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First of all hi, I'm new here and sorry for dumping my problems here, but I'm hoping to get some advice. So I think I'm stuck with this girl I just met and I don't know how to fix it. I'll keep it as short as possible, but it's still a small story I suppose. Sorry. Any tips would be much appreciated though!
I was in a bar with some friends and I ended up talking to this girl. After a while of talking and flirting I end up kissing her. I get her number and we spend the last part of the night talking, dancing, kissing, etc. When the night is over I offer to walk her home safely. She declines, but reminds me she doesn't have my number yet. She threatens (in a cute way) to kick my ass next time she finds me in a bar if I don't call or text her the next day.
So the next day I decide to send her a text so she'll have my number too, and to see if she is actually interrested. We text some more and the day after that I ask her if she'd like to grab a drink or a bite to eat that weekend. She says she's up for either so I think to myself f@#$ it, let's make it a dinnerdate.
I take her out to a restaurant the next day and we have a nice date. I'm sure it wasn't the best date in history or something, as I admit I was a bit nervous, but we definitely had a good time.
She told me she had been looking forward to it ever since I asked, so I took that to be a good sign. During a small silent moment she caught me looking at her, and I told her it was because she looked really nice. She got really shy and told me not to say that, so I decided not to flirt too much after that (figured I was coming off a bit too strong there).
By the end of the date she starts yawning (we had a late reservation) so I ask for the check. We split the bill 60/40 (she already had her wallet out) and I made sure I paid more. I said I was ok with her paying some since its 2015 and all. When we headed out I thought I could tell she just wanted to go home (could have misread there, but doubt it). I'm thinking I can't let it end on an awkward goodbye so I kiss her. She kisses me back, but still doesn't want me to walk her home even when I say it's just till the front door.
After being home for a little while I send her a text saying I had a good time etc. Maybe I should have waited for her to do that first, but she replied she ran into a neighbour and that she got home safe. Nothing like she had a great time or something like that though.
Next day I add her on facebook since she told me on our date that she looked me up but couldn't see any pictures (friends-only etc.). Probably mistake number two since I also told her I don't really use facebook anymore (hence the lack of photo's available to non-friends). I get bored later that night so I text her again, but I pretty much only get replies like "hahaha" and so on (she told me the next day she was visiting her parents). I decided this wasnt my smoothest work, so next morning I text her like.. good morning, sleep well? do anything last night?
So she replied, but it wasn't much I could go on, besides I was at work so couldn't focus fully. Maybe I should have kept a conversation going or maybe I shouldn't have texted her at all, I don't know. I decided not to keep asking questions since I already felt like I'd been pushing too much and she didnt seem as excited to talk to me as before the date.
3 days later (radio silence till then) I ask her how it's going. She replies a couple of hours later that she is fine but not great and will text me that night. She didn't.
Next day she texts me that she's been under a lot of stress and having bad headaches and doctors orders are to take it easy for a while. I decide to send a sweet, albeit slightly long, text wishing her well, that if she needs a distraction I'm up for it and that I really wanted to get to know her better, but not pressure. I get a relatively short reply saying it's mostly due to work and that she'll just have to ride this out.
I figure no problem, probably better to leave it alone for now and this way my last text to her was a considerate one.
That night, I went to grab a drink with my buddies and I end up running into her at the same bar again. I decided to play it cool, say hi and ask her how she was. I told her she didn't have to explain anything and wished her a good night. A short while later we were heading out and I ran into her again. There was some eye contact with a slight smile on her face and I just smiled back and winked and went on my way. I was kinda hoping to get a text from her later that night but I didn't hear anything from her.
4 days later and still nothing. I didn't want to pressure her further and was hoping she'd me herself so I'd know she was still into me.
I don't wanna chase her or push her away as she seemed to be a nice girl (unless it turns out she was not sincere about not feeling well, seeing as she was able to go out anyway). Maybe I came on too strong after the date, maybe even desperate, I don't know.
