Hey all,
I'm staying in Miami Beach for 2 weeks and wanted to find a sports bar to watch the Eagles game (Philadelphia Eagles, an NFL team). So I went on google and found an eagles bar called LOST WEEKEND.
I put the name in capitals because I'm fairly sure that it is the best dive bar I have ever been to. If you are in Miami and want to hang at a chill, affordable place definitely check it out.
Anyway, I had a little bit of momentum that I built up Saturday night. My hostel's restaurant becomes a lounge and nightclub on the weekends, so I spent the night there. Long story short, I spent the whole night with a girl staying in the same room as me. We started dancing at the nightclub in a friendly manner, but the vibe turned sexual quickly. This made me laugh because she spent the whole night telling me how she loves Latin men and they are the only men for her (I'm mixed race, white and black.)
So at a certain point when we are dancing, she turns around and gives me the "kiss me" look. So I did. We made out on the dance floor, then I moved us to a couch when things started getting pretty intense. Our hands were everywhere all over each other, tongues down throats. She started panting, breathing very heavily, moaning with excitement.
And then she just got up and left. Didn't push me away, didn't look upset or angry, didn't say anything, just left. So I sat there for a minute feeling confused, trying to figure out what I had done. Then I thought fuck it, better to ask. So I walked outside and saw her sitting by herself at a table.
I said "Uhhh, we cool?"
She had very closed off body language "Yah I'm just tired."
"Ok that's cool. Just wanted to make sure that there wasn't something to talk about."
"Well..." she looked down at her phone, "I'm flying to see my ex boyfriend after I leave here and we might get back together, so I shouldn't have sex tonight."
I laughed a little, not in a mean way. I just felt relieved that I hadn't done something that made her feel uncomfortable.
"Alrighty" I said. "That's totally cool, but you could have just said that. You're pretty chill and I don't want there to be any awkward feelings."
"You're right. Yah I'm just not feeling now after I thought about my ex. Sorry."
"All good." I put my hand on her shoulder and smiled. "I'm gonna head back in there, feel free to come back in if you want to later. If not I'll see you later."
So I went back inside and danced a bit, but all of the girls on the dance floor were paired up. The few girls I approached in other areas all spoke very broken English, so I just went to bed.
ANYWAY. That was Saturday night. That interaction had me feel pretty good the next day, as a girl who told me that she only liked one race of men ended up being so turned on be me that she knew we'd fuck if we spent more time together.
(I think the lesson is that sometimes girls are awkward or weird for reasons that don't have anything to do with you. I realize that this is probably something I could have done to turn the situation around, but overall I feel pretty good about it.)
So the next day on Sunday, I get to the bar around 2pm to watch football (the eagles game started at 430). It's just a few dudes and one couple when I get there. There are two dudes sitting alone at high-top tables behind the bar. I ordered a pitcher of beer and sat down next to the guy who looked more chill. I asked him who he was rooting for, then we just started chatting. At one point, two dudes at the bar in front of us joined in on the conversation and our groups merged.
So around 4pm, the bar really starts to fill up. While I was in the bathroom, 2 girls came in and ordered drinks next to my new friends. The one was cute with an amazing ass and very tan, she was probably two inches taller than me (I'm 5'4"). Her friend was 6'3", super lanky and tall but more fun to talk to. The Tall Girl was in town visiting her fuck buddy, who was in his 40s and didn't feel like going out. The Cute Girl was a local, very upfront, assertive, dominant. Before I said anything to her, she had her hands on my shoulder, asking me if she could use my headphones hanging around my neck.
Neither girl was a good option for me, so I just talked to them to get some feminine energy and preselection. The Tall Girl was too tall, and I've met girls like the Cute Girl before. She's one of the rare girls that will approach, and will end up fucking whatever guy she wants to fuck. She likes to be the aggressor, so I just decided to be chill and see what happens.
After talking for a while (4 guys including me and the two girls) I get a little bored. Two of the guys are really going for the girls, so I let them go for it. I see a cuter but older woman sitting at the bar, so I sat down next to her and asked her if she was an eagles fan. We chat for a bit, she's there with a wedding party but she's not friends with most of them, so she's sitting at the bar by herself watching the game. At this point the bar is getting rowdy, so I got her number early just in case. Right after I got her number, her uncle came over, sat down next to us, and started giving me death glares. I tried to talk to him a few times and he kept giving me one word answers, so I just told the girl that we would talk later and I went back to my first group.
