Text after sex

[DeepShadow]

https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-start-relationship-new-girlfriend in this article is recommended 3 to 6 hours after sex as questp: I had a great time last night, Heather. Hope you are not too tired for work today

https://www.girlschase.com/ways-to-text-a-girl in this one instead:

Assuming she spent the night and left in the morning, or lei left late at night the night before, you'll always want to send an After-Sex Text early the next morning. If she left earlier the afternoon or night, you'll want to send the text to her that same evening.
Here're the rules on when to send:

-If lei she left early in the evening (or earlier than this): send the After-Sex Text 1 to 2 hours after she left

-If lei she left late at night: send the After-Sex Text within 30 minutes of waking up the next morning

- If she left the next morning: send the After-Sex Text 1 to 2 hours after she left.

The meaning here is that if she doesn't go to sleep after you separate, send a message between 1 and 2 hours. While if she is going to sleep right away send it in the period after waking up so let's say about 8h after you leave her, right?

-But I wanted to understand why the difference between these times with the first article and if you have anything else to add.

-I normally if I don't want to see the girl I write to her immediately as soon as I go out something like I was very well and that's it.
If, on the other hand, I would like to see her again once and she is very attracted to me, I write to her within a few hours of when we break up, while if she goes to sleep immediately and I also write to her when I wake up. If, on the other hand, I would like to see her again but she is not so taken, I will wait until 6 pm the next day.

-And I would like to know how you manage when she writes to you first? if I want to see her again and she writes to me first, I throw a soft closure on the fact that we should repeat it, this after a few messages about the evening.

-How many times, after having sex with the girl, do you continue to write post sex messages? I do it until she is fully engaged also because it seems too repetitive.

 

[DeepShadow]

@Chase could you clarify me too since they are your articles, to understand what the difference is or what led you to the change and if you have anything else to add

 

[Chase]

@DeepShadow,

I used to do 3-6 hours to not look overeager when I was newer, and that was my standard for a long time.

However, I started running into girls texting me auto-rejection-y texts before I could even send them the morning after text, and I figured it didn't really hurt my value to text earlier, so I cut down how long to wait to avoid running into the situation where a girl goes from happy --> sad between the time she left and the hours leading up to the time you would have sent your text because too much time has passed (she thinks) and she hasn't heard back.

(if, like you, I feel like she did not leave super keen on me, I'll still probably wait a bit longer... e.g., 3-4 hours. Again, that way it doesn't risk seeming overeager)

If she writes first, you just agree:

Her: Had a great time last night ​

​

You: Likewise! Hope you're not too tired at work today ​

You don't need to tell her you want to see her again (or at least I don't). She can sit and wonder for a day or two until you message her to meet again.

-How many times, after having sex with the girl, do you continue to write post sex messages? I do it until she is fully engaged also because it seems too repetitive.

For me it's just once, after the first.

I've never been a heavy texter though. I'm purely using it to ward off resistance.

Also, while the general recommendation is it takes on average three sex sessions to lock a girl in / convert her, for me it's pretty much always two. Maybe if it was taking three I would switch things up, but at least in my case a single morning-after text after that first time in bed is all I bother to do (or need to do).

Chase

 

[DeepShadow]

Facevo 3-6 ore per non sembrare troppo impaziente quando ero più nuovo, e questo è stato il mio standard per molto tempo.

Tuttavia, ho iniziato a imbattermi in ragazze che mi mandavano messaggi di rifiuto automatico prima ancora che potessi inviarli la mattina dopo il messaggio, e ho pensato che non avesse davvero danneggiato il mio valore scrivere prima, quindi ho ridotto il tempo di attesa per evita di imbatterti nella situazione in cui una ragazza diventa felice --> triste tra il momento in cui se n'è andata e le ore precedenti al momento in cui avresti inviato il tuo messaggio perché è passato troppo tempo (pensa) e non ha sentito Indietro.

(se, come te, mi sembra che non sia uscita super entusiasta di me, probabilmente aspetterò ancora un po'... per esempio, 3-4 ore. Anche in questo caso, non rischi di sembrare troppo impaziente)

So if you think they may be in automatic refusal and you are very late and you go to sleep almost immediately, do you write them immediately as soon as you leave or when you leave? or in this case that you are going to sleep, do you think that the risk of rejection is lower and you write her anyway tomorrow? let's say you can see sleep as a lapse of time that is missing from the moment of sleep. for example you leave at 6 in the morning at 6.30 you go to sleep and at 14 you wake up and you write to her at 15 in total it is 30 minutes before sleep plus 1 hour later when you wake up and you are in her mind as if you wrote her after 1 hour 30 from sex even if with some difference of a possible dream

Non c'è bisogno che tu le dica che vuoi vederla di nuovo (o almeno io no). Può sedersi e chiedersi per un giorno o due fino a quando non le mandi un messaggio per incontrarsi di nuovo.


Per me è solo una volta, dopo la prima.

Non sono mai stato un texter pesante però. Lo sto usando esclusivamente per scongiurare la resistenza.

Inoltre, mentre la raccomandazione generale è che ci vogliono in media tre sessioni di sesso per rinchiudere / convertire una ragazza, per me sono praticamente sempre due. Forse se ne impiegassero tre cambierei le cose, ma almeno nel mio caso un solo messaggio del giorno dopo dopo la prima volta a letto è tutto ciò che mi preoccupo di fare (o devo fare).

caccia

I say I do it immediately to organize if I see that it can go because it seems smoother when there is already a conversation, maybe it's just my block, but restarting conversations from nothing gives me less of that feeling of flow. I don't know if that feeling happens to you too.

Regarding the rule that normally is said 3 days or 1 day sleeping together plus another hour that I am getting into a more analytical perspective in this world I have the feeling that in addition to giving her great sex, such an important factor is to make her feel that great connection through the purest non-verbal signal, the gaze. I will add this consideration in my last lay because it is in the latter that it seemed so important in the total of seduction

 

[Chase]

@DeepShadow,

If I don't finish shagging a girl till sunrise, I am sleeping there

The few times I have been shown the door at that time, post-sex, without having slept, I have not been pleased.

Makes you feel like a manwhore!

When it's happened though, I've always just waited up an extra 60-90 minutes after leaving, then shot a post-sex text right before I went to sleep.

So it's like:

• 6 AM: her orgasms are over and I get the boot
• 6:30 AM: I arrive back home. Now I will just shower, or do some writing, or something else I need to do to pass some time / unwind a bit
• 7:30-8 AM: send her the post-sex text, then go to bed, not waiting for a response from her

Chase

 

[DeepShadow]

@DeepShadow,

If I don't finish shagging a girl till sunrise, I am sleeping there

The few times I have been shown the door at that time, post-sex, without having slept, I have not been pleased.

Makes you feel like a manwhore!

When it's happened though, I've always just waited up an extra 60-90 minutes after leaving, then shot a post-sex text right before I went to sleep.

So it's like:

• 6 AM: her orgasms are over and I get the boot
• 6:30 AM: I arrive back home. Now I will just shower, or do some writing, or something else I need to do to pass some time / unwind a bit
• 7:30-8 AM: send her the post-sex text, then go to bed, not waiting for a response from her

Chase

unfortunately it often happens to me to do it in the car and then I leave them at home and dart alone in the dark streets.

thank you so much anyway chase and can I ask you a thing about relationships in private? because if I'm not mistaken you don't like to talk too much about it in public