Striking when the iron is hot vs being a challenge

[RedNeck]

Folks ,
I have hard time balancing those two . Especially, in the following scenario :
A girl from social circle flirts heavy and show too many IOT

Now , my mind goes “ Don’t act fast or she might think you are an easy guy “
I keep dragging the interaction till I miss the window of opportunity.

Could someone please explain to me the right balance ? An example would be great .

 

[DoWhatWorks]

Trial and error man.

A general rule I follow is to match her investment and only *SLIGHTLY* go above it when you’re leading the interaction forward to see if she bites.

E.g. HB: “I find you really hot redneck”

You: “You aren’t so bad yourself” big grin.

That’s you matching her energy without going overboard or coming across too thirsty.

Then you go slightly above to move things along in a casual way and see if she bites:

You: “I’ve always thought we had a good vibe... we should grab a drink sometime”

From here her answer will tell you everything you need to know. Make sure you look at not only what she says but how she says it too. Enthusiasm and willingness is what you want to see, boredom or negative surprise is not.

She may just like flirting, or has been waiting for you to ask her out - so she jumps on it.

Sometimes you’ll read it wrong and miss but as long as you’re socially calibrated it’s chill.

You don’t need to worry about being “easy”. If you’re a “challenge” in other ways I.E hard to read, comfortable teasing/calling her out on her shit in a comical way then that’s more than enough to keep her interested.

Hope that helps.

 

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