At this point, my first group was playing pool with two latino guys that I hadn't talked to yet. After chatting for a bit, I accidentally grab one of the latino's guys pitcher instead of mine and he comes over to me and puts his hands on me and says "What the fuck that's my beer man."
I look at him, looked at the pitcher in my hand, then put the pitcher back on the table, looked back and forth between the two pitchers, then looked back at him. I did this slowly, deliberately, calmly.
Then I told him "Shit they look exactly the same man."
He looked at me, took his hand off, and looked a little embarrassed. "Yah sorry, I'm just mad that I'm losing at pool."
I patted him on the back "All good brother, I always get pissed off when I play pool."
Then we talked for a bit, I talked to the girls for a bit, took my headphones back from the Cute Girl, and then talked to some older eagles fans in the back.
A little while later, a sexy latina girl walks in and stands awkwardly around the bar by herself. So I go over to her and ask if she is there to watch the eagles game.
"Que?" She looks confused and I swear to myself. I've had horrible luck approaching girls that don't speak english well, but I decided to try to keep the set alive since I have a bad habit of leaving sets way too early. So we talk for a bit and I get her to play pool with me. We are getting crushed and her friends that she is meeting walk in. I told her that she should meet her friends and we can talk later. Then I grab Tall Girl and tell her to come play pool with me.
She is also terrible and the two latin guys beat us easily. Then we sit down alone and I asked her if her fuck buddy was going to come to the bar. This lead to us talking about sex. I had no intention of try to get with her, but I've had mixed results with sex talk in the past so I wanted to practice. So we get into what she likes, I talk to her about how amazing it is to see a woman lying on a bed writhing in pleasure. We talk about kinks, favorite positions, we start touching alot.
Before I know it, our hands are on each other's thighs and I'm hard as a rock. I just stare into her eyes, and she stares back. After probably 10 seconds, she breathes really deeply. Then she puts her hands on my chest. She says "I really fucking wish you were taller."
I said "I doesn't matter as much if we're both lying down."
She breathes really deeply again, then says that has to go to the bathroom.
The second she leaves, her friend Cute Girl immediately comes over and sits down super close to me.
She asks "What's going on here?" with a big smile on her face.
I told her "We started talking about sex and it got a little intense."
Her face lights up even more. "What about sex?"
Then we started talking a bit. Not nearly as intense as it was with Tall Girl, but Cute Girl definitely got a little turned on.
We were talking about what she liked, and she stopped talking in the middle of her sentence. Then she said "Wait. I forget, do you live around here?"
I told her that I was only in town until Thursday, but that I'm thinking of moving to Miami (it's true. My goal is to move her by next winter.)
She frowned a bit and I can see her debating internally. Then she looked up and made a slightly embarrassed face.
She said "Oops, (Tall Girl) is coming back, good luck" Then she gave me a hug, and left.
Immediately as she leaves, Tall Girl sits down and says "Well..." with a big smirk on her face.
I don't remember exactly I said, but basically I just tried to convince her to have sex with me lol. In the past, I've had sex with probably 5 or 6 women where it was 100% obvious that we were never go to see each other or talk again after we had sex. The thing that worked for me each time was telling the girls that I was going to make the experience all about them, and that I won't be happy until they cum their fucking brains out.
She was very on the fence, then she asked me where my hotel was. Then I felt like an idiot- in my excitement of having the sex talk go so well, I forgot that she was staying with her fuck buddy and I had terrible logistics. I've fucked girls in bars and alleys before, but she was almost a foot taller than me so we definitely needed a bed. So I pulled out my phone and told her "I'll get a hotel close by."
Then she frowned and said "Uh. Get a hotel for a fuck? Eh."
I could tell that the magic was gone. So I let it go. I said "Yah I guess not. Guess you'll have to settle for your fuck buddy."
We both laughed. She gave me a hug and left. Then Cute Girl came back over.
"Tough break." She said, looking sincere.
"It happens" I shrugged. "You find a guy yet?"
She frowned. "No, I've only seen 2 guys I like and they both turned out to be fucking weird."
I put my hand on her leg. "Actually, you've seen 3 guys you like." I gave her a big smile and she moved herself closer to me, putting her hand on my chest.
