The dark side of Abundance Mentality!

[MisterX]

Okay you have absolute abundance.

You know you can get a great girl at any time.


Then why would you ever care about any specific girl?


Since you know she's not special at all, she's just like a sex toy or a napkin. You can get another one easily so you don't give a f#ck about her.



So you go out with a girl and she does sth wrong like: be flaky on a date, want to delay sex, check out another guy, flirt with another guy AND you just give her the "get the f#ck out!" and just dump her, cause you know you can get a hotter and better girl.


Why would ever you care for any girl you ever meet?


And why would you ever get in a relationship or get married?




You'd have to settle no matter how gorgeous or amazing a girl is, cause you KNOW you can get a better girl.




I mean I doubt you can ever fall for a girl if you don't even care about her. Or you can't in a relationship if you just know you can get better and go to another girl, but then you realize you can do even better.


Just like the episode of How I met your mother, where Barney got a "magic phone" where hot girls kept calling him 24/7 and he never got with any of the girls cause every time he got with a girl, a hotter one would call. So he never could be with any one girl cause there was always s hotter one just waiting for him.




So in a way does having Absolute Abundance mean you'll become a jerk who doesn't even see women as human being anymore and just goes from woman to woman cause he knows that he can never be with any one girl if a better one i waiting for him?

 

[Richard]

X, that is indeed a dark side of having an Abundance Mentality, however, it is one of the greatest assets you have as well, for the very same reason.

Recently, Sly was facing a dilemma similar to this, as was Tool, but! Both had an abundance mentality, but came across a girl who challenged that mentality, who proved herself to be top-class for them.

Having an abundance mentality will immediately weed out the women who are not relationship material for you, but acts as a barrier as well. Women who are inside that barrier are there from the get-go because of an immediate attraction that Chase has talked about. Girls like this you see and you immediately feel something, and most of the time, that girl feels it too, that is a girl who is relationship material for you, who will challenge your abundance mentality.

For an actual example of this, read here

 

[Jesse]

What usually happens is that you just find a really great girl eventually... you can't help but fall for her... she's so great that you stop caring about abundance mentality or going out. OR she's so fucking cool that you bring her out with you.

Another route some guys go is that they pretty much stop caring about finding a specific or "special" girl. No one girl can fill the shoes of the combined variety of all the girls they're meeting. No one girl can fill the excitement of the adventure they're having on their own. No girl needs to fill that hole inside them, because they're happy as it is. So the questions you're asking don't even occur to them to be issues, and it doesn't bother them. They're no assholes- they're just having too much fun as it is.

Of course, what happens for 19 out of 20 guys at this is that they find a girl that isn't really their ideal, but it just feels a lot more comfortable hanging with her than going out. With a little time and a lot of sex, the guy pair bonds with the girl and he gets deeply attached to her (despite thinking at first he wouldn't let it happen). He drops out of pickup. Not because of a conscious decision on his part, but rather because "it just happened".

At any rate, no matter what future you end up falling into, the concerns you're raising rarely end up being a huge issue!