Texting when you are the one leaving town for a short period

[pickupq123]

Hi all,

Long story short, met a girl last week, brought her home after first date and we made out (felt awkward escalating further because roommate was home, and he and I are separated by maybe six feet and a thin wall). Invited her over for a second date, and it went pretty well but when I went down to finger her she told me she was on her period (although she didn't use the bathroom once in the 5 hours we hung out so I found this unusual for a girl on her period, unless I'm missing something here...) so I was not really sure how much I could get away with escalation there.

Now, I'm pretty sure she likes me, and I like this girl too. However, I'm leaving town for the next two weeks, and if there's anything I've learned here, it's that if I haven't had sex with this girl yet, attraction may dip pretty fast over these two weeks. Being said, how should I handle texting? She hasn't texted me, nor have I texted her, since we hung out on Monday. My intuition is telling me to remain radio-silent until I am back, then suggest drinks/movie at my place, but I'd like to hear opinions.

Thanks.

 

[Smith]

Hey Pickupq123

I'm in a similar situation as well, although only been on 1st date (Last sat) and made out. Called her on Tues, and had a fun conversation. she knows I'm leaving town next week and said we'll meet up when I come back. My plan is to maybe text/call her when I'm away or maybe not. I'm still not sure what to do as well but I think instead of just disappear for two weeks without telling her why and she goes into autorejection, let her know u wanna see her again but you're gonna be out of town and busy, then she might understand and not goes into autorejection. Then u don't have to text that frequently when ur away. Maybe just once to check in how she's doing. If you're good on the phone, I think it might work better than texting since two weeks seem like a long time, and texting doesn't convey emotion that well. But that's just my two cents. Follow your instinct brother.

- Smith

 

[pickupq123]

Following my instinct is what landed me on this site in the first place.

While I've gotten better and I'm not anywhere close to perfect at this yet, I'll probably remain silent. In the previous few times I've mentioned "I want to see you again", it seems to flip the "power dynamics" of the potential relationship, whereas previous if she was unsure if I wanted to see her again, she now 100% knows it and is the one deciding if it is going to happen. This sounds silly, but I feel like this has lost me potential dates in the past (I would feel more comfortable saying this if we had sex, but this is not the case).

Besides, I'm getting pretty good at becoming outcome independent. I would like to see this girl again, but if not, I will line up a new date in her place. Thanks for the post. If anyone has anymore thoughts, feel free.