Suggestion for tomorrow home date

[Lantern]

Met this girl over Bumble some 2 weeks ago.

We had a first date - met up for a coffee after work. Vibe was good, except she talked about work a bit too much, but there was some chemistry for sure.
We had a second date some 5 days ago, evening workday meetup, vibe was good again, even better then first date and we spoke very little about work. I walked her to her car in the rain at the end and we made out for a bit in front of the car before she left.

So, for third date I proposed that she come over to my place and we can cook dinner and "afterwords we can take a walk to town for drink or somethig".

To this I get her reply:

"Well... I know what this alludes to, but it's too early for me for that kind of intimacy. I don't want you to have expectations that something more happens so quickly.

Now, if you really want me to come over, we can have some deeper conversations, no problem... but if that would be weird for you, we can have a date somewhere public."

I write back:

"Ok, first thing: the only thing I have expectations of is that you act in accordance with what you find comfortable and ok.
I can promise you now I don't want to do anything that we're both not 100% for
So I'd like you to come, we'll do some cooking and talking and we can take a walk to town after, you do owe me a coctail as I recall "

She agrees to come, says she'll bring a bottle of wine etc etc, all good.

My question:

Do I try to escalate to sex on this date? If so, do I it at my place, or, we inded have dinner, go to town for a drink, come back ie. her car will be parked next to my apartment so I'm walking her back to the car, but then I see if I can get her back to the apartment again and escalate then?
Or some third option? Any advice is appreciated

 

[POB]

"afterwords we can take a walk to town for drink or somethig".

This looks super shady!
You both know sex is gonna happen when you are in isolation, women are not stupid...so don't try to make it look normal or sugar coat it for her
She knows whats up

Have dinner, seat her on the sofa with wine in hand and escalate till sex happens.
She clearly wants to be lead to bed, or else she would not have agreed to come over, but is sensing your shadyness/indecision.

"Well... I know what this alludes to, but it's too early for me for that kind of intimacy. I don't want you to have expectations that something more happens so quickly."

I would've said, "don't worry, we won't have sex..not there yet with you"
(See how the word "yet" is casually thrown in the middle?)
Then when she is with you, it will be "oops, it just happened"

Side note: aren't you missing sex talk (and probably kino) on your dates?
Could be wrong, but also sensing some BF vibes....this is probably why she is making you wait that long and trying to look like a lady.
If on a first date I don't have her naturally talking about sex, even if marginally, It's probably a pass for me.

 

[Lantern]

This looks super shady!
You both know sex is gonna happen when you are in isolation, women are not stupid...so don't try to make it look normal or sugar coat it for her
She knows whats up

Well, I did it because that's what Chase suggests in his article on the at-home dinner date, as a way of giving plauseble deniability.

Side note: aren't you missing sex talk (and probably kino) on your dates?

Sex talk, yes, there wasn't almost any, but there was kino on the second date, which as I mentioned ended with kissing, so it's not like the vibe was platonic.

Anyway, I feel half-ill today, so I rescheduled for Sunday.

 

[POB]

Well, I did it because that's what Chase suggests in his article on the at-home dinner date, as a way of giving plauseble deniability.

Ok, fair enough.
To me it sounds shady, especially in that third date context, but maybe that's just a cultural difference (I know chicks would never fall for that here).

Sex talk, yes, there wasn't almost any, but there was kino on the second date, which as I mentioned ended with kissing, so it's not like the vibe was platonic.

Nice, but sex talk is as important as kino ime.
Not only It makes them think about you in a sexual way, but also think that having sex was their idea, not yours.

Anyway, I feel half-ill today, so I rescheduled for Sunday.

Honestly, I think you have this one in the bag
She probably likes you, or else she wouldn't have agreed to come over.

 

[Lantern]

So, close, but no cigar.

Did the script: we had dinner and then moved to the couch. I started escalating and all good, but she wouldn't let me take off her bra. Kept making out getting her hot and bother and she just goes at one point "Wanna take off the bra?", so I do and keep going. But I tried to escalate beyond this two or three times, things got really hot, but she stopped me every time. I mean we had like an hour long make out session with me going all over her torso, but that's were it ended. She even said after we were done "I got undressed more then I planed to."

So I just think she firmly decided not to get to sex yet and there we are. Ah well, she's a nice chick, so we'll meet again, alls good.

 

[Lantern]

Well.

So after the last date I wrote about here, we had another some 5-6 days later. Went for drinks in town and came back to my place. Very quickly started making out again, and this time when I move to escalate fully she goes "I'm on my period" Ah well. So we keep going all over each other and I get a handjob. At least no blue balls.

I figure, this is in the bag, just a bit of bad luck for timing.

Next date yesterday (about a week after the previous one), she comes over to watch a movie. We start making out like 10 minutes into the film, start taking off her clothes, all good, move to pants, nope. She blocks me. I do the usual dance of backing off, getting her hot and bother more, trying again, but nope, she's "not ready". Which is weird because things get super hot between us, and from the first to last minute she spent with me she gives me this "fuck my brains out" look. Yet, she "needs a certain amount of connection before she's ready".

Not sure if I'm doing anything wrong, or she's just like this around sex. She's not young, but my impression is she's not very expirienced...