The book is HELLA about laying a mean pipe. He talks endlessly about the need for men to express their sexual interests, be direct, tell women what they want, and eschews "games" (but not "game"; there's a difference).
In loving the essence of women, you love all women, but that doesn't mean you fuck girls you're not attracted to. But they're still your sweethearts, your darlings. You treat them kindly and respectfully and remind them that they are beautiful.
"A man who loves women is loved by women."
That is the thesis of his entire book. Learn that and you've got all you need. But that is pretty much the "enlightenment" of seduction. It's going to take a very long time to get there, but if you relentlessly destroy all bitterness within yourself, you can get there.
Zan is a crazy nympho. The two guys who he talks about as being his near equals with women are super sexual. One is a city bus driver who is dirty and very sexual with all women he comes in contact with (I think his actual name is Kelly if I've correctly connected the dots; I've seen him in a few interviews with Zan). The other guy is a gigolo - a male prostitute. If that's not nympho, idk what is. I'm pretty sure Zan's lay count is over 1,000 (but he also explains why it doesn't matter). Dig up his old ASF-posts and you'll see; the guys an animal.
You'll notice that in almost all of his seductions in the book he's very sexual; it's just that his poetic writing masks some of it, because he sees sexuality as beautiful in its dirtiness and primality.
For him, the ultimate appreciation of a woman's beauty IS to fuck her. It's your half of the dance. But it's not seen as an "end," just a natural step of the romance between a man and a woman.
Hector
