Calls & Texts Texting situation: girl blurts out bad day story

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Hi Guys,

I'm new at the forum so I'll start by saying it is great to (sort of) meet you all!

I'm looking for opinions on the following situation:

I have hooked up three times with this girl. She is foreign and when we met she already made up her mind to move back to her home country to try a job she fixed and then decide whether or not she would move back to my country. When she left I was planning on not texting her, but after a week she texted me herself. Now she says she is planning on moving back to my country and we have been texting for about a month with following characteristics:

She starts about 60% of the conversations, I end about 60% of them
My texts are playful and very clear about the fact I want to give it to her again
Her texts seem mainly attention-seeking (I would consider her at least a 9 so she'll be no stranger to tooling guys)
She doesn't really get dirty in words but she has sent me explicit pics
When I end the conversation I use something like “Sweet dreams. X”, she started to mimic the X

Last time she was very emotional talking about the lousy day she had (I'll spare the details). Then she apologized for her ranting and said she just needed someone to talk to and she knew I would listen. Normally I would consider this as “shit, I screwed up somewhere” , but seeing that we already hooked up and the fact that I am consequently flirty and up front about my intentions this might not be the case. I wouldn't call myself an expert but I do okay with picking up women here and there. I never had a serious relationship though and I'm not sure if that's what I want with this girl at the moment. I would be interested in dating and getting to know her better though.

Any thoughts what her sudden emotional blurt means and how best to proceed? (You have my thanks)

 

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I get this from my long distance girlfriend, especially when she is PMSing.
She calls it "throwing up on my shoes".
I gently remind her that she is particularly emotional right now, and tell her I care about her well being.

If she gets into a negative feedback loop that perpetuates that emotion I will withdraw the attention.

When it needs to stop I tell her, "If I was there right now I'd just kiss the crap out of you, hug you tight and give you a slap on the ass to get you out of your funk."

You have to be the judge of whether she is using you for an emotional tampon, or whether you have created a level of intimacy where she feels safe sharing her emotions with you.

If she is frequently dumping on you, daily or weekly, you are an ET. You have to nip that in the bud before it starts. Frame it as "I want our limited communication to leave us both happier. Does this line of discussion really do that?"