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I haven't prowled the beach in a while. When I stepped foot on the sand, I suddenly felt the weight of my experience. I'm not the best seducer, but I've been here before, I've had my share of highs and lows. I saw the worst which isn't that bad, and I saw the best which can be incredible.
Today would be a very good day.
Something else I noticed; I usually only do direct openers. And today I could feel how that wasn't always the best way. Some part of me could see that reality pacing and "indirect" would be much better.
So as I walked along the beach, I took the time to take it all in. When you're out the meet new women, you shouldn't let that consume you. There is more to life than pussy, and it makes you more relatable and ultimately better at game. This coming from an absolute pussy fiend.
Anyway, the weather is amazing. Not too many people out, but a few. Catch a few cuties in sight, but they're with their boyz. Suddenly I notice a smitten-able kitten in red. I don't look at her too much. Too many sharks at the beach, better to pre-open by letting her see me. I don't like contrivances if I can avoid them, but pre-opening is pretty good at a place like a beach where people stay put for awhile. I walk along the beach some more, sometimes you can find bigger fish.
Lucky for me, I didn't see anyone else. Seeing this cutie up close, she's a personal 9 or 10. We make a little eye contact, and I see her smile a little. Usually I fuck up this kind of eye contact, or maybe I don't give myself enough credit here.
I don't open right away, I like to take a swim first and cool off before settling in for a chat. Helps calm my nerves too, I deal with some general anxiety.
I see her trying to get the perfect selfie, part of me feels like she was trying to catch my attention, and I was loving it. It was genuinely adorable and enjoyable watching her try to get the right picture. I was watching her and it felt right. I don't know if people have some sort of sense for this, but something told me she was comfortable with it.
After awhile I got a little uncomfortable, I was getting in my head and slightly avoiding opening her. I went the water again real quick to wash the sand off. I was half in control and feeling like a boss, half feeling like a chump avoiding saying hi.
When I get back to the towel, I finally, call over her too her "How many selfies does it take to get the perfect one?"
She lights up and laughs about how her hair is blowing in the wind too much. Man she looks SO good in red.
After we chat some small talk for a bit from a bit of a distance, I steal a line from @Tony D and tell her that "Red is your Power color" she says "waht? I can;t hear you" And I take the chance to move my stuff closer to her. It was obvious at this point that we had rapport building. is that what you call a hook point? learning what that is.
Anyway won't get into too much about the conversation. Deep diving and vibing. Things I'm good at. I had another sense she wanted me to touch her arm bit and get closer, especially a little later when we took a swim. I held back because I didn't want it to get too hot, and I could feel that even a little touch might start an avalanche (at least for me) and we had to part ways right after the swim.
From experience and the expert advice here from GC (god fuckin' bless y'all) I knew that numbers don't mean shit. The connection does and we were both feeling it. Make plans there for a date, which I did, it's more congruent. She was telling me about this cool nature place nearby, and we decided to go together. All in all I tend to underestimate girls interest, and I think she is probably into me more than I'm assuming here. She made things real smooth for me. She asked for my number right before I could. She even walked with me towards my car.
Anyway, I notice that a lot of guys do well with warming up. But my best approaches are often my one and only approach of the day. She's totally my type, into me, and so far so good.
I tend to only approach girls I'm genuinely very attracted to, and it usually goes well. Perhaps it because I'm naturally pretty social and can calibrate well, bit of an empath. I usually am more comfortable the more attracted I am to her.
I think they call this sniper game. I've been thinking more and more about seduction style in game as a bunch of moving parts that work well together. Everything from how you dress to how you act, should work together to create a flow. Are you playful or more serious, are you a rocker vs a elegant, are you bold or a tease, do you snipe or do you hustle?
One thing that can fuck with me, is my general anxiety combined with the excitement of meeting a cool sexy chick, combined with being a horny bastard, leads me to feel cloudy headed about texting. I don't necessarily fuck things up, but it feels like a lot more mental effort to figure out the "right" thing to do to move things forward to the date when I'm not relaxed.
