The 40 Woman Week

[Waterboii]

The GC family,

The 40 Woman Week will be an attempt to tackle my biggest problem, inconsistency in approaching women. In other words I'm going to try and give my approach anxiety a big hit by approaching 40 women by next Sunday (giving myself an extra day ). A few unforeseen circumstances and a lack of drive derailed my last post, but I am determined to see this one through! A long weekend and break from school should make this week a perfect chance to clear my plate of everything except approaching.

A few things Chase wrote in this week's article on cybersatiation and validation struck home, and I realized that my proportion between reading/theorizing and actually putting the info into action is very unbalanced. The content on this site is so insightful and desirable that I think you get a similar reaction to it as porn, meaning you actually feel the emotions of being a sexy and smooth man who can seduce women in any situation. For me, just thinking about how amazing it will be when I am at that level is extremely 'rewarding' in itself. So, I've decided to refrain from reading any more articles for this week, and rack up a bit of experience.

I'm out to town and will report back later...

 

[Waterboii]

Admittedly, I was quite nervous heading out today because I really didn't want to come back empty-handed. I can happily say that I didn't bomb, nor kill it. But I can also say with certainly that I've never talked to as many girls on a day outing ... thats right, 4 is my new high!! ha

After writing the intro post, hesitating a couple minutes before clicking submit, I hopped on the bus and headed to the beach. I decided my best bet was to walk along the sidewalk along the beach as to catch women in transit (although I doubt it was really out of reason, rather fear of walking right up to sun-bathing babes). I got off the bus on a high note after having a convo with the bus driver and the feeling of support and advice from this community swirling in my mind.

I understood the importance of starting fast, and as if the seduction gods were blessing me, a cute brunette ran up and tried and failed to catch my bus ... and ended up standing right in front of me. I smiled. This is gonna be easy.
"Ah bad luck, I hope you weren't in a rush," I said. She looked at me as if I had caused her to miss the bus and didn't even reply. Okay, maybe not gonna be so easy (good thing the goal is just to approach!).
"Anyway, my name is WB, whats yours?" I think I heard her say Elisa (1) as she walked away. I guess it was worth to walk home than stay and talk to me!

Happy to have my first out of the way, I walked down the beach. There were a fair number of missed opportunities. I just don't (yet) have the balls to talk to girls in groups of more than 3 or with their parents or with guys. My ego stays much more intact if no one else is there to witness my amazing seduction skills . Finally, I saw a girl alone, walking across the street. I did a huge U turn and tried to cut her off on the other side of the street as if I totally hadn't been following her. I misjudged and ended up having to walk up from behind her. (I'm not really sure how to open from behind, should I walk up beside her and look over like 'oh hey, didn't see you there cutie' or just touch her arm from behind). I came from behind , touched her arm and said "Hey, do you know where 'this really obvious place' is? " as a joke. She took it seriously and told me we were in that neighborhood. I said "haha I was kidding, I just wanted to come and tell you that shirt is really cool, I'm WB, what's your name?" *BTWthis is all in another language, so I'm positive that it all sounds 100 times lamer. I know all about Chase's recommendations to speak English abroad, but I just feel like at my level it would be an easier out for her. But I'll be sure to try it out by the end of the week.
"My name is Elena (2)," she said as she was slowly trying to walk away.
"Nice to meet you, not the best beach weather, but perfect for me haha (I'm quite pale)." She laughed, but i'm not sure whether it was a pity laugh or not.
"yeah, listen I'm in a rush to meet a friend"
"no worries, lets exchange contact info and we can meet up for a drink later."
"I don't think so, I have a bf"
"well he can come too .. haha actually no he definitely cant"
"haha well I'm going to meet him after my friend, so yeah"
"...ah that sucks...well...it was nice to meet you." I really didnt know what to say.

I hit the end of the beach and turned back, round 2. Walking back I saw two cuties walking across the street. I pulled my patented U-turn cut off and ended up walking up behind them again haha. They were waiting to cross the street. I walked up next to them and tried the second of the two options and looked over, smiled and said "hey, you two aren't from around here are you?" Again, not a very good initial reaction, they started walking more quickly.
"were from Argentina(3)"
"Oh cool, so just on vacation?"
"yeah" And just as she said this her flip flop broke haha.
"haha those plastic ones really suck huh?"
"yeah" she was fumbling with the thing and since they are pretty easy to fix I told her to let me try. Instead, she walked away with one shoe ...

I was done for the day after being there for about 2 hours but I wanted one more. So I walked into town a bit and spotted a girl (4). She was clearly heading to the gym with her all black spandex suit. I didn't mean it to sound sarcastic, but when I said "hey I saw you walking and thought you have really cool style," she looked at me like WTF is this gringo talking about hahaha. Needless to say, it was all downhill after that.

There were no revelations today, other than the fact that I should be constantly working on expanding the situations in which I approach. Girl walking alone is the easiest, but a group sitting down, etc gets tough, but those will give me a much wider range of experience. I'd love to hear any advice or criticism, although it would be a bit difficult since there isn't much convo going on. I'll touch back tomorrow, I'm going out tonight and planning on hitting the beach and mall tomorrow.

