I have a question that has come up time and again. I work for a large company with a lot of attractive single women in my age group that have good educations. I've often thought about dating. It seems to me that it makes sense as I have a chance to build up some chemistry and we can get to know each other and build trust before dating. I also happen to shine and be more confident here than anywhere else and to show leadership, which are attractive to women. Outside of here I'm probably seen more at the bottom of the social totem pole. I've also read that work collegues that get into relationships have much higher odds o getting married. Basically it has a lot of advantages, not to mention that I don't really enjoy myself when I go out.
That said, I'm very aware of the old age advice not to $h!t where you eat. I also know, that as stated, this is not the first time I've been heavily attracted to someone, so I'm hesitant to act. The first girl was the one I fell hardest for and I did not act until about a year after she left and that was a complete disaster. She gave mixed signals. There was another very attractive girl that gave almost no signals, I thought she was great and found out after she left that she had the hots for me. Was too late to act on it, not really a possibility now. I'm obviously not great at reading this situations.
There are currently a few girls that have my eye, two are showing some signs it's mutual. One is not single and flirts with everyone so I have no interest in pursuing at this time. The other is single does flirt a bit with me, but not with anyone else as far as I can tell. Looks wise not everything I like, but very attractive, however has a lot of other traits that make me dig her quite a bit. She's also finishing up a grad degree so she may not stay when she's finished, making the possibility that I could wait until then like I did with the first girl.
What are your thoughts and what is the best way to test the waters without crossing the line?
That said, I'm very aware of the old age advice not to $h!t where you eat. I also know, that as stated, this is not the first time I've been heavily attracted to someone, so I'm hesitant to act. The first girl was the one I fell hardest for and I did not act until about a year after she left and that was a complete disaster. She gave mixed signals. There was another very attractive girl that gave almost no signals, I thought she was great and found out after she left that she had the hots for me. Was too late to act on it, not really a possibility now. I'm obviously not great at reading this situations.
There are currently a few girls that have my eye, two are showing some signs it's mutual. One is not single and flirts with everyone so I have no interest in pursuing at this time. The other is single does flirt a bit with me, but not with anyone else as far as I can tell. Looks wise not everything I like, but very attractive, however has a lot of other traits that make me dig her quite a bit. She's also finishing up a grad degree so she may not stay when she's finished, making the possibility that I could wait until then like I did with the first girl.
What are your thoughts and what is the best way to test the waters without crossing the line?
