This has happened to me a couple of times (usually off of Tinder) and has grown to be a thorn in my side. I get a girl's contact info, hit her up with a text in order to try and set up a date, but she isn't free for a long period of time (usually multiple weeks). This leads into daily conversation between the two of us, and eventually the attraction levels and responses die down on her end. What I'm looking to find out is, how do I get around this? I usually err away from making dates too far in advance. If a girl isn't available for a couple of weeks, should I cut contact with her for a while until I think she is more free, or should I periodically text her in order to build rapport?
Like you already said, if you keep texting her on a regular basis and nothing ever happens between you two, attraction will expire and she might friendzone you. If she says she's unavailable for a while, drop the ball in her court and tell her to let you know when she's free and move to the next girl. If she doesn't text you after a couple of weeks, you might send her another text and ask her out. If she doesn't respond, her interest can't be that high. If she texts back, but still is unavailable, she might be truly busy, or she might like you but has something going on with someone else and wants to keep you warm...who knows.... you just drop it in her court and move to the next girl.
Don't use text to make conversation, just use it as a tool to set up dates.
Don't use text to make conversation, just use it as a tool to set up dates.
You're building insufficient attraction/interest. No one is completely too busy for weeks, unless they're literally out of town or something. Multiple girls? - never. It's been said on here that if George Clooney/Brad Pitt/whoever called her up, she could definitely find an hour in her schedule for coffee in a reasonable time.
That being said, I don't do online game so I'm not going to delve into that deeply, although I know there's a webinar series on the front-page now.
I'd watch the Tinder series, study up all the pages on text-game, and work from there. But yes, definitely avoid chasing. You're not going to build more than mild intrigue/entertainment value from a girl you've literally never seen, via text alone.
That being said, I don't do online game so I'm not going to delve into that deeply, although I know there's a webinar series on the front-page now.
I'd watch the Tinder series, study up all the pages on text-game, and work from there. But yes, definitely avoid chasing. You're not going to build more than mild intrigue/entertainment value from a girl you've literally never seen, via text alone.
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Hey Bro,
You are doing enough to get contact info. But somewhere you fucking it up plain and simple
" responses die down on her end"
this means the girls are the ones with the power in the conversation. you are over-investing or being too available at one point in the interaction and she gets bored.
on tinder speed is essential. If it takes longer than a week to meet up its probably not going to happen. you want to move fast but still gauge her investment. don't type a paragraph after she gave you a 1 word answer. If she waits 30 minutes to respond, don't answer her immediately. Make sure the conversation is balanced.
Also, once you get over to texting, the goal end goal is the date.don't get caught in small talk. don't tell her too much that kills the intrigue.
I think you would benefit from other articles more then the tinder step up series. The tinder series is more about gaining matches then actually closing. If you don't have your game down it doesn't matter how many matches you get.
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-text-girl
https://www.girlschase.com/content/keepi ... hase-women
https://www.girlschase.com/content/what- ... -text-back
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-a ... ys-get-yes
Some articles to start with for ya
You are doing enough to get contact info. But somewhere you fucking it up plain and simple
" responses die down on her end"
this means the girls are the ones with the power in the conversation. you are over-investing or being too available at one point in the interaction and she gets bored.
on tinder speed is essential. If it takes longer than a week to meet up its probably not going to happen. you want to move fast but still gauge her investment. don't type a paragraph after she gave you a 1 word answer. If she waits 30 minutes to respond, don't answer her immediately. Make sure the conversation is balanced.
Also, once you get over to texting, the goal end goal is the date.don't get caught in small talk. don't tell her too much that kills the intrigue.
I think you would benefit from other articles more then the tinder step up series. The tinder series is more about gaining matches then actually closing. If you don't have your game down it doesn't matter how many matches you get.
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-text-girl
https://www.girlschase.com/content/keepi ... hase-women
https://www.girlschase.com/content/what- ... -text-back
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-a ... ys-get-yes
Some articles to start with for ya