Much love,
WB

 

[PrettyDecent]

WB,

Will be following!

A few things Chase wrote in this week's article on cybersatiation and validation struck home, and I realized that my proportion between reading/theorizing and actually putting the info into action is very unbalanced. The content on this site is so insightful and desirable that I think you get a similar reaction to it as porn, meaning you actually feel the emotions of being a sexy and smooth man who can seduce women in any situation. For me, just thinking about how amazing it will be when I am at that level is extremely 'rewarding' in itself. So, I've decided to refrain from reading any more articles for this week, and rack up a bit of experience.

Never thought about that, interesting point.

I understood the importance of starting fast, and as if the seduction gods were blessing me, a cute brunette ran up and tried and failed to catch my bus ... and ended up standing right in front of me. I smiled. This is gonna be easy.
"Ah bad luck, I hope you weren't in a rush," I said. She looked at me as if I had caused her to miss the bus and didn't even reply.

Whenever someone has something shitty happen to them, especially publicly, the best thing you can do is comfort them by relating. A personal example - I was trying to make a train in a country that I'd never been before that was close to departing, and actually slammed be back on to the ground along with all my suitcases before I got on, and everything in the front pocket scattered onto the ground. THAT was an embarrassing transport moment. Anything self-deprecating like that works.

(I'm not really sure how to open from behind, should I walk up beside her and look over like 'oh hey, didn't see you there cutie' or just touch her arm from behind).

Touching as a pre-opener on the street is tricky, I'd refrain from it. Instead, walk over to the side of her for half-a-second, and then say your direct opener (think less 'gamey': I saw you walking by, and I thought you had incredibly gorgeous facial features, and I had to say hello. I'm WB!).

Keep it up!

Nick

 

[Waterboii]

First off, PrettyDecent, I appreciate the support and advice ... it warms the heart!

Whenever someone has something shitty happen to them, especially publicly, the best thing you can do is comfort them by relating

Makes sense, if something happens to you you are naturally more embarrassed for yourself than someone else is for you ... they might not even think twice about what happened. Its certainly the empathetic thing to do.

Touching as a pre-opener on the street is tricky, I'd refrain from it. Instead, walk over to the side of her for half-a-second, and then say your direct opener (think less 'gamey': I saw you walking by, and I thought you had incredibly gorgeous facial features, and I had to say hello. I'm WB!).

Yeah, I have done relatively very little day game but I can see how the environment wouldn't be as conducive to a 'gamey' approach, where as at night a more aggressive approach is expected. I'll try that out tomorrow. thanks brother.

Day 2

I was pretty happy with the beach yesterday, so I decided to head back. Waiting for bus when I walked up was a younger brunette giving me some eyes ... nothing special but a perfect opener.
Felicia (5) was clearly waiting for my bus, so I observed: "its a good thing its sunday and nobody has anywhere to go"
"haha yeah, I've already been here 30 min"
"only? I was preparing for another hour!"
"haha"
"you know, thats a pretty cool t shirt"
"thanks"
"pretty bold of you openly showing your love for weed (they were ferns, but green and easily mistakable)"
"NO! I don't even smoke"
"Its cool, I like a rebel (definitely didnt come out like this translated haha)"
"yeah well I don't"
"right, so, where you headed today?"
"heading home from work actually"
...we talked about where she works and I made a joke about how in Brazil, there are always 5 girls working in a clothing store to every 1 customer.
She laughed so I told we should exchange numbers and meet up later. She agreed! yeah! I'm not really interested but a success nonetheless. Needless to say, I had high hopes for the day.

I got off the bus and immediately realized that today was the annual LGBT parade. It was kinda nice to get some extra love while getting rejected haha. I first spotted 2 stunners (6, I had to gather myself for a minute or two before I approached.
I walked up beside them and said "hey, cool parade huh?"
"yeah"
"so you two are a couple?"
"haha no, we're just passing by"
They had stopped but were inching away by now.
"Oh yeah me too"
"well were gonna go meet my friends"
*silence*
I just got tongue tied and couldn't say anything. I know the right thing to do would have been to say "hold on" and then work from there but it seemed pretty far fetched at that point. Although, like I've said, the more experience the better. So, I'll be sure to keep in mind to persist coolly as long as I can... push the boundaries.

Before I could finish thinking about what just happened, I noticed a very nice brunette (7) walking up beside me. I smiled, held out my arm to get her to stop and said "hey, I saw you wal...."
She stopped for a moment and then just kept walking. It was embarrassing enough I'm gonna count it! Onward!

