Super unrealistic standards or just knowing what you want?

[MisterX]

First of all I'm not talking about unrealistic standards for looks. I find lots girls that I really like the look of. As I said I'm lucky to live in a country and city with lots and lost of really beautiful women.



Here's the thing - I like all kinds of girls, but i don't really care about them even when I go out and sleep with them.

I mean I don't and can't feel a connection with normal girls. I just don't see them as my equals.

I don't them bad or condescending but I just treat them the way you'd treat a kitten - you will be nice to it and take care of it but you'll never view it as your equal.



And this is the reason I can't find a girl that I'd like to be in a relationship with or have feelings for.





But there is a type of women that I really like and would fall for. And those are strong women.

Independent and able to take care of themselves in financial, emotional and other ways. And also are skilled in martial arts and can use weapons such as guns, swords and knives and basically if someone tried to attack/rape her - the attacker will be the on in hospital.


BUT there is one big thing she has to be caring and nurturing and soft but only sometimes. And you know attractive and cute and sexy. Not some big scary woman like those in prisons.

You know being able to kick ass and not afraid to do what needs to be done, but still feminine when she doesn't have to be tough.

Being weak and soft and cuddly when you're with her and are together.



I don't know why but this is the only kind of woman that's made me think - here's a woman I'd like to be with in a relationship and fall in love with.



Some examples come to mind like:
Selene from Underworld (not talking about the whole being vampire and killer - talking about her character)
Sarah from the Tv series Chuck
Mikasa from Attack on titan
Hannah Mckay from Dexter




i know they are all movie/tv characters and I think that those kinds of women just don't exist so I'm thinking that I should just try and like normal weak girls.




Cause I know that there are strong women that are strong as character but I doubt they can wield a katana, shoot with all kinds of guns, be skilled with knives and such.

Most girls are easily scared. If someone tries to mug them or rape them, most girls will be helpless and really scared. I don't know why but I don't find this attractive in a woman. I prefer stronger women who don't get scared and don't panic.




So do you guys think that I should just try and settle for a normal girl and try and love her and be happy, or keep living in this dream that I'll find a strong girl, which I don't think I'll soon find.
Cause I'm soon turning 21, and there aren't much strong 18-21 year old girls. And even if there are I can't seem to find any of them.




So I'm turning mainly to Chase and Franco if I should just try to go for normal girls or keep looking for a strong girl?
And if you think I should keep looking - any advice on where and how I can find them? and how I can early screen every girl to know if she's a strong one?

even though this question is mainly towards Chase and Franco, I'd like to hear what other people think so don't be shy and give your two cents.

 

[Richard]

Re: Super unrealistic standards or just knowing what you wan

Never settle for anything less than what you're looking for, as far as screening early on for strong girls, you should notice some girls you'll see and you'll automatically feel the vibe, Chase himself stated he hasn't dated a woman who didn't give him that vibe. Anyway, as far as screening any women, write out what qualities you'd like on your ideal girl, then write out questions which directly relate to those qualities.

I.used to ask questions that assume. For instance, if you want a girl who likes to cuddle on Friday nights while watching a romantic movie then ask an assumed question like, "I peg you as the type of girl who enjoys relaxing quiet time on Friday nights instead of hitting up the club scene, am I wrong?

 

[Marty]

Re: Super unrealistic standards or just knowing what you wan

One thing I noticed, seduction is a little like dancing; the whole affair proceeds a lot more smoothly if both parties know what they're doing.

When you open confident, attractive girls who are accustomed to being hit on, the process is a great deal more rewarding, and you learn much more, than if you attempt the same with "weak" women.

 

[Franco]

Re: Super unrealistic standards or just knowing what you wan

X,

So I'm turning mainly to Chase and Franco if I should just try to go for normal girls or keep looking for a strong girl?

Your definition of "strong" is certainly a bit different from the usual definition of the word "strong" that we throw around on this website; the usual definition, in terms of women, means independent (both emotionally and financially), outspoken, and resourceful. It seems like you want a woman who is all of the aforementioned items, but you also seem to include physical strength and discipline as a trait as well. That can be pretty unique.

