Street game with girls in groups

[Verisimilitude]

There have been plenty of posts about how to get girls in groups, but I think the street factor adds a different dimension to the approach. For example, today:

I was coming back from class, had just gotten lunch and I saw three girls walking towards me. I use my peripherals and don't see any of them as attractive and I keep walking, when I notice that one of the girls is looking at me. I turn to face her, and I realize that my initial peripheral look was wrong. This girl was the leader of the group, very pretty, and had an incredibly sexy walk. We make eye contact and hold it, and she keeps smiling. I could tell she wanted me, and was being very clear about it. I had the time and motivation to approach (the girl was clearly into me) but I had no idea how to approach a group of girls on the street. We ended up just making some serious sexual eye contact but nothing else.

If I had to do an approach, I'd probably make eye contact with her even more and say "If you're gonna smile like that at me, you should at least say hi" The problems with that approach are:

1. The possibility of another girl thinking that I was talking to her. I could easily see the other two girls looking confused and making the situation awkward. I would hope that the eye contact would eliminate that, because there's really no other way to show who I'm addressing.

2. The friends part. While it might be a value boost for her to get approached like that on the street by a hot guy, it also might make her look easy or having to deal with her friends judgements. It would really put her on the spot, and I didn't want to do that.

Anyone have any tips for approaching in these kind of situations? Its tough, but I don't want to miss an opportunity as clear as that one again.

 

[Marty]

Sorry I'm not able to answer: posting here to ensure I get notified of responses. I've also been seeking answers to this question, as you can see here.

 

[Verisimilitude]

No its cool Marty. For stuff like this I'm thinking something without too much social pressure and low energy. Nothing gimmicky, and obviously only with strong signs of attraction (the girls was basically eye fucking me in my situation). The good is that you will know really quickly if you hooked or not, because either her friends will leave you alone with her (good) or laugh and shut you down (bad). I also would like to find a way to make it clear who I'm talking to.

What do you think Marty? I figure we can at least throw around some ideas

 

[Marty]

Good point xcrunner, perhaps two heads are better than one, even if we're both a little wet behind the ears

In Get Girls Chasing: Give a Little to Get a Lot, Chase gives the following exchange as an example of getting a woman's attention when she's engrossed elsewhere:

So, to give her a little, you walk by as she’s speaking with her present suitor, put your hand on her arm to call her attention, and tell her, “Hey babe; don’t want to interrupt. I’m going to go grab a seat over there; come join me for a little when you’re done talking here.”

This is meant for the social reception or cocktail lounge, but I think it can be adapted to girls shooting the breeze on a park bench. Just go sit opposite and wait after you say it.

However, I'm still no farther toward figuring out how to play it when women are walking together.

 

[Verisimilitude]

What if you split the group? Have you ever noticed that if you walk in the middle of a group of people, they will sometimes split around you? Obviously this won't work if the girl is in the middle, but if shes on the edge of the group or there's two girls, you can walk towards them and as they start to split you can open or open after they walk past. That way, you can be clear about which girl you're talking to and while you still have to deal with her friend, it won't be for long if the girl hooks. She'll be left out of the interaction (she's literally out of the conversation), and there will be social pressure on her to stay out or even leave.

The best thing that we can do is field test these. Never know until you try right?

 

[Marty]

What if you split the group?

I don't like this. It seems antisocial. Styles and energy levels differ, but I prefer a suave, low-key manner.

 

[Richard]

Plain and simple, approach the girl you want to talk to only.

Don't break circle unless she invites you to meet her friends, in which case you act cool and smooth.

Hell, I still go direct with girls in groups, like "Hey, I saw you walking past, and couldn't help but notice how incredibly cute you are, I wanted to come introduce myself."

As long as the group doesn't look to be in a hurry, most girls will comply, and gives you a huge boost! because for most guys approaching a single girl is nerve wracking, approaching a group of girls is damn near suicidal! So the plain fact alone that you can express direct interest in the one girl without breaking circle gives you a huge dominance/smooth factor.

There is little no difference between singling a girl out and a standard approach except the added pressure, and the added work of dealing with the group because most girls will introduce you to friends, or will attempt to reject you with something like "I don't have the time, my friends and I are kinda in a rush."

But that will generally only happen if you have faulty logistics, if you come off in an offsetting way.

-Rich

 

[Verisimilitude]

Thanks Zphix. But how do I make it clear that which girl I'm talking to? I could easily see me saying something like the direct approach you used, and the other two girls looking confused

 

[Richard]

Unfortunately, and I say unfortunate because I don't like to do this but, it's best to go indirect direct with some touch indication.

Something like:

"Excuse me miss, do you have the time?" while I touch her wrist to see her watch,

then go direct,

"Actually, I came over here because I thought you were cute, and wanted to introduce myself."

it singles her out as the one you're talking to