Farther along, I spotted a young blondie heading my way holding a longboard. I walked into her path 20 feet in front of her and pretended to gaze pensively at the ocean. I turned when she was a few feet from me, smiled and motioned for her to stop (she was wearing headphones). I then motioned for her to take out her headphones.
"Hey, what are you listening to?"
"uh, hip hop"
"let me listen?" (it was "Candy Shop" by 50 cent ... classy).
"hahaha you have good taste! My name is WB, whats yours?
"Isa (8"
"So Isa, how come you aren't riding that thing?"
"I'm just really bad."
"I dont believe that, come on lets see what you can do (trying to move her to the sidewalk)"
"No!"
"Cmon, I'll give you a few tips (trying to persist coolly)" She wasn't having any of it.
"No, no I have to go!"
"I'm sure you can spare 5 minutes. Or we can just exchange numbers and meet up later."
"Uh I have a boyfriend.."
"No worries, I'll just be you skateboard teacher."
"Okay fine" I was kinda taken aback, like shit she is really giving me her number haha.
I texted her later saying we should meet up this week. And she replied saying, "Look, I didn't actually want to give you my number. I was just being polite. My boyfriend is really protective. I definitely don't want to meet up." Hahaha it was great. I thanked her for her politeness, naturally.

I was in a pretty good mood after getting her number, so I quickly met another girl in a running outfit.
"Hey, hows it going, I saw you walking and thought that style spandex is pretty cool" (gotta love leopard print)
"haha thanks"
"Im WB, and you?"
"Carol (9"
"So, you taking a break from running or just never started?"
"Actually I got high before I came out and now I'm definitely not down to run"
"hahaha I've made that mistake before. Its worse running high, but way more fun to swim high"
"I've never tried"
"trust me, so you work in Rio or do you just get stoned all day?"
"haha no, I'm an actress"
"anything i've seen?"
"no, so what about you?" She was very slippery about answering this question (must be a pornstar )
We talk for a bit about work and music. I set up a pretty solid chase frame later on (a rarity for me):
"Yeah, I think Americans are just naturally cold"
"Well I think you would be cold too if you weren't into me"
And before she could answer I said, "have you even been to the US?"
She hadn't, so not only did the frame stick but she had to admit she might be wrong.
We exchanged numbers and I'm gonna text her tonight. Not totally my type, but in any case, very nice!

The last two (10,11) were just flat out rejections. I don't feel the need to play them out, it played out like the others. She never stopped or quickly kept walking on. And that was a day. If you've been counting, you'll see I had a whopping 8 approaches today...new highscore! I knew I had to step it up since during the week is certainly gonna slow down. I'm on pace, I just gotta keep my head in the game. I'm bound to have a rough day soon, so I've got to prepare.

Again, I appreciate in advance all of the advice and support. I'll touch back tomorrow.

Até
WB

 

[Waterboii]

Lets go, Day 3.
I know the feeling of not getting off to a quick start, no matter what the outcome, and the pressure mounting to get the first one off your chest. I think one of the reasons I have been able to approach so many women (relatively) is the fact that I've been getting an approach off right away.
Also, I'd like to note a change in perspective. Before this week, my goals for going out and talking to women were always get numbers, get dates, get laid. It was much more pressure. Especially if you are in a lull, without any women in your life ... their absence becomes very prominent. It made me feel like I was always starting at ground zero. It seemed like no progress was being made. However now that my goal is just to approach, progress is easier to come by, keeping me in the game mentally. The idea of setting attainable goals has been made numerous times on this site, and I now see its potency. Also, this idea connects to the point made in the article on Dominant Men; winning results in an upward spiral of more winning, whereas losing results in the opposite. Setting attainable goals creates winning situations, thus better results.

The beach has treated me well the last two days so I decided to try my luck once again. Being a monday, it was much less crowded, but there was no lack of mmmm sexy ladies. Finally beginning to understand the importance of starting off fast, I made sure to talk to the first girl I saw. She was walking toward me wearing a cute cherry t shirt (12. I stopped her and complemented her on the shirt. She thanked me as she walked away, but I could tell she was totally into me .

I walked on until I noticed a short brunette coming my way. Her facial features were really beautiful, a work of art. I stopped her and she received me well, smiling. Nothing of note happened during my convo with Carmen (13). I failed to introduce a sexy vibe or chase frame and I was only touching a bit. Nonetheless she was smiling and gazing away. Out of the blue she said, "I'm younger than you think I am," but I thought she said "You think I am younger than I am." I thought, 'nice!' I told her she should consider it a compliment. Later on, she asked how old I was. I didn't answer and instead asked her in return. She said, "15." So I told her I was the same, said goodbye and left.

I couldn't stop smiling after hitting on a 15 year old, so with the next girl I talked to (made sure she was definitely legal!), I got caught up in a bit of a bubbly, friendly conversation. I lost the sexy vibe completely and I think the age difference did me no good. But Cynthia (14) was cool, and even though it was unlikely that anything would happen, I thought I'd ask for a number and meet up later. She gave me her phone number but has decided not to respond. I'm not that disappointed honestly.

The last on the beach was an outright rejection by two smoking high schoolers (15).

I returned home, changed into a nice shirt (ahhh I feel so much more comfortable in a nice shirt and jeans) and headed out to the city center to hit on the serious crowd. I liked the scene and although I only approached two women (16,17), there were more chances. However, with a huge crowd walking a mile a minute its quite tough to get in a good position. Also, nobody had a smile on they face ... the complete opposite from the beach. But I think it will serve as a good 1-2 for me, beach to center. Both girls were not interested in having a convo.

