Switching targets while with a wing

[Kvothe]

So a certain situation popped up yesterday. I was out with a wing and opened a set. He joined and talked to the second girl of the two-set. However, off the bat, I felt the chemistry and vibe much better with the girl I didn't open, and the vibe with the girl I did open wasn't there.

It also turns out that my wing was not interested in the second girl. Curious if there is a good way to subtly switch targets, if both you and your wing can communicate to each other that you want to switch?

It feels like a bad situation overall, since one of the girls is likely to feel jilted. My thought yesterday was something like having the girls do a compliance test, something like ask them to take a photo of you and your wing since you haven't been out in a while. The girls comply, and you let your wing come back to the set first. If he stays where he originally was, you stick with the original girl. If he switches spots, then he affirms he's not into his girl and you can go for her.

After that, some good group banter, followed by some qualifications to the girl you had a better vibe with, to make her feel like she did something that made you want her instead?

Would love to hear ideas.

Also found a new venue with a great vibe, more quiet atmosphere, and gorgeous women at a good ratio. Happy to have a new nightgame location. Also many cute girls mentioned another spot, so that's also on my list to check out, though it is worse logistically (10 min drive to pull vs 10 min walk).

Also I know that going out solo is another option to avoid this situation, but I like going solo twice a week, and with a wing once.

 

[DoWhatWorks]

Think you may be overthinking this one man

Curious if there is a good way to subtly switch targets, if both you and your wing can communicate to each other that you want to switch?

1. Could bounce the girls to a smoking area “to actually hear” as plausible deniability than swap.

Can then confirm with a quick look/ lean in if what you suspect is correct with your wing.

After a while though probably don’t need to even do this. I know the types of all my wings & vice Verda so it’s all sub-communicated now.

2. Could literally swap girls mid convo under guise of being sociable “and not had a chance to speak to you yet”

Think sociable getting to know each other frames.

It feels like a bad situation overall, since one of the girls is likely to feel jilted.

If the girls feel the mutual affection for the vice versa swap it’s nothing to worry

followed by some qualifications to the girl you had a better vibe with,

Again think it’s overkill. If early enough in the interaction still in sociable vs turning it on mode.


Also would love to hear how you found your new venue. Trying to find another new place after moving and it’s been hit and miss

Also I know that going out solo is another option to avoid this situation, but I like going solo twice a week, and with a wing once.

I almost exclusively go out with wings. Find it more fun to be honest & lucky to have enough competent ones around.

 

[Kvothe]

Think you may be overthinking this one man


1. Could bounce the girls to a smoking area “to actually hear” as plausible deniability than swap.

Can then confirm with a quick look/ lean in if what you suspect is correct with your wing.

After a while though probably don’t need to even do this. I know the types of all my wings & vice Verda so it’s all sub-communicated now.

2. Could literally swap girls mid convo under guise of being sociable “and not had a chance to speak to you yet”

Think sociable getting to know each other frames.




If the girls feel the mutual affection for the vice versa swap it’s nothing to worry


Again think it’s overkill. If early enough in the interaction still in sociable vs turning it on mode.


Also would love to hear how you found your new venue. Trying to find another new place after moving and it’s been hit and miss



I almost exclusively go out with wings. Find it more fun to be honest & lucky to have enough competent ones around.

Thanks for the advice! Yeah might be overthinking it haha-this has just happened a few times

Re: finding new venues-I don't really have any good advice. I kind of stumbled into the last few spots by accident... The spot I found on Friday was somewhere I'd been to before that the vibe wasn't good when I last visited, but this time it was just filled with model looking girls. Yesterday I accidentally walked into the wrong bar and it turned out to have a really nice vibe too. I feel that serendipity and just pushing past initial biases to check out new places and just walk in are the main things. Increasing the luck surface area. Also, two extremely cute girls both mentioned being in the same spot earlier in the night, so I figure that's a spot that may be worth checking out to see the vibe as well.