She said- "Yah you're fucking hot but-"
I interrupted her and put my hands on her hips. "Your hot, I'm hot, case closed."
She sighed. "Yah we would probably have great sex, but most shorter guys are really self conscious." Then she paused for a second, thinking. "Actually, it was really fucking hot how comfortable you were being around (Tall Girl). It really turned me on." She stopped talking and drank a sip of her beer.
"So what's making you not sure about this?"
"Well I still don't ever fuck short guys. And you're from out of town. And we both have been using each other as a back up."
(Side note, I love whenever I can talk to an honest, self-aware, self-confident girl. Usually gives a few insights into the female mind.)
When she said this, I kind of fell out of seduction mode and got into logical thinking. I completely agreed with her. I know that not every girl is open to having a pre-determined one night stand. This probably hurt me with both girls. The problem was that we were very openly taking about sex and relationships earlier when I didn't really consider either of them to be a good option, so I didn't mind sounding like a player when I talked to them. I probably should have been more flirty early-on in the interaction just to be safe.
I'm always open and honest with girls, but will usually not be so straightforward and blunt about it. I was very blunt with these girls and I think it definitely hurt me later on.
Anyway,we talked logically for a bit(the sexual tension was gone). I told her that we would see where the night went and I got her number. Then we joined the group of people again.
Over the next few hours, I kept social butterflying and approached a few more girls but nothing solid happened. I got another number, but I wasn’t really feeling that girl for whatever reason.
The only other memorable approach was a sexy, short girl standing by herself near the pool tables. I talked to her for a minute and it was going well. Then some huge guy comes and stands next to her. His body is turned completely to her, he never makes eye contact with me once through the interaction.
He says “What the fuck is going on?”
She says “Calm down it’s fine.”
He says “Do I need to fucking kick this guy’s ass?”
Her: “Calm fucking down. He didn’t know that I have a boyfriend.
Him: ‘Why the fuck didn’t you tell him that you have a boyfriend.”
At this point I was very confused. It was weird having someone be so angry at me without actually looking at me. So I just gave the girl a little wave and turned to walk away, but she grabbed my arm.
She tells me “It’s fine, I want you to stay, we’re just talking.”
She tells him “Calm down, it’s fine. Go back to playing pool.”
Strangely, he just turns away and goes back to playing pool. He didn’t look at us again.
At this point I was confused as fuck. I was standing arm’s length away from her and she pulled me in closer and literally restarted our conversation that was happening before her boyfriend came over. I was very confused, so I just stood there for a minute collecting my thoughts while she was talking to me. After a minute, I told her to have a nice night and left the set.
Anyway, fast forward to the end of the night. The older cute woman that I exchanged numbers with earlier is going back to her hotel with her uncle. She has her own room, but I’d have to take a 30 minute uber there on my own. I told her that I was getting kind of tired but that she should hit me up if she ever comes to my city.
Then a little while later the bar has cleared out a bit, and I’m just sitting chatting with one of the guys I met earlier in the day. At this point, Tall Girl has gotten way too drunk so Cute Girl has to walk her home.
As they’re leaving, Cute Girl comes over to me, squeezes my arm, and says “You have my number.”
I had never sent her an ice breaker text earlier, so I sent her my name a few minutes after she left. 20 minutes after, she texted me that she was home.
I was definitely a little drunk and I probably didn’t handle this well.
I texted: “Hey let’s be forward. Do you want to hang?”
Her: “Yep” then she sent me her address.
It’s a 15 minute walk from where I am, so I start hustling over. I took a wrong turn at one point, so it took my 20 minutes to get there. When I was about 5 minutes away, she texted me.
Her: “This might be a terrible idea.”
Me: “Nope great idea. Worst case scenario you get a great massage.” (I had given her a little massage in the bar earlier and she really liked it.)
She doesn’t reply. So when I get to her building, I call her so she can come let me in.
She says she’s not feeling it anymore, she’s tired and wants to go to bed. I say we can just talk for a minute, won’t do anything she isn’t comfortable with. She just keeps repeating that’s tired and has to work the next day.
So I do a hail mary and say “Well ok but it was a long walk, at least let me use your bathroom real quick.”
She says that’s not a good idea, so I just say ok sure have a good night and hung up.
Maybe I could have ended the call better, but I was pretty grumpy at this point.