I went out tonight as well. I'd never been to this weekly party but it was packed, and with quality women as well. I went alone, but when I arrived a French girl friend of mine noticed me. I thought I'd say hi, get some social momentum and be on my way. But just as I started talking to her, her friend just up and disappeared, leaving me with her alone. Rarely anything ever good happens to a gringa alone in Brazil. So, I headed back early as to get a early and fresh start tomorrow, but will be returning for sure next Monday.

Not too many details today I know. But there was less substance in my approaches today. However, I am content with 6 and motivated to push harder. Winning breeds winning right?

Much love,
WB

 

[Waterboii]

I woke up this morning feeling down. I hadn't slept well and although I knew this week has only one purpose, it was difficult to get motivated to say the least. I've yet to have one interested woman (excluding the 15yo ). As it was cloudy I decided to skip the beach and head to the center early. By early I mean 4pm, which gave me plenty of time to take a nap, eat food and play some bass. I put on my freshest shirt and headed into the concrete jungle. First up was a polka-dotted shirt (18), she was ice cold but at least the street vendors had a good laugh.

Next up was another chilly, outright rejection (19). And again, a chinese shop owner got a nice lift to his day. (Well deserved too I'm sure!). Those two kinda shook me. I tried smiling it off but it took a while to wear off (I caught myself looking down and slouching even 15 minutes later). I ended up missing a whole bunch of beautiful women ... only adding to my frustration. I took a break, drank some juice, talked with a vendor and I was back.

I spotted a redhead (19) walking my way, certainly a rarity in Brazil. I slowed her down, smiled and asked her how she was doing. I pretty much got a "go fuck yourself" look. So I told her that was a sexy look. It was really sarcastic and she knew it. I regret doing it. I know its all about giving good feelings, I mean you are the one approaching.

I walked on reluctantly, pretty set on heading back pretty soon. I came up to the main square in town and there was a enormous protest getting ready. Its teachers day here in Brazil and they are on strike. Quite honestly I was happy to be distracted, so I joined in. A half hour in, the teenagers dressed in all black with gas masks came in...they always do. And another half hour later is when the breaking of bank windows and the inevitable police retaliation begins, so its generally a good time to head out. I climbed a scaffolding with some press photographers to get a view and not only did I see the main avenue of Rio packed, front to back, side to side, but also a girl looking a bit out of place with pearls and a long dress.

She was also looking for her sister it turns out. (I was wondering why at 5 on the dot there was an unusual amount of fast walking businessmen and women headed home). There was no way I'm going to talk to her, feeling like this. It doesnt look like she wants to talk to anyone. She is definitely looking for her boyfriend. Its not even worth it. I'm already up on this scaffolding. Dont ruin the moment by beating yourself up over not talking to her. Those excuses and more came bombarding my brain. Like all of us, I've given in so many times I cant count. I'll just choose one or all of them ... the more the better actually! I'm not quite sure how I convinced myself to do it, but I am certain that the context of this week and this forum and this site was CRUCIAL. I climbed down and walked up near her. She started walking really slow along the protest, just asking to be approached. I followed her for a while, still convinced I wasn't going to do it. I was really just waiting for something to happen (to met the person she was looking for, or anything) so I could say "oh now I cant, bummer 'cause I was totally gonna do it!" But nothing did. Eventually I walked up right beside her, lightly touched her arm (I know PrettyDecent, but I wasn't thinking about you ), smiled and said hey.

She smiled cautiously, to which I replied:
"If you are looking for the anarchists, they are up there in front!"
"hahaha, no I'm just waiting for my sister," she replied smiling and literally melting me with her voice.
"I think I saw a girl who looks just like you bashing a bus stop a little back, is that her?"
"haha I hope not! Whats your name?!"
"WB, and yours?"
"Eliza (20)
The moment I finished that sentence this random guy came up out of nowhere. I honestly have no idea why he chose us to talk to. He wasn't crazy or homeless with his ironed shirt and dress shoes. In fact it looked like he was just a drunk teacher ... drunk on justice! It was fate. Or just Brazil.
"Hey, you know whats really funny?"
"Uh, what?"
"There are more reporters than there are protestors!" (which at the front was kinda true (and funny because nobody could walk forward without having to stop and wait for 500 people to take a perfect picture haha)).
"haha yeah, that is funny." I said turning back to Eliza...
"You know what the biggest problem is here?" he inquired.
"What?" answered Eliza.
"That the professors work for the state instead of the city or feds!"
"How so?" Eliza probed (I was being fairly cold, but she was actually interested).
He goes on to explain the intricacies of the Brazilian education system (quite insightfully) and after he finishes, I turn to Eliza, put my arm around her waist and say, "ready to go?"
"yeah"
"WAIT! you aren't from Brazil are you?" "no" "well if you remember on thing of Brazil, be it this; Jesus is everything, the past, present and future."
I almost said "preach!"
And he did, going on to explain that Jesus would return, and the fact that the protest was a plead of the people for him to return, including their use of drugs, sex and crime.
"wow, I will remember that," I said sincerely, as I walked away with Eliza. This guy, without knowing it, just solidified our encounter ... he bonded us.

