The "confession"

[snow]

So the other day, after a really drunk night I got the courage to approach some girls with my friend, talked a bit, got her number and left. I wasn't really aiming to see her again so during our conversation, for fun, I told her I work as something I don't.

Ok so I text her the next day, sobered up, thinking that I should clear that up (I hate lying to people) so I texted her about the previous night (uses a lot of tips from the text message guides!) and finished the message with "I've got a confession to make...". She texted back with the usual stuff and then said that she was "really curious" about that confession. Awesome, this confession thing is working! So instead of just telling her I texted back that if she wants to know she should go out with me after work and bam date organised. Her last message said "this better be good!.

I can't use the lying about the job thing because its so lame! I'll deflect for as long as I can on the date but any suggestions on what I should come up with (if anything?).

 

[Clout]

I think it depends on what you told her you do and what you actually do. Either way though I would act like it was funny (not a negative lie, just you having fun) and yeah just deflect all day, then go with something like "it got you out right?"

Edit: I actually had one friend ask me what I do whilst on holiday, get a quick summary and then relay it to the girl next to him...then went on to tell her friend he was an Asian actor, how did she not know of him? It was funny as hell and he was only doing it to get laid. He didn't understand why we were laughing so much.

 

[snow]

Actually I just told her I was a tiler - so if anything my job is probably more interesting (though less manly)

That's a good idea about the 'it got you out right?' - sounds pretty playful If I make something up then I'm probably going to end up getting myself in to a bit of trouble - deflection and honesty it is!

 

[Clout]

Yeah my friend who just lies to women asked me why I didn't do or like this. My answer was simply that I have enough crap to remember and do in life than keep notes on what I have told one individual. When asked I either give non-direct answer or something so stupid they don't know what to believe until I start to smirk.

 

[PinotNoir]

If you're a master at building tension, then you could probably do something like this:

"OK, so tell me the confession!"
"It's a big one. I need more time to brood over it."
"Bull! Tell me."
"First, let's talk about you..."

Ask some light and heavy questions. Try to deflect the question for the time being and focus on her. This can be tough, so again, you need to be pretty skillful here with good conversation and have light touching between the two of you. You need a good cue that you can pull this off -- that things are going well.

(A small silence emerges after last discussion.)

"...so about that confession?"
"Well... it is hard to tell." (Gaze into her eyes.)
"You can tell me."
(Move closer, looking into her with dreamy eyes.)
"It's something I need to show." (or "Something that you can only feel.")
(Move closer.)
"Wha..."
(Move in for the slow, soft kiss.)

I only suggest this if you are a master of conversation and tension. I've tried this before, but I usually get beaten down by a women's insistence.

And, if you talk a while and it's not feeling very sexual or going as well as you would like, you can either just say screw it and try the above anyway or you can just turn it into something funny:

"...so about that confession?"
"Well... the truth is... the truth is..."
"...yes?"
"I am not a tiler... what I do is... unsafe."
"Unsafe?"
"Unsafe for you to hear... I am a Russian spy. I have several wigs in my car right now!" (Relates to recent USA spy found in Russia, if she reads the news.)

Or whatever. I'm sure you can think of some good humor. I think the plain truth will work, as long as you present it right and make it funny/enjoyable. After laughing, then you 2 can talk about actual careers and what her passion is or would want to do if could do anything, etc.

If she says, "I told you that this better be worth it!" You can say "It is" and go for the kiss again (like above) or "I will make it worth it! Let's get out of here and do X fun thing..." or "It's not worth hanging out with a hot guy?" or "Well, it was worth it for me, conversing with another beautiful girl" (chasey, but the "another" probably saves you).

 

[snow]

Wow, I think that's probably a level above where I'm at right now but worth a try next time date went well, confession only came out half way through and I just used the line "well it got you out didn't it?" ... turned out she had some confessions of her own

 

[Clout]

Good job Snow, I think as long as you turn it funny (like with "got you out didn't it") they usually take it well. Also by being honest you will inspire her to be honest and open. Once a girl starts opening up like this, show her your non-judgmental and you just got yourself a girl chasing you.