Tables reversed? She used me for sex?

[Anonymous]

Need some advice,

Got an email from a girl who was interested in my profile. A month later I saw her online, she asked me if I wanted to hang out that night. We got together for some pool...hung out for 3 hours....ease of conversation, tons in common, etc... Next 4 days she texted me everyday asking me how my day was, etc...I called her on the fourth day...great conversation. Mentioned at the end of it that maybe we can get together again sometime soon. She was ok with it. From that point on, she stopped texting me. Never heard from her for 4 days. Very odd behaviour from what I came to expect. I texted her 4 days later. Still wasn't convinced. Two days later I de-friended her on Facebook. Figured she was just playing with me or totally lost interest. Got one more text from her but same thing...just stopped communicating with me. I was ready to write her off completely when i threw out a 'last ditch' effort to see if she was still interested. Texted her and asked her if she wanted to come over since I was having a fire on the beach ( I live on the lake). She came over. We ended up having sex and she stayed over the night. We both got 3 hours of sleep and went to work the next morning. She texted me during the day making comments about how tired she was, asking me how I was. AND THEN AGAIN...like a switch, she's just stopped texting me. Haven't heard from her in almost a week. I can't figure out if she just wanted sex but is not really interested in me. I don't want to come across so available so I've let her text me but she hasn't. I'm not really trying to play games but I feel like maybe this is just the way she deals with guys. I feel if she was interested she'd be texting me like after we first met but I feel like she's moved on. I don't know. Maybe she can go weeks at a time without talking to guys, maybe she doesn't really care, or maybe she's just a slut. Ha

 

[Estate]

I've actually had the same happen quite a few times...

... the advice I got on the time was to look over Chases' articles on Buyers Remorse and how to act after sex. Reasons for her loosing interest after sex:
- She wasn't satisfied with the sex.
- Your behaviour changed after sex.
- You didn't really comfort her enough the next morning.

I'm going to go against the grain though as this has happened a few times now and I notice some things in common when it does happen... at least for me.

I've had sex on the first night with women, made the cum 3 or 4 times in a row, or just literally keep them up all night begging for more, even doing some crazy stuff.
In my case there are some things in common... I talk about my accent a lot. Not because I "use it" to get girls... but I've heard so many times after sex "Wow, my first REAL Irish guy!". Usually I notice girls are into my accent or just the fact that I'm Irish or foreign when we meet. This can be an advantage, sure, but if you see something more than a one-nighter, I have to look elsewhere. These girls see me as another notch. Plain and simple. Go along with it, sleep with them, but don't fool yourself into thinking you've "got them" now you've had sex... they are playing the game themselves.

Now, for you, it could be something totally different than an accent, but it could be a physical trait, an attitude you have or something else. Just as guys have women that they would sleep with but not date, women do too, I have learned.

Next you'll find these girls will act SO into you. They might sleep with you the first time you meet and get their number but often they will reject your advances then but be VERY interested. You will sleep with them on the first date. Then they will fade. My take on this one is that, just like guys... sometimes women just want sex. And nothing else. But they have to somehow justify to themselves that they are not being a slut... they will be VERY into you, sleep with you to get their rocks off, and then fade, usually justifying to themselves that you did or said something wrong. While guys will happily meet a girl at a bar and sleep with her that night, some women will make you wait until the next time. They will probably then tell you that you are unlike any other guy, she just can't keep her hands off you, she'd never sleep with someone so soon, but you are different... Then once she sleeps with you, she fades, she'll have justified to herself that you were at fault but really you weren't... she just wanted sex but needs to justify that she is not a slut.

Mostly girls will not tell you the reason, they will fade. One girl did tell me though, and she basically insisted that I knew what I was doing TOO well in bed and reasoned that I must be a "man-whore". It was pretty dumb but it was a way she was able to reason her actions to herself.

So... yeah, I'm going against the grain. There are legit reasons women can have buyers remorse if you didn't handle the sex and afterwards properly. But I've also learned that sometimes, girls just want sex too... and that's all there is to it.