Calls & Texts Texting

[nichodemus]

So, i've posted about my situation here: viewtopic.php?f=2&t=737

But I'm posting here, specifically for texting advice, because for now at least it's the primary way we communicate, due to work schedules.

I've been trying to wean off texting too much, and havent texted her for three days. She said she'll tell me when she's free for a date next week after I asked her out (hopefully, she does, unless she's just pushing me off?), but since we met for lunch 3 days ago, not a squeak from her. But I know she's always on her phone (whatsapp, and its stupid last online feature).

Should I be worried? I'm just a little insecure, given that this girl has been flirty to other guys before. I do know that she isn't receptive to most guys, and taking them on for serious relationships.

Right, so my question is, just what to text. I've been reading the articles here, and what I get at least, is just to text to set up a date, and that's that? What if she doesn't? What if she's the kind of girl who expects to be chased? yet I don't want to appear needy, been trying to get out of that image. other question, she used to initiate the convos half the time, like greet me first thing in the morning when she wakes (Good sign?), yet now after I stopped texting her, she has as well. have I gone into auto-rejection territory?

Any example texts that I could use? Thanks mates.

 

[Light]

Hi Nichodemus.

Is this the SAME girl from your other post? If so I have nothing more to say.

But I will be nice and answer some of your concerns in regards to texting.

She said she'll tell me when she's free for a date next week after I asked her out (hopefully, she does, unless she's just pushing me off?), but since we met for lunch 3 days ago, not a squeak from her. But I know she's always on her phone (whatsapp, and its stupid last online feature).

- Shes clearly not into you.

Should I be worried? I'm just a little insecure, given that this girl has been flirty to other guys before.

- No. You should not be worried. You should just screw her and move on to a new girl.

Right, so my question is, just what to text. I've been reading the articles here, and what I get at least, is just to text to set up a date, and that's that?

- Yes. Thats that.

What if she doesn't? What if she's the kind of girl who expects to be chased? yet I don't want to appear needy, been trying to get out of that image.

- Then you need to work on your Chase Framing ---> https://www.girlschase.com/content/secrets-getting-girls-chase-framing

other question, she used to initiate the convos half the time, like greet me first thing in the morning when she wakes (Good sign?)

- Good sign. Just becareful she didn't turn you into one of her "Text buddies". I would have just replied "Good Morning, I take it that you miss me. Why don't we grab some food tonight?"

yet now after I stopped texting her, she has as well. have I gone into auto-rejection territory?

- Very likely. The way I see it. She turned you into her text buddy, and shes not really that into you (at least not sexually attracted).

 

[Chase]

Nichodemus-

Cool name. On this:

I've been reading the articles here, and what I get at least, is just to text to set up a date, and that's that? What if she doesn't? What if she's the kind of girl who expects to be chased?

You're right, some women DO expect to be chased.

However, they do NOT expect to be chased by men they are sexually interested in.

So, she may expect you to chase her.

But not if she wants to date you or sleep with you.

Thus, the same rules apply: chasing women is poor form. You will lose the women who did not want to sleep with your or date you if you don't chase them, yes. You can remain in their orbit as perpetual platonic friends if you chase them. However, this will subtract time, focus, and energy from you meeting and sleeping with and dating women who are actually interested in you as a MAN, rather than interested in you as a backup plan, emotional support, or ego validation.

Generally, it's better to let go the ones who want you to chase, and refocus your sights on women who are romantically and sexually interested in you instead.

Chase