Out of frustration and horniness, I actually called the third girl that I had gotten a number from that night, but she didn’t answer and I didn’t text or leave a message.
I was very grumpy walking back to my hostel. I got one pretty strong approach invitation on the walk and I ignored it. A minute the girl had walked past me,, I realized that I was being an idiot and laughed at myself.
The day didn’t work out the way I wanted it to, but I think it was a good first step. I did more approaches today than I usually do in a month.
(For background, I’ve been with one new girl a month for the last 5 or 6 months. I would guess that I’ve only been doing 10-12 approaches each month. I almost never talk to more than 2 girls when I go out, which is a bad habit that I definitely want to change.)
Anyway, the next afternoon I texted Cute Girl about going to happy hour, but she said she wasn’t feeling social. So I put the ball her in her court.
I texted: “Well I’ll be here til Thursday” and left it at that.
I definitely could have come up with a better text, but I just didn’t want to spend the mental energy on it to be honest. I wasn’t actually expecting her to want to see me again, but I figured it was worth trying.
WRAP UP
-Long report guys, let me know if you have any feedback.
-Overall I got 3 numbers from girls, and 3 numbers from local guys haha.
-Probably did around 20-25 approaches over the 12 hours I spent in the bar, groups included.
-I did a much better job of staying in set than I usually do. I usually bail within a minute if a girl doesn’t seem very excited by my approach.
-I tried A LOT harder than I’m used to trying. At one point when I was talking to Cute Girl, I laughed and told her that I wasn’t used to trying this hard. She asked me if the girls in Pittsburgh were easier, I told her that they definitely are.
Thinking about this later, I realized that I’m going to have to start trying a lot harder consistently if I want to be successful with pickup when I move to Miami next year.
To use a sports analogy, I usually go for lay-ups. I hook up with girls that range from average to pretty cute, and only get a super attractive girl very rarely.
There are so many incredibly attractive women in Miami that I would have been mad at myself if I settled for a layup, so this motivated me to put in more effort than usual. Hopefully writing this field report will help me learn the lesson. I’d really like to stop settling for layups and start shooting three pointers.
I really want to start going for girls that make me say “Woah.”
Anyway, thanks for reading guys.
-Dallas
I'm staying in Miami Beach for 2 weeks and wanted to find a sports bar to watch the Eagles game (Philadelphia Eagles, an NFL team). So I went on google and found an eagles bar called LOST WEEKEND.
I put the name in capitals because I'm fairly sure that it is the best dive bar I have ever been to. If you are in Miami and want to hang at a chill, affordable place definitely check it out.
Anyway, I had a little bit of momentum that I built up Saturday night. My hostel's restaurant becomes a lounge and nightclub on the weekends, so I spent the night there. Long story short, I spent the whole night with a girl staying in the same room as me. We started dancing at the nightclub in a friendly manner, but the vibe turned sexual quickly. This made me laugh because she spent the whole night telling me how she loves Latin men and they are the only men for her (I'm mixed race, white and black.)
So at a certain point when we are dancing, she turns around and gives me the "kiss me" look. So I did. We made out on the dance floor, then I moved us to a couch when things started getting pretty intense. Our hands were everywhere all over each other, tongues down throats. She started panting, breathing very heavily, moaning with excitement.
And then she just got up and left. Didn't push me away, didn't look upset or angry, didn't say anything, just left. So I sat there for a minute feeling confused, trying to figure out what I had done. Then I thought fuck it, better to ask. So I walked outside and saw her sitting by herself at a table.
I said "Uhhh, we cool?"
She had very closed off body language "Yah I'm just tired."
"Ok that's cool. Just wanted to make sure that there wasn't something to talk about."
"Well..." she looked down at her phone, "I'm flying to see my ex boyfriend after I leave here and we might get back together, so I shouldn't have sex tonight."
I laughed a little, not in a mean way. I just felt relieved that I hadn't done something that made her feel uncomfortable.
"Alrighty" I said. "That's totally cool, but you could have just said that. You're pretty chill and I don't want there to be any awkward feelings."
"You're right. Yah I'm just not feeling now after I thought about my ex. Sorry."
"All good." I put my hand on her shoulder and smiled. "I'm gonna head back in there, feel free to come back in if you want to later. If not I'll see you later."
So I went back inside and danced a bit, but all of the girls on the dance floor were paired up. The few girls I approached in other areas all spoke very broken English, so I just went to bed.
