LR Street-approach to instant date

[Rakkum]

This one is from early March this year, I have forgotten some of the details.

I’m in a midsized Colombian town in the highlands of the coffee growing region. By this point I had spent about five weeks in the country. The Sun is shining, the sky is blue and life is looking good again. Got mildly traumatized a few hours earlier by accidentally approaching an underage girl :/ Who then followed me around a little bit!!!

Anyhow, I’m on my way back to my AirBnb, keeping eyes open if there is anyone I would like to meet and strengthen my approaching cojones! I prefer it this way. That is, keeping my eyes open when I’m out and about with everyday things instead of going out specifically to approach. The latter, I think, gives me a bit of a hungry-hyena-on-a-prowl vibe and that’s not working so well for me.

A cute girl walks by. Not a supermodel by any measure, a bit on the plain side but cute enough and with a beautiful ass (as most of them are here) I sense her vaguely checking me out so game on!

My go-to opener in such situations is “Hey, saw you walking by and thought you are cute…” However, I never figured out how to translate “cute” into Spanish so that it wouldn’t sound awkward. Thus I just swapped it to “charming”.

“Hola, te vi pasando y pensaba dios mio, que encantadora!!”
“Hi, saw you walking by and thought to myself, dear lord how charming!””

This opener works well in getting women at least smiling I guess it’s the compliment combined with the “dear lord” exclamation. I slightly over-exaggerate that part with my tone and gestures but keep things quite toned down otherwise. That way, I think it comes off as playful while not being too much.

Basic post-opening chit-chat, the obligatory where are you from blah blac. As it turns out, she is a student from the local university. After a little back-and-forth I suggest we go get a few drinks. Says sure thing but needs to go pay her rent first. I say, cool let's walk. We walk and talk. Doing my best to mix light-hearted banter and getting her to open up.

Now I should mention that we are speaking in Spanish. Well, to be precise, she is... Me? I’m butchering the language as we go But I’m confident and carefree about it so it’s working just fine! I’m even getting compliments for it! Crazy, right?

When I get these compliments my go to response is to dramatically wave my finger at the person and tell them something along the following lines:

“ Listen.. flattery is not allowed! Don’t get me wrong, I mean I love it but my ego is getting a bit too big lately. You understand?”
Not sure how it is perceived but mixing up humbleness and narcissism, faked seriousness and humour works well. Plus I can take a fatherly stance and admonish her.

We get to the place where she pays the rent, takes a few minutes and we are on thes sreet again talking and walking aimlessly…. straight in the direction of my apartment!

We get some beer from one of these hole-in-the-wall stores. It had actually come up in the conversation already in which area I live so I wasn’t being sneaky about it nor did it come as a surprise when we were next to my house. I casually pointed it out and said this is where I’m staying, let’s get a second round of beers from the store and go up to listen to some music and hang out. As to physical escalation, some light touch here and there from the get-go, so things felt right, no resistance and she was following my lead.

I put on some music, we talk a bit more. I escalate more and more. We are both enjoying it but I can feel that she isn’t a 100% comfortable yet. She is also saying once or twice that she isn’t having sex with me. So I chill, don’t rush it. I amp up the escalation, then sometimes gradually, sometimes abruptly take it a few steps back.

Slowly but surely, things get hotter and hotter. Finally, she says that she is on her period, can’t have sex. I see that she is horny as fuck so I take this as a green light. I ask whether it’s not hurting her. So as not so come off as inconsiderate when I brush the whole thing off. Really, for me period sex is completely fine and that's what I communicate.

Smooth sailing from there on.

End of report.

In retrospect, maybe I should have condensed the report into a single sentene: Street-approached a girl who was into me, I escalated and didn’t fuck things up this time - ended sleeping with her!

 

[Chase]

This was a very nice lay, @Rakkum.

Smooth, straightforward, and perfectly executed.

Nothing to quibble with here.

Comments:

My go-to opener in such situations is “Hey, saw you walking by and thought you are cute…” However, I never figured out how to translate “cute” into Spanish so that it wouldn’t sound awkward. Thus I just swapped it to “charming”.

“Hola, te vi pasando y pensaba dios mio, que encantadora!!”
“Hi, saw you walking by and thought to myself, dear lord how charming!””

This opener works well in getting women at least smiling I guess it’s the compliment combined with the “dear lord” exclamation. I slightly over-exaggerate that part with my tone and gestures but keep things quite toned down otherwise. That way, I think it comes off as playful while not being too much.

I like it.

Simple enough but earnest enough to work as a foreigner.

I've used openers close to this in various countries I've visited and had it work well (opens well, the opens turn into lays, just like this).

You don't need anything more complicated than this.

After a little back-and-forth I suggest we go get a few drinks. Says sure thing but needs to go pay her rent first. I say, cool let's walk. We walk and talk. Doing my best to mix light-hearted banter and getting her to open up.

Perfect.

We get to the place where she pays the rent, takes a few minutes and we are on thes sreet again talking and walking aimlessly…. straight in the direction of my apartment!

Also perfect.

We get some beer from one of these hole-in-the-wall stores. It had actually come up in the conversation already in which area I live so I wasn’t being sneaky about it nor did it come as a surprise when we were next to my house. I casually pointed it out and said this is where I’m staying, let’s get a second round of beers from the store and go up to listen to some music and hang out. As to physical escalation, some light touch here and there from the get-go, so things felt right, no resistance and she was following my lead.

I put on some music, we talk a bit more. I escalate more and more. We are both enjoying it but I can feel that she isn’t a 100% comfortable yet. She is also saying once or twice that she isn’t having sex with me. So I chill, don’t rush it. I amp up the escalation, then sometimes gradually, sometimes abruptly take it a few steps back.

Slowly but surely, things get hotter and hotter. Finally, she says that she is on her period, can’t have sex. I see that she is horny as fuck so I take this as a green light. I ask whether it’s not hurting her. So as not so come off as inconsiderate when I brush the whole thing off. Really, for me period sex is completely fine and that's what I communicate.

Smooth sailing from there on.

End of report.

In retrospect, maybe I should have condensed the report into a single sentene: Street-approached a girl who was into me, I escalated and didn’t fuck things up this time - ended sleeping with her!

All perfectly done!

Nice, tight, straightforward lay, Rakkum.

I'm going to send this report to the next guy who tells me "You can't same-day lay in Colombia. You have to take the girls there on multiple dates"

Chase

 

[Rakkum]

Thanks for the props, Chase!

"You can't same-day lay in Colombia. You have to take the girls there on multiple dates"

Is that a thing in some circles? Not my experience at all. I had three cold-approach lays there.
One did take two dates but I'm pretty sure could have closed on the first date if I hadn't let us both get too drunk
The third one, number-grab during the day, date and close in the evening.