Success stories?

[FixYourselves]

I thought it might be useful to hear cases of people who were initially struggling with women achieving success in that area recently, and the main reasons they feel they were able to achieve this success.

If anyone has anything they'd like to share with regards to this, it would be greatly appreciated. I think it would be constructive and helpful for myself and others.

Thanks.

 

[Estate]

I'm not going to say I'm the top dog here, I'm still far from it. I still have sticking points, I still have off days, I still come here to learn.

But if you're looking for some inspiration, I can tell you that this stuff DOES work but it takes time.
Every time I go out and commit to doing this, I get a little better and I notice things I am doing better.

I've changed my life in many ways. I had a lot of friends who I realized made me very unhappy. They weren't good friends. I didn't fall out with them but I phased them out if they were being a negative influence. I have made new more positive friends and my life is so much better for it.
I am learning to go after what I want. I was brought up being told that if you are just a nice, respectful, polite person, eat your vegetables and do your homework, you will come out on top. That's only a half truth. You have to go after what you want, it never comes to you sitting on the couch.
I have really only recently gotten over the idea of rejection... this was HUGE. Rejection doesn't matter, it's just another piece of learning on the road to success. The first few times I drove a car I was scared shitless... but I kept doing it until I could drive fearlessly. I realised that was the same with anything I ever became good at. I suffered through it being difficult when I had my training wheels on, and this is no different. A rejection is not bad... what's the worst that can happen? She doesn't like me, so what.

In the first six months of this year I've slept with the same amount of women that I did in the previous 5 years combined. Maybe my numbers are not staggering compared to the guru's here but for me, this is a huge success.

I met a new friend recently who isn't into game but is pretty good at going to bars and meeting women. For the first time ever I actually enjoy going out and meeting new people with this guy. I used to be a bag of nerves and had friends who's shout and jeer if I failed in chatting a girl up to the point I wouldn't even approach anymore knowing they were watching... it was BS, I never saw these guys pick up a girl in 10 years... why would I care what they think. Even just approaching and being shot down is a LOT better than not doing anything.

So there you are... my journey is not complete, I have a long way to go but I'm getting there. I'm making strides and improving so much over what I used to be.

 

[Richard]

Honestly, this stuff, and all the advice the Chase, and everyone else gives is spot on. For me, I've been a great conversationalist in my comfort zone, but approaching women, talking to them, and everything after seemed impossible at my start, but now, after reading Chases articles, and of course, having conversations with Light, I've overcome approach anxiety, and can confidently say my "game" has increased significantly since finding this site, and conversing with everyone on this site.
-My current success is being able to comfortably approach women, get their number, and get them to chase. Its all I've wanted to practice, as, I haven't cared about sex yet, I'm meeting loads of women from 17-27 who have chased me, I'm still learning through experience, but this site and everyone on it has gotten me to this point

 

[FixYourselves]

Thanks a lot guys, that's exactly the kind of thing I was interested to hear

 

[Estate]

Its like I was saying man, success if all relative.
Don't beat yourself up for not being a rockstar on your first night.

Sets small goals and build on them. If you've never approached a girl before, go out and just say Hi to 5 girls. Next time, start a sonversation with 5, next time work on something else until it clicks.

If you already have fundamentals down, you can make the goal for the day bigger but you get the idea. Don't get down ever, if you aren't nailing 10s on your first go.

The learning to drive analogy was big for me. I was nervous as hell the first time behind the wheel but I knew if I kept doing it over and over it'd become natural and I wouldn't even think about when to shift gear or find the biting point on the clutch or anything like that... I just knew if I spent an hour driving at all then it would lead to being good at it. So even if you just make small success at a time, that is a success, but keep pushing yourself more each time.

Same goes for rejection. Its a good thing at the start. You begin to be unphased by it and begin to take away things from it, like, how did I approach, what did I say, was my tone bad or did I fidget. Then next time you know how you can improve. Its worth it.

Half the time a rejection isn't a big deal, so what if she's not interested... what does it really matter? It doesn't hurt you... and often its not even you, she just has other things going on... so keep pushing yourself and learning and this stuff will begin to click.

 

[Good Vibes]

Even just approaching and being shot down is a LOT better than not doing anything.

That's a good point to elaborate on,

The people who find the most success in life are also the people who fail the most. Imagine it takes 20 attempts before you succeed at something and you give up at the 3rd, 9th, 14th or even 19th time, you will still be a failure. So if you give up on the 3rd attempt you have failed 3 times but when you finally succeed in this case you have failed 19 times. So don't give up.