Do I wait? If so, how long?
Do I make a move, or will that ruin my chances?
I was in a bar with some friends and I ended up talking to this girl. After a while of talking and flirting I end up kissing her. I get her number and we spend the last part of the night talking, dancing, kissing, etc. When the night is over I offer to walk her home safely. She declines, but reminds me she doesn't have my number yet. She threatens (in a cute way) to kick my ass next time she finds me in a bar if I don't call or text her the next day.
So the next day I decide to send her a text so she'll have my number too, and to see if she is actually interrested. We text some more and the day after that I ask her if she'd like to grab a drink or a bite to eat that weekend. She says she's up for either so I think to myself f@#$ it, let's make it a dinnerdate.
I take her out to a restaurant the next day and we have a nice date. I'm sure it wasn't the best date in history or something, as I admit I was a bit nervous, but we definitely had a good time.
She told me she had been looking forward to it ever since I asked, so I took that to be a good sign. During a small silent moment she caught me looking at her, and I told her it was because she looked really nice. She got really shy and told me not to say that, so I decided not to flirt too much after that (figured I was coming off a bit too strong there).
By the end of the date she starts yawning (we had a late reservation) so I ask for the check. We split the bill 60/40 (she already had her wallet out) and I made sure I paid more. I said I was ok with her paying some since its 2015 and all. When we headed out I thought I could tell she just wanted to go home (could have misread there, but doubt it). I'm thinking I can't let it end on an awkward goodbye so I kiss her. She kisses me back, but still doesn't want me to walk her home even when I say it's just till the front door.
After being home for a little while I send her a text saying I had a good time etc. Maybe I should have waited for her to do that first, but she replied she ran into a neighbour and that she got home safe. Nothing like she had a great time or something like that though.
Next day I add her on facebook since she told me on our date that she looked me up but couldn't see any pictures (friends-only etc.). Probably mistake number two since I also told her I don't really use facebook anymore (hence the lack of photo's available to non-friends). I get bored later that night so I text her again, but I pretty much only get replies like "hahaha" and so on (she told me the next day she was visiting her parents). I decided this wasnt my smoothest work, so next morning I text her like.. good morning, sleep well? do anything last night?
So she replied, but it wasn't much I could go on, besides I was at work so couldn't focus fully. Maybe I should have kept a conversation going or maybe I shouldn't have texted her at all, I don't know. I decided not to keep asking questions since I already felt like I'd been pushing too much and she didnt seem as excited to talk to me as before the date.
3 days later (radio silence till then) I ask her how it's going. She replies a couple of hours later that she is fine but not great and will text me that night. She didn't.
Next day she texts me that she's been under a lot of stress and having bad headaches and doctors orders are to take it easy for a while. I decide to send a sweet, albeit slightly long, text wishing her well, that if she needs a distraction I'm up for it and that I really wanted to get to know her better, but not pressure. I get a relatively short reply saying it's mostly due to work and that she'll just have to ride this out.
I figure no problem, probably better to leave it alone for now and this way my last text to her was a considerate one.
That night, I went to grab a drink with my buddies and I end up running into her at the same bar again. I decided to play it cool, say hi and ask her how she was. I told her she didn't have to explain anything and wished her a good night. A short while later we were heading out and I ran into her again. There was some eye contact with a slight smile on her face and I just smiled back and winked and went on my way. I was kinda hoping to get a text from her later that night but I didn't hear anything from her.
4 days later and still nothing. I didn't want to pressure her further and was hoping she'd me herself so I'd know she was still into me.
I don't wanna chase her or push her away as she seemed to be a nice girl (unless it turns out she was not sincere about not feeling well, seeing as she was able to go out anyway). Maybe I came on too strong after the date, maybe even desperate, I don't know.
Do I wait? If so, how long?
Do I make a move, or will that ruin my chances?