"I agree with everything he just said," I joked, "except that the reason he doesn't like sex is because he just doesn't have enough of it."
She laughed and was hooked.

We walked along the protest talking about work and life. She was deep and insightful. She has perspective like few I've met. One obstacle that I think I should note is the age question. She asked me before how old I was, but I ignored it, trying to get a better read on her age. I was thinking mid 20s. She asked again, so I did what Chase (or someone else) recommended. I asked her to guess. She said 23, but I knew she was older. So I acted surprised and thanked her for the compliment. She then guessed 27. I said 26. She is as well. It was definitely an important moment, because she seemed like the kind of person that would care about a big age difference.

We began talking about traveling. She goes, "Oh, you know I'm going to Natal (WAY far away) in the beginning of November, you should totally come with me!" I was shocked to say the least. I almost just said, "F*** YEAH I will." But instead, I paused, pretended to think about it, smiled and said, "we just met and already you are inviting me to vacation with you, wow you must really dig me." I think it was the most solid chase frame I've set. Before she could reply (which I understand is the good thing to do, as she can't deny it), I said "we'll talk about it over a beer tomorrow."

Later on I tried to kiss her (see the article on Brazilian woman if you are thinking I'm crazy), but she denied and said she was too shy to kiss in public. It was sincere and absolutely adorable. So I told her, "no worries, I know a place close by with way more privacy."
"haha I'm not going to you house the first night!" Smart girl.
"Wow, you're already talking about coming back to my house! I was just thinking a restaurant nearby."
"Ohhh okay then!"
It was a bit of a walk to the closest viable restaurant (nothing tastes good mixed with tear gas) and by the time we got halfway her heels were doing her feet damage. Instead, we talked for a bit, kissed finally and I put her on the bus, setting up a date for tomorrow.

There are no words to express how absolutely elated I was. The second her bus was out of site, I was fist pumping like I was Ray Allen hitting that corner 3 in Game 6(actually theres no comparison ... allen is cool as ice). I am only just calming down after getting down to a few Funkadelic albums haha! I know it is early to be celebrating, but I couldn't care less. That was a watershed moment.

Abraços,
WB

 

[Knightrain]

Wow, Great Job

You could have easily of fallen prey to one of those excuses, but instead you kept going.

It's like Chase said, you just have to sift through the girls that don't like you to find the ones that do. I bet the feeling of getting Eliza made all the work and "rejections" more than worth it, plus you get better at approaching every time.





About those rejections getting you down, may I suggest a little bit of the article "The Success Factor" especially the part IV and V one? Controlling your mind a little should alleviate those bad feelings and replace them with good ones.

 

[Waterboii]

Knighttrain,

Thanks for the support brother, and yeah you are right, the excuses will always be there when you are starting out. For me it was (and still is) a matter of fighting them equally head on every time. Even if you fall prey to an excuse the previous time, come into the next approach with a fresh mind. And the same goes for rejections. I played basketball competitively my whole life and I was a 3 point shooting specialist. And the SINGLE most important thing I ever learned how to do was have a short memory. Because no matter how many shots you have made in your life, after you've missed a couple straight in a game, or are on a couple game cold streak, the basket starts to get small if you let it. Now its just a matter of transferring it to pick up! haha easier said than done right?!

Today was a roller coaster. I went to bed last night understandably high on life. I woke up and couldn't stop thinking about seeing Eliza again, I was even less motivated to meet girls as the day before and the rain gave me a good excuse to kick it. But it was an anxious, not an excited feeling. When I texted her confirming out meet up she took her sweet time and replied that today was no good, something "unexpected" happened and we would have to push it back. The text was cold. The emoticons and exclamations that dotted her previous texts were absent. "I knew it was too good to be true!" I thought to myself. I dreaded writing it here. I told her Friday was no good and if there was anyway to see me tonight. She must be having cold feet. Last night was probably too intense, and she was now on a different level. I thought the sooner I see her the better, maybe I could relieve her doubts. She replied reluctantly that we could a couple hours later. I arrived relatively on time yet she delayed (as all Brazilians do, but normally they let you know). An hour later, still no replies. I thought to myself, "welcome to pickup, my friend."

I was ready to call it quits. My phone doesn't let me call other services and I got a 7am class. She finally replied, "Sorry! I'm running late." I remember receiving it and having no change of feelings. I had come to terms with the fact that she was gone, and that this is what pick up and life in general is like. Sometimes you are up, sometimes you are down. But if I hadn't of made the move to meet her, I never would have had the chance to know girls like her really do exist. She was still the best first impression I have ever had. I felt a calm come over me, even when she texted back 15 min later, "so, can we make it saturday?" I felt no wave of anxiety or sadness. I caught a glimpse of the ever eluding and mystifying 'abundance mentality'. It was liberating knowing that if I tried hard enough (and I really hadn't tried THAT hard) I could find girls like Eliza wherever I go, and I would only find MORE as I got better. And nothing will ever take away the ecstasy I felt throughout our whole encounter and the ensuing night. If you've ever been depressed and been on anti-depression meds like Zoloft, like I was for 10 years until last year, you will know the feeling of emotional numbness that accompanies the ever increasing doses. Sure, you don't live at rock bottom, but you never see the light either. Everything is just a comforting, luke warm grey. I spent a good 3/4 years mustering up the courage to face the wrath of both extremes. And I wouldn't trade the feeling of being actually alive, for better or worse, for anything.

