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I see her sitting by herself on a bench on the street, texting. I pass by her, my buddy who I was gaming with didn't want to open, so I come back to her.
Me: Excuse me
Her: (Looks up)
Me: I just passed by you, but I wanted to come say hi
Her: Why? (She quickly interjects--I talk fairly slowly)
Me: Because you look pretty (Sexy smile, no teeth)
Her: Oh thank you (Half of a smile)
Me: What are you up to? (Curious smile, with teeth)
Her: Nothing. Sitting. Chilling. I'll probably just walk around. You?
Me: Just walking around. You know what? If you don't mind, I can keep you company. Wander around together or whatever.
Her: Sure, but I don't really know this area. I don't go to this school.
About a minute of banter
Her: Are you over 21?
Me: Yeah
Her: Wanna go get drinks then? I had a bad day.
Me: Alright, sure
That's where I began fucking up. I should've done things on my terms. I was gonna suggest getting frozen yogurt then talk as we walked around the campus (pretty much what I do on most of my dates). I did not expect her to be socially experienced and so dominant for a 114lb Asian. It was bad. I felt like she was the leader and I was just tagging along to the bar. I tried to make up for it. I only drank half-cup of water while she downed a martini and an AMF. She suggested 3-4 times that I should get a drink, but I held my position and declined. Conversation was straight up deep diving and relating. She was also asking me about myself though. I was looking for opportunities to smoothly transition into something sexual, but I couldn't. I was pretty sure that being overtly sexual would've backfired because she had such a strong personality and she hadn't fully warmed up to me yet. I was thinking of a way to break her strong frame while we were talking, and I just somehow got this feeling that I was close, but she busts this one out:
Her: Okay, you need to either get a drink or leave and go find your friend
Me: Haha, no thanks. Sorry for being so boring
Her: No, like, I don't like being the only one drinking. I look like an alcoholic
Me: So? What wrong with that? No one's judging.
Her: No. I really don't like it. Seriously though, you should go look for your friend. What if something happened?
At this point, I decided she wasn't worth the energy and time. My buddy was struggling, so I decided to go find him and continue gaming with him instead. I decided to close on my terms though.
Me: Yeah, you know what? I might just go do that.
Her: Oh? Okay
I felt like I just weakened her frame here. I felt it. When I said "Sorry for being so boring", she could've held her frame and said something like "Yeah, you are", but she got defensive. When I told her I was gonna leave, she was fairly shocked.
Me: You know what though? My friend and I will probably get some drinks and hang out. You and your friend (who was coming to meet her) are welcome to join us
Her: Okay, but I'm still deciding whether you're creepy or nice
Me: Haha, I'm definitely creepy
Her: Yeah, mainly because you won't drink
Me: Let me see your phone so I can put in my number
Me: (I enter my number on the dial screen) How do I save it?
I felt like there was still a chance that she might delete it, so I persisted on saving it. I saved myself as Creepy Boring fsc Who Doesn't Drink. She laughed for the first time that night--all I got were a few chuckles here and there before. Then I left. I think she was just putting up a strong front. Because after she said "You need to either get a drink or leave and go find your friend" and "I'm still deciding whether you're creepy or nice", I played along with it. If she was actually tough instead of playing tough, she would've held her position and said shit like "I don't like boring guys. Go away" or "Yup, definitely creepy. I might have to use my pepper spray", but she got defensive instead and explained herself. Oh well.
I know I left most of the conversation out, but do any of yall have any tips on what to do with girls like this?
Anything I could've done better?
Most importantly, any strategies to turn things sexual when you're not really sure about the girl's level of attraction? Because if I can tell she's interested, I'll do something like "You have amazing legs (feel her quads then leave my hand there). You played sports in school didn't you?" or something like that.
Thanks
Me: Excuse me
Her: (Looks up)
Me: I just passed by you, but I wanted to come say hi
Her: Why? (She quickly interjects--I talk fairly slowly)
Me: Because you look pretty (Sexy smile, no teeth)
Her: Oh thank you (Half of a smile)
Me: What are you up to? (Curious smile, with teeth)
Her: Nothing. Sitting. Chilling. I'll probably just walk around. You?
Me: Just walking around. You know what? If you don't mind, I can keep you company. Wander around together or whatever.
Her: Sure, but I don't really know this area. I don't go to this school.
About a minute of banter
Her: Are you over 21?
Me: Yeah
Her: Wanna go get drinks then? I had a bad day.
Me: Alright, sure
That's where I began fucking up. I should've done things on my terms. I was gonna suggest getting frozen yogurt then talk as we walked around the campus (pretty much what I do on most of my dates). I did not expect her to be socially experienced and so dominant for a 114lb Asian. It was bad. I felt like she was the leader and I was just tagging along to the bar. I tried to make up for it. I only drank half-cup of water while she downed a martini and an AMF. She suggested 3-4 times that I should get a drink, but I held my position and declined. Conversation was straight up deep diving and relating. She was also asking me about myself though. I was looking for opportunities to smoothly transition into something sexual, but I couldn't. I was pretty sure that being overtly sexual would've backfired because she had such a strong personality and she hadn't fully warmed up to me yet. I was thinking of a way to break her strong frame while we were talking, and I just somehow got this feeling that I was close, but she busts this one out:
Her: Okay, you need to either get a drink or leave and go find your friend
Me: Haha, no thanks. Sorry for being so boring
Her: No, like, I don't like being the only one drinking. I look like an alcoholic
Me: So? What wrong with that? No one's judging.
Her: No. I really don't like it. Seriously though, you should go look for your friend. What if something happened?
At this point, I decided she wasn't worth the energy and time. My buddy was struggling, so I decided to go find him and continue gaming with him instead. I decided to close on my terms though.
Me: Yeah, you know what? I might just go do that.
Her: Oh? Okay
I felt like I just weakened her frame here. I felt it. When I said "Sorry for being so boring", she could've held her frame and said something like "Yeah, you are", but she got defensive. When I told her I was gonna leave, she was fairly shocked.
Me: You know what though? My friend and I will probably get some drinks and hang out. You and your friend (who was coming to meet her) are welcome to join us
Her: Okay, but I'm still deciding whether you're creepy or nice
Me: Haha, I'm definitely creepy
Her: Yeah, mainly because you won't drink
Me: Let me see your phone so I can put in my number
Me: (I enter my number on the dial screen) How do I save it?
I felt like there was still a chance that she might delete it, so I persisted on saving it. I saved myself as Creepy Boring fsc Who Doesn't Drink. She laughed for the first time that night--all I got were a few chuckles here and there before. Then I left. I think she was just putting up a strong front. Because after she said "You need to either get a drink or leave and go find your friend" and "I'm still deciding whether you're creepy or nice", I played along with it. If she was actually tough instead of playing tough, she would've held her position and said shit like "I don't like boring guys. Go away" or "Yup, definitely creepy. I might have to use my pepper spray", but she got defensive instead and explained herself. Oh well.
I know I left most of the conversation out, but do any of yall have any tips on what to do with girls like this?
Anything I could've done better?
Most importantly, any strategies to turn things sexual when you're not really sure about the girl's level of attraction? Because if I can tell she's interested, I'll do something like "You have amazing legs (feel her quads then leave my hand there). You played sports in school didn't you?" or something like that.
Thanks