Texting a meetup

[Lord Byron]

"Shall we say Wednesday at 7pm?" (insert whatever day and time applies.)

What are your thoughts on wording a meetup invite like that? While it's not an outright demand of, "meet me Wednesday at 7," nor plain inquiring like, "Does Wednesday at 7 work for you?", it seems to be fairly commanding but still inclusive for the girl - a clear case of leading but something she can easily say yes to.

Thoughts welcome.

-Byron

 

[Lotus]

Byron,

I've found that if during the date arrangement process you mix questions with demands it balances out. You can do this by breaking it down into multiple steps

First step is pretty basic and most everyone here goes by something like this.

"What is your schedule like this week? "Or "When are you free this week? "

She will list a number of days, and now you have the ability to pick a day.

Step two: "I can do X" -- there's no question here so you come off as a strong man

She already said that day works so there shouldn't be an issue, and typically she will respond with a question about where and when.

Step three: time and place.
Girls are really indecisive and they hate to decide, hence why we leave. If you suggest a place and then ask a time it will be enough leadership to balance the interaction. Leaving her feeling like you are leading but also allows her input.
"I know a place XX near XX. How does 7 work?" Or "let's do 7" if you really don't want to ask another question.

Example- this is the interaction I had setting up my date for last night on Monday via text

"Me: alright, so tomorrow 6:30 at slainte is the plan. Unless there's a better time for you
Her: 7 might be easier for me to make
Me: 7 is then.see you then!"

Not exact verbiage but very similar structure. Break it down into prices so she doesn't have to agree on a date and time all at once