New here, hi Chase and everyone.
Maybe a suggestion for an article, how to follow up with the colleague the days after.
A colleague of mine (who i have good rapport with in general) hit on me in a night club, quite out of the blue. It was basically plenty of bump and grind, holding hands with plenty of long long eye contact, nothing more from either of us as... she has a boyfriend. She never talks about him and never brings him along and the impression is that she needs an escape. How do you handle the following days/week following the event? I talked to her the next working day, seeing if she got home OK etc, we chatted a bit, acknowledged it was a fun night out. We passed in the corridor and she gave me a knowing look. A colleague of mine said he saw it coming, based on the last time we were out.
Asked her to lunch but she declined with good reason of being busy. I know this is the case from prior discussion. How hard would you press this scenario? Would you wait until the next outing and see if there is take 2? Would you bring up any of the specifics of what we got up to, how good she felt in your arms etc?
I'm torn between letting the sexual tension simmer (which could end up with expiry) or pushing it forward faster seeing where it goes. I don't want to chase but i do want to push it forward and i do want to be sensitive to the fact that she may be embarassed (no indication of that so far) or guilty (no indication of that either).
Any advice on how to proceed?
Thanks,
Maybe a suggestion for an article, how to follow up with the colleague the days after.
A colleague of mine (who i have good rapport with in general) hit on me in a night club, quite out of the blue. It was basically plenty of bump and grind, holding hands with plenty of long long eye contact, nothing more from either of us as... she has a boyfriend. She never talks about him and never brings him along and the impression is that she needs an escape. How do you handle the following days/week following the event? I talked to her the next working day, seeing if she got home OK etc, we chatted a bit, acknowledged it was a fun night out. We passed in the corridor and she gave me a knowing look. A colleague of mine said he saw it coming, based on the last time we were out.
Asked her to lunch but she declined with good reason of being busy. I know this is the case from prior discussion. How hard would you press this scenario? Would you wait until the next outing and see if there is take 2? Would you bring up any of the specifics of what we got up to, how good she felt in your arms etc?
I'm torn between letting the sexual tension simmer (which could end up with expiry) or pushing it forward faster seeing where it goes. I don't want to chase but i do want to push it forward and i do want to be sensitive to the fact that she may be embarassed (no indication of that so far) or guilty (no indication of that either).
Any advice on how to proceed?
Thanks,