ANYWAY. That was Saturday night. That interaction had me feel pretty good the next day, as a girl who told me that she only liked one race of men ended up being so turned on be me that she knew we'd fuck if we spent more time together.
(I think the lesson is that sometimes girls are awkward or weird for reasons that don't have anything to do with you. I realize that this is probably something I could have done to turn the situation around, but overall I feel pretty good about it.)
So the next day on Sunday, I get to the bar around 2pm to watch football (the eagles game started at 430). It's just a few dudes and one couple when I get there. There are two dudes sitting alone at high-top tables behind the bar. I ordered a pitcher of beer and sat down next to the guy who looked more chill. I asked him who he was rooting for, then we just started chatting. At one point, two dudes at the bar in front of us joined in on the conversation and our groups merged.
So around 4pm, the bar really starts to fill up. While I was in the bathroom, 2 girls came in and ordered drinks next to my new friends. The one was cute with an amazing ass and very tan, she was probably two inches taller than me (I'm 5'4"). Her friend was 6'3", super lanky and tall but more fun to talk to. The Tall Girl was in town visiting her fuck buddy, who was in his 40s and didn't feel like going out. The Cute Girl was a local, very upfront, assertive, dominant. Before I said anything to her, she had her hands on my shoulder, asking me if she could use my headphones hanging around my neck.
Neither girl was a good option for me, so I just talked to them to get some feminine energy and preselection. The Tall Girl was too tall, and I've met girls like the Cute Girl before. She's one of the rare girls that will approach, and will end up fucking whatever guy she wants to fuck. She likes to be the aggressor, so I just decided to be chill and see what happens.
After talking for a while (4 guys including me and the two girls) I get a little bored. Two of the guys are really going for the girls, so I let them go for it. I see a cuter but older woman sitting at the bar, so I sat down next to her and asked her if she was an eagles fan. We chat for a bit, she's there with a wedding party but she's not friends with most of them, so she's sitting at the bar by herself watching the game. At this point the bar is getting rowdy, so I got her number early just in case. Right after I got her number, her uncle came over, sat down next to us, and started giving me death glares. I tried to talk to him a few times and he kept giving me one word answers, so I just told the girl that we would talk later and I went back to my first group.
At this point, my first group was playing pool with two latino guys that I hadn't talked to yet. After chatting for a bit, I accidentally grab one of the latino's guys pitcher instead of mine and he comes over to me and puts his hands on me and says "What the fuck that's my beer man."
I look at him, looked at the pitcher in my hand, then put the pitcher back on the table, looked back and forth between the two pitchers, then looked back at him. I did this slowly, deliberately, calmly.
Then I told him "Shit they look exactly the same man."
He looked at me, took his hand off, and looked a little embarrassed. "Yah sorry, I'm just mad that I'm losing at pool."
I patted him on the back "All good brother, I always get pissed off when I play pool."
Then we talked for a bit, I talked to the girls for a bit, took my headphones back from the Cute Girl, and then talked to some older eagles fans in the back.
A little while later, a sexy latina girl walks in and stands awkwardly around the bar by herself. So I go over to her and ask if she is there to watch the eagles game.
"Que?" She looks confused and I swear to myself. I've had horrible luck approaching girls that don't speak english well, but I decided to try to keep the set alive since I have a bad habit of leaving sets way too early. So we talk for a bit and I get her to play pool with me. We are getting crushed and her friends that she is meeting walk in. I told her that she should meet her friends and we can talk later. Then I grab Tall Girl and tell her to come play pool with me.
She is also terrible and the two latin guys beat us easily. Then we sit down alone and I asked her if her fuck buddy was going to come to the bar. This lead to us talking about sex. I had no intention of try to get with her, but I've had mixed results with sex talk in the past so I wanted to practice. So we get into what she likes, I talk to her about how amazing it is to see a woman lying on a bed writhing in pleasure. We talk about kinks, favorite positions, we start touching alot.
Before I know it, our hands are on each other's thighs and I'm hard as a rock. I just stare into her eyes, and she stares back. After probably 10 seconds, she breathes really deeply. Then she puts her hands on my chest. She says "I really fucking wish you were taller."
I said "I doesn't matter as much if we're both lying down."
She breathes really deeply again, then says that has to go to the bathroom.