She texted me again saying the reason she can't come out is because of menstrual cramps, an understandable reason for being so distant, especially such a timid girl. I assured her that we could go out Saturday and she is back to her usual bubbly and emoticon-happy self. I sure as hell hope this works out, but there is an immense power that comes to being able to roll with the punches. And its a lesson that I have just begun to learn.

Tomorrow, I am back at university. Its given me trouble in the past, it is wealthy kids school, and if you know anything about Brazil (namely being one if not the most unequal countries) ... well lets just say these kids have a certain air about them. But my god are the girls gorgeous. My highscore there is an immense 3! PUC, your time has come!

PS: I'd love to see some more comments, so if there is anything that I can be doing differently in what I write, etc. that would make it easier to digest or reply to, let me know!

PPS: For those of you hesitant to post something similar (reporting on a goal, etc) as I was, I assure you this is a hell of a lot of fun!

Abração,
WB

 

[Humpert]

A few things Chase wrote in this week's article on cybersatiation and validation struck home, and I realized that my proportion between reading/theorizing and actually putting the info into action is very unbalanced. The content on this site is so insightful and desirable that I think you get a similar reaction to it as porn, meaning you actually feel the emotions of being a sexy and smooth man who can seduce women in any situation. For me, just thinking about how amazing it will be when I am at that level is extremely 'rewarding' in itself. So, I've decided to refrain from reading any more articles for this week, and rack up a bit of experience.

Wow. This is me!

I woke up and couldn't stop thinking about seeing Eliza again, I was even less motivated to meet girls as the day before and the rain gave me a good excuse to kick it. But it was an anxious, not an excited feeling. When I texted her confirming out meet up she took her sweet time and replied that today was no good, something "unexpected" happened and we would have to push it back. The text was cold. The emoticons and exclamations that dotted her previous texts were absent. "I knew it was too good to be true!" I thought to myself. I dreaded writing it here. I told her Friday was no good and if there was anyway to see me tonight. She must be having cold feet. Last night was probably too intense, and she was now on a different level. I thought the sooner I see her the better, maybe I could relieve her doubts. She replied reluctantly that we could a couple hours later. I arrived relatively on time yet she delayed (as all Brazilians do, but normally they let you know). An hour later, still no replies. I thought to myself, "welcome to pickup, my friend."

I was ready to call it quits. My phone doesn't let me call other services and I got a 7am class. She finally replied, "Sorry! I'm running late." I remember receiving it and having no change of feelings. I had come to terms with the fact that she was gone, and that this is what pick up and life in general is like. Sometimes you are up, sometimes you are down. But if I hadn't of made the move to meet her, I never would have had the chance to know girls like her really do exist. She was still the best first impression I have ever had. I felt a calm come over me, even when she texted back 15 min later, "so, can we make it saturday?" I felt no wave of anxiety or sadness. I caught a glimpse of the ever eluding and mystifying 'abundance mentality'. It was liberating knowing that if I tried hard enough (and I really hadn't tried THAT hard) I could find girls like Eliza wherever I go, and I would only find MORE as I got better. And nothing will ever take away the ecstasy I felt throughout our whole encounter and the ensuing night.

I LOVE your writing man, this thing is a pleasure to read.

Your relay of meeting Eliza was awesome, and it fills me with hope! Meeting at a crazy protest? Deadly. And I've stood on that photographer scaffolding before, looking down on a crowd scoping out women. I've seen Eliza walking around and I've done what you did and got off the scaffold and walked over to her, never expecting to actually approach... however I never do because I tell myself all the things you told yourself, but I let them convince me 100%.

I may take on this 40 Women Week thing as well, journal and all, it sound like the perfect stepping stone from where I am right now to getting to Direct.

Keep it up, WB. I'm excited to see where you end up at the end of this.

 

[ocantu1987]

Same here man, I read the whole thing and I am motivated now to start the newbie assigment.

 

[Waterboii]

I'm about to head out to downtown and see what I can do. When I come back, I'll write up the last two days. But first ...

@Humpert,

Muchas gracias amigo! I started my day off with a huge smile because of your comment, I appreciate it.

however I never do because I tell myself all the things you told yourself, but I let them convince me 100%.