Before we delve into that, you might want to ask yourself if that is something that will actually satisfy what you're looking for in a long-term relationship partner. While you might be able to find a girl who's trained in some form of defensive art and is capable of kicking a dude's ass, it will probably be something you'll rarely (or never) see when you're with her because students of the defensive arts are trained to not use their skills unless they are in significant, physical danger. However, maybe just the fact that you know she's capable of defending herself physically if she were to be attacked is enough to turn you on. That is entirely up to you and what you desire in a woman.

So let's now assume that you know this is what you're looking for. You want that girl who is not only strong emotionally, but capable of putting a malevolent aggressor straight on his ass.

any advice on where and how I can find them? and how I can early screen every girl to know if she's a strong one?

Just like I tell any other person who wants to screen for a girl with a particular trait or interest, you'll have the best results meeting women at locations where she's engaging in that activity. That way, you won't need to screen for that activity, and you'll only need to screen her for the personality and looks that mesh with what you look for in a woman.

So if you want a woman who's physically capable of defending herself, then my advice would be to join a form of martial arts, kick-boxing, or jiu-jitsu club where you'll find women who are trained to fight. The women you approach here will obviously be trained to defend themselves should they be attacked, so if you find a woman who's relatively attractive, you can approach her, ask her on a date, and progress things from there. This will ensure that the women you approach are not "physically weak" and incapable of defending themselves.

I've seen some rather attractive women sometimes engage in these activities, so you should hopefully have a pool to choose from. But your choices will be limited by whatever girls are available in these classes.

I hope this is clear!

- Franco

P.S.

Selene from Underworld (not talking about the whole being vampire and killer - talking about her character)

Kate Beckinsale is awesome, especially in this movie. I love her style and personality, both in the movie and in real life. =)

- Franco

 

[MisterX]

Re: Super unrealistic standards or just knowing what you wan

So if you want a woman who's physically capable of defending herself, then my advice would be to join a form of martial arts, kick-boxing, or jiu-jitsu club where you'll find women who are trained to fight.

I'm in a krav maga(since it's basically street fighting and is one of the few styles that are useful) class and kendo class, and training with a few people in other kinds of weapons training, but there aren't any attractive girls there.

That's why I think I won't find any girls at such a class, and that I'll have to screen the girls I meet with day game.


Or something else I've been thinking is that when I fall for a girl and get into a relationship I can teach her how to defend herself.

Cause it's not only about being hot, but also If I'm dating a girl and care for her, I'll want her to be able to protect herself is the worst happens.


Cause a female friend got mugged 4 times in 2013 alone, and got hit and a couple of years back another female friend of mine got raped and beaten.


And I wouldn't want my girlfriend to become a victim.

Plus I have a temper when it comes to those kinds of things. I mean I'm super calm but if I love a girl and she gets raped I will 100% kill the guy who did it. I just lose it when someone hurts someone I care about.

Kate Beckinsale is awesome, especially in this movie. I love her style and personality, both in the movie and in real life. =)

Plus she has an amazing voice and accent.

 

[Marty]

Re: Super unrealistic standards or just knowing what you wan

Kate Beckinsale is awesome, especially in this movie. I love her style and personality, both in the movie and in real life. =)

I have adored Kate Beckinsale ever since 1995 in Cold Comfort Farm. Though 18 years have passed, no other actress has come anywhere near supplanting her as my favorite. In Serendipity she is simply mouthwatering.

While I have never thought of myself as having a "type", if I were pressed to define what encapsulates ideal femininity, Beckinsale would be my choice.

Nice to virtually meet someone who shares my predilection, Franco ;-)

-Marty

 

[Richard]

Re: Super unrealistic standards or just knowing what you wan

X,
in addition to Franco's advice, I have a bit to add. Instead of hitting up martial arts clubs, try hitting up any place involving exercise like the gym, yoga classes (be cautious though), any place that is meant for exercising. Girls who enjoy exercising will usually be open to trying out martial arts ( I got my ex GF into Karate for self defense, and several other athletic girls into it as well), because you can explain to them the benefits of learning and partaking in such activities...

The exercise based side of them will enjoy the cardio and work out potential martial arts offer, and most women are also more than happy to learn how to defend themselves. So basically, instead of just hitting up martial arts clubs, hit up any place of exercise, pull a girl, and then you can get her to learn what you want to teach her

-Hope this helped,

Richard