I was jotting down a list of things that I fear when it comes to meeting women and it was no half hearted session I was having to myself. I was really digging deep inside to see what it is that is soo confusing to me and makes me hesistant and by doing so I came up with three things that should sum up my fears. I want to have casual encounters with women and being someone who is 23 I have began to find older women (30-45) sexually attractive but with these fears in my life I cannot think straight when I am in the moment (but when alone I act like a know it all)
1) I am confused about the difference between DESIRE vs NEEDY BEHAVIOR
- women like to be desired but I do not know where the line crosses between the two concepts. Say the girl happens to be the type that is shy and I show an intense desire for her (sexual that is) and she responds in a way that I am not sure is intrest/disintrest was it because she thought I was needy? therefore is conveying what you WANT to a woman a bad thing? (if so it is almost saying that I should be ashamed of my sexual desire of women)
2) I fear that I will be slapped in the face or insulted by a girl/woman
- This is connected to showing desire in a woman. One of the reasons I "hesitate" is because of this irrational fear of being physically attacked by a gorgeous girl/woman for talking to her in a cordial manner and flirting as well. This is a big one with older women; because of the very fact that she is OLDER than me she has been through a lot more than I have (divorce, marriage, kids, etc) she is probably more educated and has a well paying job therefore expects me to be on her level in order to even have a date with her let alone sex. I live in Fairfax County VA (Northern VA) and most of the women here seem to be the well off type that only do stuff with men at their level but truth is I am only a college student that had sex with only ONE girl. I personally HATE drama
3) PATIENCE, PATIENCE, PATIENCE
- I feel like there is a race against time because I fear that I will finally "get it" with women, seduction, sex etc. at a much later age (30ies, 40ies, 50ies) but IDEALLY speaking I want to start this thrilling experience in my 20ies so that I genuinely know what I want in a woman by the time I decide to settle down. I am someone who wants to see results quick therefore I find myself getting pissed when connections do not happen as planned when I meet women. I know patience is the key to seduction (for it is like an art of its own) but there is that gnawing thought in the back of my head that tells me that I need results FAST.
I hope this helps give a better understanding--ask me if there is anything I need to clear up. THANK YOU!!!
1) I am confused about the difference between DESIRE vs NEEDY BEHAVIOR
- women like to be desired but I do not know where the line crosses between the two concepts. Say the girl happens to be the type that is shy and I show an intense desire for her (sexual that is) and she responds in a way that I am not sure is intrest/disintrest was it because she thought I was needy? therefore is conveying what you WANT to a woman a bad thing? (if so it is almost saying that I should be ashamed of my sexual desire of women)
2) I fear that I will be slapped in the face or insulted by a girl/woman
- This is connected to showing desire in a woman. One of the reasons I "hesitate" is because of this irrational fear of being physically attacked by a gorgeous girl/woman for talking to her in a cordial manner and flirting as well. This is a big one with older women; because of the very fact that she is OLDER than me she has been through a lot more than I have (divorce, marriage, kids, etc) she is probably more educated and has a well paying job therefore expects me to be on her level in order to even have a date with her let alone sex. I live in Fairfax County VA (Northern VA) and most of the women here seem to be the well off type that only do stuff with men at their level but truth is I am only a college student that had sex with only ONE girl. I personally HATE drama
3) PATIENCE, PATIENCE, PATIENCE
- I feel like there is a race against time because I fear that I will finally "get it" with women, seduction, sex etc. at a much later age (30ies, 40ies, 50ies) but IDEALLY speaking I want to start this thrilling experience in my 20ies so that I genuinely know what I want in a woman by the time I decide to settle down. I am someone who wants to see results quick therefore I find myself getting pissed when connections do not happen as planned when I meet women. I know patience is the key to seduction (for it is like an art of its own) but there is that gnawing thought in the back of my head that tells me that I need results FAST.
I hope this helps give a better understanding--ask me if there is anything I need to clear up. THANK YOU!!!