The second she leaves, her friend Cute Girl immediately comes over and sits down super close to me.
She asks "What's going on here?" with a big smile on her face.
I told her "We started talking about sex and it got a little intense."
Her face lights up even more. "What about sex?"
Then we started talking a bit. Not nearly as intense as it was with Tall Girl, but Cute Girl definitely got a little turned on.
We were talking about what she liked, and she stopped talking in the middle of her sentence. Then she said "Wait. I forget, do you live around here?"
I told her that I was only in town until Thursday, but that I'm thinking of moving to Miami (it's true. My goal is to move her by next winter.)
She frowned a bit and I can see her debating internally. Then she looked up and made a slightly embarrassed face.
She said "Oops, (Tall Girl) is coming back, good luck" Then she gave me a hug, and left.
Immediately as she leaves, Tall Girl sits down and says "Well..." with a big smirk on her face.
I don't remember exactly I said, but basically I just tried to convince her to have sex with me lol. In the past, I've had sex with probably 5 or 6 women where it was 100% obvious that we were never go to see each other or talk again after we had sex. The thing that worked for me each time was telling the girls that I was going to make the experience all about them, and that I won't be happy until they cum their fucking brains out.
She was very on the fence, then she asked me where my hotel was. Then I felt like an idiot- in my excitement of having the sex talk go so well, I forgot that she was staying with her fuck buddy and I had terrible logistics. I've fucked girls in bars and alleys before, but she was almost a foot taller than me so we definitely needed a bed. So I pulled out my phone and told her "I'll get a hotel close by."
Then she frowned and said "Uh. Get a hotel for a fuck? Eh."
I could tell that the magic was gone. So I let it go. I said "Yah I guess not. Guess you'll have to settle for your fuck buddy."
We both laughed. She gave me a hug and left. Then Cute Girl came back over.
"Tough break." She said, looking sincere.
"It happens" I shrugged. "You find a guy yet?"
She frowned. "No, I've only seen 2 guys I like and they both turned out to be fucking weird."
I put my hand on her leg. "Actually, you've seen 3 guys you like." I gave her a big smile and she moved herself closer to me, putting her hand on my chest.
She said- "Yah you're fucking hot but-"
I interrupted her and put my hands on her hips. "Your hot, I'm hot, case closed."
She sighed. "Yah we would probably have great sex, but most shorter guys are really self conscious." Then she paused for a second, thinking. "Actually, it was really fucking hot how comfortable you were being around (Tall Girl). It really turned me on." She stopped talking and drank a sip of her beer.
"So what's making you not sure about this?"
"Well I still don't ever fuck short guys. And you're from out of town. And we both have been using each other as a back up."
(Side note, I love whenever I can talk to an honest, self-aware, self-confident girl. Usually gives a few insights into the female mind.)
When she said this, I kind of fell out of seduction mode and got into logical thinking. I completely agreed with her. I know that not every girl is open to having a pre-determined one night stand. This probably hurt me with both girls. The problem was that we were very openly taking about sex and relationships earlier when I didn't really consider either of them to be a good option, so I didn't mind sounding like a player when I talked to them. I probably should have been more flirty early-on in the interaction just to be safe.
I'm always open and honest with girls, but will usually not be so straightforward and blunt about it. I was very blunt with these girls and I think it definitely hurt me later on.
Anyway,we talked logically for a bit(the sexual tension was gone). I told her that we would see where the night went and I got her number. Then we joined the group of people again.
Over the next few hours, I kept social butterflying and approached a few more girls but nothing solid happened. I got another number, but I wasn’t really feeling that girl for whatever reason.
The only other memorable approach was a sexy, short girl standing by herself near the pool tables. I talked to her for a minute and it was going well. Then some huge guy comes and stands next to her. His body is turned completely to her, he never makes eye contact with me once through the interaction.
He says “What the fuck is going on?”
She says “Calm down it’s fine.”
He says “Do I need to fucking kick this guy’s ass?”
Her: “Calm fucking down. He didn’t know that I have a boyfriend.
Him: ‘Why the fuck didn’t you tell him that you have a boyfriend.”
At this point I was very confused. It was weird having someone be so angry at me without actually looking at me. So I just gave the girl a little wave and turned to walk away, but she grabbed my arm.
She tells me “It’s fine, I want you to stay, we’re just talking.”
