Stop looking like a nerdy, harmless guy and start looking smart the manly way

[Big Daddy]

Hey gents,

Something funny happened recently. A classmate of mine - she isn't cute or anything, so I barely talk to her - said that I had a very "strange" way of talking about woman after she heard me talking to a group of people about girls. (I didn't quite understand what she meant at the time, so I asked for clarification later.)

"Well," she said, "it could be that I never talked to you really well before, but you're a nerd and then you suddenly start talking this way [she meant sexually] about women..." in a very confused way. This wasn't her way of showing interest or being sexy.

The fact that she described me as a nerd wasn't because I talk about video games all the time ('cause I don't even play video games - hell, I don't even talk to her), but because I'm the only one to answer the question that our professor throw at us during the lectures. I'm also frequently scoring in the top 5%, so she probably thinks that I study all day long, which is far from the truth. (This is sad, actually :/)

Interestingly enough, on How to Get a Girl's Attention and Keep It, Chase writes:

(...) when I was trying to get that pretty blonde girl's attention, I did this by being a classroom all star, answering tough questions on-point and making sure that I remained constantly visible.

But differently from Chase, I just wanted to go there for the lecture, focus hard to reduce my studying time before exams, answer all the questions, pack my things and leave, thank you. I may not study that much, but I confess that I care enough at my grades to be slightly stressed about it. Maybe worrying about this makes you look like a pussy, overly nice guy?

Anyways, aside from acing, I have no interest what-so-ever in that classroom to the point that I don't even bother dressing well to that class - I'm not attracted to anyone there. (And also, I'll have to rebuild my wardrobe due to a recent accident.) That might be another reason because I was allocated in the nice group.

Still, I'm "loud", as he suggests on that article. I can say that she noticed me, but not in a way that I find particularly desirable. I'm told frequently that I look like a smart guy. Most of the time I'm wearing glasses and have no facial hair - it might have something to do with that too. So my question is this:

What suggestions do you have on how to stop looking like a nerdy, harmless guy and start looking smart the manly way (or getting attention in lectures)?

 

[Drck]

Re: Stop looking like a nerdy, harmless guy and start looking smart the manly wa

High IQ and education is like a double-edge sword. When you study hard, answering all the difficult questions, getting advanced degrees and so on you simply appear like a provider (aside being nerd). You look like a guy who takes his life seriously, guy who worries too much about achievement, guy who is careful about how he appears and what he says, guy who has his life lined up and so on. Simply Guy who CARES. Usually such guys are perceived as providers. Why? Because he is building a lot of structure in his life, worries about his reputation and title behind his name, is too uptight about his life.

Compare this guy to a guy who doesn’t give a damn – who is loser without a college degree, no money, no life perspective, no long term goals or plans. Guy who DOESN’T CARE.

You would think that women will always go for the first guy, and that is a logic conclusion but incorrect one. Many times they go for that loser with no perspective, no goals and no plan for his life. The reason is that he is not so uptight about his life, he is less serious and more “fun” to be around…

So especially when she is younger age, in college or so, she will go many times for the loser, for the “fun” with no strings attached. Once she gets older she will start seeking provider because now she is ready to settle down, have kids and family… Now the guy who has degrees, money and plans is good for her. Now when she’s already got lots of miles with different losers this guy is great enough to provide for her. Only now, when she get tired of all the losers, she will chose him...

It is actually sad how so many great and hardworking guys get so screwed - they work hard, they care, they do their best, they protect all those cute girls from bad people, they constantly worry about them – and they can’t get laid. Yet loser who does literally nothing is fucking one hot chick after another, dumping them left and right…

So the best way to look more manly is to become more manly. Start doing manly things, start behaving like a man…

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Re: Stop looking like a nerdy, harmless guy and start looking smart the manly wa

Never put success with women before your education. If you take the class seriously then take it seriously. There is a time to work hard and a time to play hard. Do not dress like a bum and get bad grades just so you can come off a certain way and get attention of girls. Be a careless douche at the bars and clubs but take classes seriously and get the best score you can get. Try not to answer the questions because that can get annoying at times but make sure to keep the grades up. I know plenty of guys who balance school and their love lives, contrary to popular belief a lot of smart kids are also good looking and manage to keep good grades in college while having healthy social lives because lets face it, how did they get to college in the first place?

 

[Big Daddy]

Re: Stop looking like a nerdy, harmless guy and start looking smart the manly wa

I exaggerated on the thread title and that might have confused the readers. Well, I don't look like a harmless nerdy guy as pretty much every thing a nerd guy would do, I wouldn't. The only "connection" that I have to that stereotype is that I answer a lot of questions correctly. I own pairs of contacts, but I wear glasses during daytime. And they're stylish, so that's a plus.

You guys know Tucker Max, right? Well, he graduated summa cum laude from the University of Chicago and went to Duke Law School on an academic scholarship. And we all know Tucker's stories.

So let me rephrase my initial question: how do you look like Tucker Max in class (i.e. you're answering questions and acing everything, but you're still perceived by others like an asshole who wants to fuck hot girls)? Any thoughts?

 

[Drck]

Re: Stop looking like a nerdy, harmless guy and start looking smart the manly wa

Don't know Tucker Max and don't know if I understand your question. Are you saying that you want to look like an asshole who wants to fuck all the hot girls in the class, while still answering most of the questions correctly? (I assume yes). Either way, I have no idea why are you asking, you are smart enough to figure it out on your own.

I agree with Fuji Follower, you should not put success with women before you education. Focus on your education first, women later.

If you want to be an asshole like T. Max, simply learn to be an asshole. Grow your balls, disagree with people, give others hard time, don't care about girls that much, seduce and dump them, pump and dump them, say what you want to say while disregarding feelings of others (girls), put yourself ahead of other people, make fun of others... Simply destroy that Nice Guy behavior in you...

In my opinion, you should not try to LOOK like asshole (T. Max), rather you should start BEHAVING like one. There are no tricks or techniques, just do it. If that is what you want...

 

[Big Daddy]

Re: Stop looking like a nerdy, harmless guy and start looking smart the manly wa

I'm not putting women before my education or career. I'm asking because I wanted to discuss the dos and don'ts and save some time along the way. Just thought that this story was funny, at least, because I wasn't trying to grab anyone's attention nor look like a nerd. I just wanted to answer the questions.

Chase did that to seduce girls, not to look like a nerd. I wondered how do you gravitate more towards seducing girls still answering the questions, that's it. I'm not looking to seduce girls in class, they can go home thinking that I'm this or that and I don't motherfucking care, 'cause I'll continue to answer the questions. That would be only a plus. But you're right - I'll try to figure it out on my own