There is not a single person on this forum who hasn't been there. Thats the comforting part. The uncomfortable part is moving beyond. I don't think that there is any amount of reasoning, no matter how convincing and mind-bendingly revelatory it is (and Chase and the team bust out a WHOLE lot of it), that can break you free from those excuses. In my opinion, since its an emotional (mammalian or even reptilian level) defense mechanism that keeps you from approaching, only an emotional reward can counterbalance it. Which is tricky, as you will never get an emotional reward without approaching in the first place! That is where some of the GC articles about mentalities, and even playing a few 'tricks' on your mind can give you a boost. One of the reasons I am finding it much easier to approach with this goal (and forum) as a context is because it provides me an emotional reward for doing well. I can see progress easier because of the nature of the goal (as I discussed before) and I get supportive and constructive comments. So, the emotional consequences of getting rejected don't seem as daunting (its not even part of my goal, and you guys still support nonetheless).

I may take on this 40 Women Week thing as well, journal and all, it sound like the perfect stepping stone from where I am right now to getting to Direct.

Right on Humpert! I'm no expert, but I figure you try anything and everything until you find what works. The advice and guidance on this site should be an accompaniment to your personal field experiences. It helps you to identify sticking points and gives you ways to break past them. But (as I have realized) it is not a substitute for actually doing the work, just as porn isn't a substitute to actually having sex! I'd be following you all the way if you decided to try it out brother!

@ocantu1987

Nice man, glad to hear it! A recommendation that I will liberally make from now on is that you should write it up and put it on the forum! I've always logged my approaches privately, and in fact I've had the 40/week goal for quite some time now, and never even got close. But the backing of a community like this can give you a much needed boost, just be honest and thorough. Looking forward to checking it out!

 

[ocantu1987]

Nice man, glad to hear it! A recommendation that I will liberally make from now on is that you should write it up and put it on the forum! I've always logged my approaches privately, and in fact I've had the 40/week goal for quite some time now, and never even got close. But the backing of a community like this can give you a much needed boost, just be honest and thorough. Looking forward to checking it out!

Good Idea waterboii, I will make a journal man. I actually approached a girl today, she was a fat powerlifter (haha you got to start somewhere) at my gym haha I opened about her form being awesome on the bench (wich it was) talked to her about it as well as her personal records and blah blah blah I could of deeped dived her on why she got into powerlifting but missed it and in the end I introduced myself. I was thinking If i can't do a direct opener (because of anxiety) then at least do a situational opener (much easier) to get the practice of approaching and just keep doing approaches. I felt great about it

 

[Waterboii]

My approaches for Thursday and Friday are as follows:

Thursday was my day to test my skills at uni. I can't say I was impressed with my results. Nor do I have any excuses, there were plenty of chances to rack up at least 8 or so. I also made the mistake of waiting a couple days to write this up, so my memory is quite foggy, at least for the outright rejections.

Getting off the bus there is almost always a cute girl to be approached. Today I spotted a tall brunette (21) walking ahead of me. I don't think anyone is really prepared to be approached at 6am, but I do it anyway. I have now been exclusively walking up beside a girl, turning and 'noticing' her and then opening. I give a first look and try to get eye contact (this one almost never succeeds). And then I'll try a second time, many times the girl with either look at you right after you look away the first time, or meet your eyes the second. Then I open after the second look as to look decisive. I smiled and softly said "hey, good morning"
"hey," she replied, giving me a surprised look and speeding up.
"I like that dress, its quite stylish, you wouldn't happen to be a design (fashion) major would you?"
"haha no." It was more of a no to me than to the question and she took a sudden turn and walked the other way. Haha I really don't enjoy making girls go out of their way to avoid talking to me!

I made sure to arrive early and do a quick round around the campus (which is really small). I spotted a cute brunette sitting alone on a bench in the little forest area of the campus. I walked by and we made good eye contact. As I was a bit past her already, I took a quick loop and came back around, instead of turning abruptly ... maybe she'll be thinking about me in the meantime. I came up, pointed to the seat and asked if it as free as I sat down. I thought it was a good medium between the options Chase gave, since those were really practical as the bench was so isolated.
"I like your taste in benches, this is the best spot in the whole area with the view of all the people"
"yeah, thats why I choose it "
"Nice, my name is WB, whats yours?"
"Bruna (22)"
"Nice to meet you Bruna, so you just killing time between class, or do you come all the way here just to sit and people watch?"
"haha no I'm waiting for my next class"
"Oh yeah, which class?"
"Anthro"
We talked a bit about school. I wasn't really attracted to her, but I thought I'd get some practice getting numbers anyway, so I said: "Listen Bruna, I have to get going but let's get a coffee sometime this week, sound good?"
"yeah sure!" And we exchanged numbers.

After my next class I made one more approach, that was essentially the same as Bruna's. Melissa (23) was sitting on a bench and I tried essentially the same approach, yet she wasn't as receptive, and bailed pretty soon after I sat down, rejecting my offer to meet up another time.

3 certainly isn't much, but I am realizing that reaching 40 isn't so 'out there' as I thought beforehand. You just have to take half (even less) of your chances daily, and go on outings and you will easily get 40 approaches.