She tells him “Calm down, it’s fine. Go back to playing pool.”
Strangely, he just turns away and goes back to playing pool. He didn’t look at us again.
At this point I was confused as fuck. I was standing arm’s length away from her and she pulled me in closer and literally restarted our conversation that was happening before her boyfriend came over. I was very confused, so I just stood there for a minute collecting my thoughts while she was talking to me. After a minute, I told her to have a nice night and left the set.
Anyway, fast forward to the end of the night. The older cute woman that I exchanged numbers with earlier is going back to her hotel with her uncle. She has her own room, but I’d have to take a 30 minute uber there on my own. I told her that I was getting kind of tired but that she should hit me up if she ever comes to my city.
Then a little while later the bar has cleared out a bit, and I’m just sitting chatting with one of the guys I met earlier in the day. At this point, Tall Girl has gotten way too drunk so Cute Girl has to walk her home.
As they’re leaving, Cute Girl comes over to me, squeezes my arm, and says “You have my number.”
I had never sent her an ice breaker text earlier, so I sent her my name a few minutes after she left. 20 minutes after, she texted me that she was home.
I was definitely a little drunk and I probably didn’t handle this well.
I texted: “Hey let’s be forward. Do you want to hang?”
Her: “Yep” then she sent me her address.
It’s a 15 minute walk from where I am, so I start hustling over. I took a wrong turn at one point, so it took my 20 minutes to get there. When I was about 5 minutes away, she texted me.
Her: “This might be a terrible idea.”
Me: “Nope great idea. Worst case scenario you get a great massage.” (I had given her a little massage in the bar earlier and she really liked it.)
She doesn’t reply. So when I get to her building, I call her so she can come let me in.
She says she’s not feeling it anymore, she’s tired and wants to go to bed. I say we can just talk for a minute, won’t do anything she isn’t comfortable with. She just keeps repeating that’s tired and has to work the next day.
So I do a hail mary and say “Well ok but it was a long walk, at least let me use your bathroom real quick.”
She says that’s not a good idea, so I just say ok sure have a good night and hung up.
Maybe I could have ended the call better, but I was pretty grumpy at this point.
Out of frustration and horniness, I actually called the third girl that I had gotten a number from that night, but she didn’t answer and I didn’t text or leave a message.
I was very grumpy walking back to my hostel. I got one pretty strong approach invitation on the walk and I ignored it. A minute the girl had walked past me,, I realized that I was being an idiot and laughed at myself.
The day didn’t work out the way I wanted it to, but I think it was a good first step. I did more approaches today than I usually do in a month.
(For background, I’ve been with one new girl a month for the last 5 or 6 months. I would guess that I’ve only been doing 10-12 approaches each month. I almost never talk to more than 2 girls when I go out, which is a bad habit that I definitely want to change.)
Anyway, the next afternoon I texted Cute Girl about going to happy hour, but she said she wasn’t feeling social. So I put the ball her in her court.
I texted: “Well I’ll be here til Thursday” and left it at that.
I definitely could have come up with a better text, but I just didn’t want to spend the mental energy on it to be honest. I wasn’t actually expecting her to want to see me again, but I figured it was worth trying.
WRAP UP
-Long report guys, let me know if you have any feedback.
-Overall I got 3 numbers from girls, and 3 numbers from local guys haha.
-Probably did around 20-25 approaches over the 12 hours I spent in the bar, groups included.
-I did a much better job of staying in set than I usually do. I usually bail within a minute if a girl doesn’t seem very excited by my approach.
-I tried A LOT harder than I’m used to trying. At one point when I was talking to Cute Girl, I laughed and told her that I wasn’t used to trying this hard. She asked me if the girls in Pittsburgh were easier, I told her that they definitely are.
Thinking about this later, I realized that I’m going to have to start trying a lot harder consistently if I want to be successful with pickup when I move to Miami next year.
To use a sports analogy, I usually go for lay-ups. I hook up with girls that range from average to pretty cute, and only get a super attractive girl very rarely.
There are so many incredibly attractive women in Miami that I would have been mad at myself if I settled for a layup, so this motivated me to put in more effort than usual. Hopefully writing this field report will help me learn the lesson. I’d really like to stop settling for layups and start shooting three pointers.
I really want to start going for girls that make me say “Woah.”
Anyway, thanks for reading guys.
-Dallas