Today would be a very good day.
Something else I noticed; I usually only do direct openers. And today I could feel how that wasn't always the best way. Some part of me could see that reality pacing and "indirect" would be much better.
So as I walked along the beach, I took the time to take it all in. When you're out the meet new women, you shouldn't let that consume you. There is more to life than pussy, and it makes you more relatable and ultimately better at game. This coming from an absolute pussy fiend.
Anyway, the weather is amazing. Not too many people out, but a few. Catch a few cuties in sight, but they're with their boyz. Suddenly I notice a smitten-able kitten in red. I don't look at her too much. Too many sharks at the beach, better to pre-open by letting her see me. I don't like contrivances if I can avoid them, but pre-opening is pretty good at a place like a beach where people stay put for awhile. I walk along the beach some more, sometimes you can find bigger fish.
Lucky for me, I didn't see anyone else. Seeing this cutie up close, she's a personal 9 or 10. We make a little eye contact, and I see her smile a little. Usually I fuck up this kind of eye contact, or maybe I don't give myself enough credit here.
I don't open right away, I like to take a swim first and cool off before settling in for a chat. Helps calm my nerves too, I deal with some general anxiety.
I see her trying to get the perfect selfie, part of me feels like she was trying to catch my attention, and I was loving it. It was genuinely adorable and enjoyable watching her try to get the right picture. I was watching her and it felt right. I don't know if people have some sort of sense for this, but something told me she was comfortable with it.
After awhile I got a little uncomfortable, I was getting in my head and slightly avoiding opening her. I went the water again real quick to wash the sand off. I was half in control and feeling like a boss, half feeling like a chump avoiding saying hi.
When I get back to the towel, I finally, call over her too her "How many selfies does it take to get the perfect one?"
She lights up and laughs about how her hair is blowing in the wind too much. Man she looks SO good in red.
After we chat some small talk for a bit from a bit of a distance, I steal a line from @Tony D and tell her that "Red is your Power color" she says "waht? I can;t hear you" And I take the chance to move my stuff closer to her. It was obvious at this point that we had rapport building. is that what you call a hook point? learning what that is.
Anyway won't get into too much about the conversation. Deep diving and vibing. Things I'm good at. I had another sense she wanted me to touch her arm bit and get closer, especially a little later when we took a swim. I held back because I didn't want it to get too hot, and I could feel that even a little touch might start an avalanche (at least for me) and we had to part ways right after the swim.
From experience and the expert advice here from GC (god fuckin' bless y'all) I knew that numbers don't mean shit. The connection does and we were both feeling it. Make plans there for a date, which I did, it's more congruent. She was telling me about this cool nature place nearby, and we decided to go together. All in all I tend to underestimate girls interest, and I think she is probably into me more than I'm assuming here. She made things real smooth for me. She asked for my number right before I could. She even walked with me towards my car.
Anyway, I notice that a lot of guys do well with warming up. But my best approaches are often my one and only approach of the day. She's totally my type, into me, and so far so good.
I tend to only approach girls I'm genuinely very attracted to, and it usually goes well. Perhaps it because I'm naturally pretty social and can calibrate well, bit of an empath. I usually am more comfortable the more attracted I am to her.
I think they call this sniper game. I've been thinking more and more about seduction style in game as a bunch of moving parts that work well together. Everything from how you dress to how you act, should work together to create a flow. Are you playful or more serious, are you a rocker vs a elegant, are you bold or a tease, do you snipe or do you hustle?
One thing that can fuck with me, is my general anxiety combined with the excitement of meeting a cool sexy chick, combined with being a horny bastard, leads me to feel cloudy headed about texting. I don't necessarily fuck things up, but it feels like a lot more mental effort to figure out the "right" thing to do to move things forward to the date when I'm not relaxed.