On Friday, I took it easy and headed out to Downtown around 4pm to get the post-work rush. I wanted to do the write up just after, but I got sexiled.
It was another solid outing under my standards, but there was still room for improvement. I first spotted a really cute girl (24) wearing a black and white suit. I approached her walking and she rejected me fairly outright, but still received me with smiles. It is certainly to soon to say, but I felt like I was getting more smiles while approaching and less surprised/scaredish looks. And there may be a correlation with this and the fact that I felt SO much calmer and confident walking around. It didn't seem like such a big deal anymore. Don't get me wrong, I by no means approached every woman. In fact I walked past, in seemingly slow motion, various gorgeous women without an utterance.

Next I spotted a pair of real cute girls, a tall blonde and shorter brunette. I approached walking and said "hey"
I told her I thought they were pretty cute and asked their names. The blondes was Luara (25).
"So Luara, are you just getting of work or are you headed to that protest (there was another right in front of us)?"
"haha NO, I'm heading home ... where are you from?"
"The US, have you ever been?"
"no, but I REALLY want to, I want to go to disney!"
"Ah no, thats like its own country, I'm biased but I say you come to California"
"OMG I want to go there too!"
"Good choice, then why don't we meet up this weekend and talk more!" Trying to get the number on a high note was one of the best pieces of advice I've been able to implement meeting girls. Its essential.
"yeah ok, I don't have a phone tho ..." So, I ended up getting the number of the other girl.
We finished up the convo and parted ways. Still no text back though.

Next up I met another underage girl. Its pretty rare to see a young girl in DT, so I thought I was safe, but it turns out thats not true! But Beatriz (26) was nice and cute nonetheless.

Although I often don't approach girls because they aren't up to my 'standards', which is sometimes just another shit excuse, I often won't approach girls because they are just SO attractive. "They wouldn't go for me," I think. I saw of of these girls crossing the street (27). I hadn't talked to anyone in a while so I forced myself to do it. I walked up beside her, and used my usual walking approach. She was warm, and kindly said she wasn't interested. Classy lady. I was proud of that approach.

Finally, on my way back home I approached a girl at the crosswalk. Her name was Natasha (28) (one of my favorite names). We talked for a bit walking down the street, but when I asked if she wanted to get a drink sometime, she kindly declined. And that was that.

I know these write ups are quite shallow, but I really don't remember as much as I should. I'm going to head to the beach today and see what is crackin'. Also, I'm going to the movies with Eliza.

Until then,
WB

 

[Waterboii]

Good Idea waterboii, I will make a journal man. I actually approached a girl today, she was a fat powerlifter (haha you got to start somewhere) at my gym haha I opened about her form being awesome on the bench (wich it was) talked to her about it as well as her personal records and blah blah blah I could of deeped dived her on why she got into powerlifting but missed it and in the end I introduced myself. I was thinking If i can't do a direct opener (because of anxiety) then at least do a situational opener (much easier) to get the practice of approaching and just keep doing approaches. I felt great about it

Thats awesome man! Yeah situational openers are much easier to start out with. But keep working towards the direct approach. Once you get a few out of the way, they start to get really fun (especially if she is into it!). I'm looking forward to checking out your Newbie assignment!

 

[ocantu1987]

Hey waterboii, I started my journal check it out when you can. viewtopic.php?f=15&t=3660

 

[Mr.Rob]

Waterboii persist my friend!

The best thing I ever did to trounce my A.A. for good, or at least to easily manageable levels, was mass approach as many women as possible in one day (though im sure one week would be fine as well). My A.A. changed substantially after that day and has been more fun ever since. Its kinda cool after you approach like 6 or 7 girls in one day you start becoming slightly addicted and start approaching every hot girl you see. When this happens I recommend that you do some scary approaches such as girls with parents, girls in groups, girls in very public aware places (like in a store with people around or in a restaurant), girls with guys whatever.

Keep it up homie.

Rob

 

[Waterboii]

@ocantu1987

Alright man! I'll be following along.

The best thing I ever did to trounce my A.A. for good, or at least to easily manageable levels, was mass approach as many women as possible in one day (though im sure one week would be fine as well). My A.A. changed substantially after that day and has been more fun ever since. Its kinda cool after you approach like 6 or 7 girls in one day you start becoming slightly addicted and start approaching every hot girl you see.

Completely agree. I always have agreed as well, it was just a matter of getting out there and doin' it! Haha I got a glimpse of that feeling on my better days, I was really interested to see if she would be into me or not (at my level I am more surprised than not!).

Final Post

The 40 Woman Week is officially a thing of the past. My final count in the end was 31. Although I didn't write it out here, I had a subgoal of doing all of those approaches during the day (since I feel much more comfortable at night). I'm a proud man. I have never had so much momentum in my life with women, both with actual women in my life, and the mindset that I can bring new ones in. I think I've said everything that I wanted to in previous posts. Other than a immeasurable 'thank you'! to Chase and the team for everything you all do. The impact of your advice and encouragement goes way beyond the realm of women. A site like this is a rare gem. Also, I send my love to all those who commented or took a look!

Oh Yeah,
WB

 

[Humpert]

Hey WB! I wonder, what ever happened with Eliza on your movie date and beyond?