The flakes are real (General Q and Specific Q)

[Eternity]

No reason to be bummed out. You took a girl out and got nervous and didn't escalate, happens. You also have another who's investing more in the pickup than you are. Welcome to abundance mentality! Next time take it slow and simple with "let's watch a movie at my place" or "lets order a pizza and drink some wine (whatever you drink) and kick it." Try putting your arm around her when you're watching the flick, pull her head slowly into your chest and try to kiss her. Stuff like that gets her comfy with your touch.
It's cool if you don't game direct and fast; you are learning, it's good if you make mistakes and learn from them. Shit, I'm not doing so sharp either right now, I'm taking it slow but once I'm in the zone, I'll fly by.

For the txt send: "next week?" and leave it alone. It's her choice now, you're the prize not the other way around.

 

[pickupq123]

Thanks for the words of encouragement. I just simply texted her "had fun" 1 hour after the date, because why not. She actually texted me an interesting response...

Me: had fun
Her: me too you're really sweet (uh-oh. i don't know how i feel about being called sweet...)
Me: i guess me and that ice cream have something in common
Her: guess so
Her: can I ask you something
Me: go for it
Her: are you looking for a relationship? (ouch. i'm in boyfriend territory. guess being called sweet was foreshadowing).
Me: no
Me: i'm out of this city in two months. wouldn't be fair for me or the girl.
her: ok
her: oh i see
her: do just casual dating?
me: my dates are all serious
her: lol how?
me: whenever i create floods with my ice cream it's serious business (i let my ice-cream sit for a bit)
me: hey i'm about to head into work but lets do something next tues. i either want to see your art or you can show me your favorite episode of X.
her: oh ok. i forgot i'm not in town next tues. can we do something this weekend?

so while she wants me as a boyfriend, i at least made it clear i'm not looking for a relationship. i think this is all i could do to not fully be in bf territory. i'm still working on shortening my texts. i like your style and i've made good progress so far. just trying to create something that fits my style.

 

[Eternity]

I think it's her who doesn't want a relationship. You're right you might've send b.f vibes somewhere along the line. But it's time to kick into high gear to get rid of that. She offered to reschedule which means she's into you. It's up to u to convince her to see you as a sexual man. Accept and in your spare time either read up on how to turn a woman on with your touch or seek visual examples from movies or T.V. Also check out how to make her squirt and make her orgasm you might need it.

 

[pickupq123]

Thanks for the words of encouragement. I just simply texted her "had fun" 1 hour after the date, because why not. She actually texted me an interesting response...

Me: had fun
Her: me too you're really sweet (uh-oh. i don't know how i feel about being called sweet...)
Me: i guess me and that ice cream have something in common
Her: guess so
Her: can I ask you something
Me: go for it
Her: are you looking for a relationship? (ouch. i'm in boyfriend territory. guess being called sweet was foreshadowing).
Me: no
Me: i'm out of this city in two months. wouldn't be fair for me or the girl.
her: ok
her: oh i see
her: do just casual dating?
me: my dates are all serious
her: lol how?
me: whenever i create floods with my ice cream it's serious business (i let my ice-cream sit for a bit)
me: hey i'm about to head into work but lets do something next tues. i either want to see your art or you can show me your favorite episode of X.
her: oh ok. i forgot i'm not in town next tues. can we do something this weekend?

so while she wants me as a boyfriend, i at least made it clear i'm not looking for a relationship. i think this is all i could do to not fully be in bf territory. i'm still working on shortening my texts. i like your style and i've made good progress so far. just trying to create something that fits my style.

Welp, might have to move on to the next one.


After she said "something this weekend?" I told her...

Me: The weekend is bad for me. tmrw night?

No response.

Pinged her just now (5 days later)

Me: Hey X. Plans later this week?

If I don't hear back by tomorrow night, just gonna delete the number.

I also plan on daygaming and recording either tomorrow or Thurs for those interested. I normally can find ~3 girls in about an hour (yay crappy logistics), but I plan on going hard and talking to 10.