liter of vodka first and you have to carry her to your cave. In that case, you actually might go to jail.
Once you are at your place, I would suggest that you start touching asap, assuming that you didn't do so yet. Put your palm gently on her lower back, lightly touch her stomach and tits from behind, put your body against hers. If you keep your excitement and emotions low it shouldn't be a big problem, keep it light and friendly, be relaxed and slow. If she pulls away let her, then try again. Touch her thighs and ass, touch her pussy. The more you touch the better, just keep your energy low. She should start touching back. If she doesn't get horny you really fucked up somewhere. Let her leave, go jerk off like you do any other day, and try with another one. Either way it was a great experience, finally you found balls to be a man, and you should never apologize for that.
If she is not willing to go for sex try to get another 1-2 more dates. If it doesn't work for second and third time, drop her. Don't do anything, don't text, don't call, don't dream about her, don't hate her. Drop all expectations of her coming back to you. Whatever you do, never ever show your hurt feelings. Do simply nothing, just let her go and wish her all the best. By this time consider her as 'a friend'. She has the right to reject you, and you should have balls to take many rejections like a man.
Don't forget to create your own rules and your own game. She either FOLLOWS YOU, YOUR RULES and YOUR GAME or she is out. At any point of time, before and after sex, be ready to leave her. She must know that you will walk away from her at any time you want, otherwise you will appear weak. She doesn't want weak man and she doesn't respect weak man, no matter how sweet and cute she talks to you. Don't take any crap from her, don't let her disrespect you, because sooner or later she will try to see if you are just a good fake or for real. And don't get caught with high feelings for her before you nail her either, dump her while you can - or you'll suffer….
