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Gentleman, Just wanted to hit on topic that I think we should all be aware of. When meeting women, or anyone for that matter, there is a good nervousness and a bad nervousness. If you are confused, I will try and explain in further details with personal examples.
Good Nervousness: When you interact with someone and, as Chase teaches, they see how high value you are. How dominant, skilled, and effortless you are. They realize that they cannot lead you, but instead are the ones being led. This, when done right, will make people want you, they will be nervouse around you because they don't want to mess up a potential to have something soooo valuable in there life, so what do they do?? They become nervous, they blush, they stutter in their words, say silly things, then immediately apologize Case in point one of my casual flings; we have had a casual thing going on/off for about a year now ( she wanted a relationship, I said I couldn't give her that, gave her her space, she comes back for more). Yet she still gets nervous around me: here is one of conversations:
She comes over:
Me: Hey, how was your day? ( nice quick kiss and embrace)
Her: umm... it was good (nervous laughter), how bout yours?
Me: Mine went well, busy like always, put your stuff down, make yourself comfortable, don't act like this is the first time your seeing me ( slight smile on face)
Her: (with smile on her face and slight laughter) okay.
( note this to me is a sign of good nervousness, because not only does she not want to invade of my space, but she also doesn't know how I will respond, so she becomes somewhat nervous and unsure about how to proceed, upon which I make it clear that I recognize how she feels, that she should feel it, and that she should make herself comfortable.)
This is what you want in your interactions, for people to realize how valuable you are and, quite frankly, to be amazed by it to the point where they just don't know what to do with themself. Now this is best handled carefully, because as Noted in many articles, you do not want to go into the realm of auto rejection b/c she thinks your TOO high value. Remember, everything in moderation
Now the bad and the ugly. As I am sure we have all had those experiences where you can tell things just weren't right, you said the wrong things, dressed poorly, made a bad first impression, whatever ( if these are the case, I strongly suggest working on those fundamentals, they really do make a difference). Bad nervousness occurs when things are not clear and you did not come off right. May be you came off as a creep, too aggressive, or she just wasn't interested, all of these can lead to a bad nervousness, that when goes unnoticed can make things VERY awkward and uncomfortable for both parties: case in point.
Last night at the bars:
I see this moderately attractive burnette (MAB) come in with her friend, she is not great, but she seems interesting, dressed while, and had a nice thick ass( I am an ass man, not big ass, but one that is well taken cared of and shows signs of delicacy). Anyway, her friend goes away, so I decide to approach. I made my way to the empty spot next to her and here is the conversation that follows:
Me: Hey, you are very cute. ( direct and straight to the point.)
Her: Oh, Hi. Thank you...
Me: What's your name?
Her: I am MAB (looks over shoulder to where her friend went, sign number one, but I persisted)
Me: nice to meet you MAB, I am R4L, where are you from?
Her: nice to meet you too, I am from blah blah school
Her: are you from XYZ school?
Me: yeah I am, what are you studying?
Her: Economics,
Me: nice, what year are you? What do you hope to do with that?
Her: I am senior, probably work as a business analyst for a large firm of some sort.
Me: Wow, that sounds intense
Her: yeah... I have been taking some classes at XYZ with blah blah professor.
Me: Who? ( wanted to get some small investment, so said who to get her to lean in more and closer to me, plus I could hardly hear her!)
Her: (leans in) blah blah professor.
Me: oh...no idea.
Her: yeah.... ( looks over to the area where her friend went and turns her body away from the conversation).
Now, realizing from the beginning that this was not going anywhere and that I was obviously making her nervous and uncomfortable ( in a bad way). I decided to leave the situation and told her this:
Me: It was nice meeting you, when your friend gets back, you should come join me and my friends. (I was out with my two girlfriends)
Her: okay, sure. ( Turns head quickly)
Needless to say she did not join us... surprised? Not in the least. Why? I used poor fundamentals, and did not showcase proper value, so in her mind I was either a creep that does that a lot or some awkward guy hitting on her. Hence she became nervous b/c not only did I not show anything to offer, but I seemed to want something, a position no person likes to be in. So I realized the situation and exited. Funny enough, I saw her look over at me and my friends through out the night, so I guess most guys don't do that very often, surprise huh?
Anyway, Gentleman, just thought I would say this with you all. I have been engulfed in school lately, finals are coming up. Along with this I am really trying to push my game to from technician to the next level, so I have been reading and re-reading posts, and applying them to my life. I will be doing updates later on when things die down with school.
Cheers
R4L
Good Nervousness: When you interact with someone and, as Chase teaches, they see how high value you are. How dominant, skilled, and effortless you are. They realize that they cannot lead you, but instead are the ones being led. This, when done right, will make people want you, they will be nervouse around you because they don't want to mess up a potential to have something soooo valuable in there life, so what do they do?? They become nervous, they blush, they stutter in their words, say silly things, then immediately apologize Case in point one of my casual flings; we have had a casual thing going on/off for about a year now ( she wanted a relationship, I said I couldn't give her that, gave her her space, she comes back for more). Yet she still gets nervous around me: here is one of conversations:
She comes over:
Me: Hey, how was your day? ( nice quick kiss and embrace)
Her: umm... it was good (nervous laughter), how bout yours?
Me: Mine went well, busy like always, put your stuff down, make yourself comfortable, don't act like this is the first time your seeing me ( slight smile on face)
Her: (with smile on her face and slight laughter) okay.
( note this to me is a sign of good nervousness, because not only does she not want to invade of my space, but she also doesn't know how I will respond, so she becomes somewhat nervous and unsure about how to proceed, upon which I make it clear that I recognize how she feels, that she should feel it, and that she should make herself comfortable.)
This is what you want in your interactions, for people to realize how valuable you are and, quite frankly, to be amazed by it to the point where they just don't know what to do with themself. Now this is best handled carefully, because as Noted in many articles, you do not want to go into the realm of auto rejection b/c she thinks your TOO high value. Remember, everything in moderation
Now the bad and the ugly. As I am sure we have all had those experiences where you can tell things just weren't right, you said the wrong things, dressed poorly, made a bad first impression, whatever ( if these are the case, I strongly suggest working on those fundamentals, they really do make a difference). Bad nervousness occurs when things are not clear and you did not come off right. May be you came off as a creep, too aggressive, or she just wasn't interested, all of these can lead to a bad nervousness, that when goes unnoticed can make things VERY awkward and uncomfortable for both parties: case in point.
Last night at the bars:
I see this moderately attractive burnette (MAB) come in with her friend, she is not great, but she seems interesting, dressed while, and had a nice thick ass( I am an ass man, not big ass, but one that is well taken cared of and shows signs of delicacy
). Anyway, her friend goes away, so I decide to approach. I made my way to the empty spot next to her and here is the conversation that follows:Me: Hey, you are very cute. ( direct and straight to the point.)
Her: Oh, Hi. Thank you...
Me: What's your name?
Her: I am MAB (looks over shoulder to where her friend went, sign number one, but I persisted)
Me: nice to meet you MAB, I am R4L, where are you from?
Her: nice to meet you too, I am from blah blah school
Her: are you from XYZ school?
Me: yeah I am, what are you studying?
Her: Economics,
Me: nice, what year are you? What do you hope to do with that?
Her: I am senior, probably work as a business analyst for a large firm of some sort.
Me: Wow, that sounds intense
Her: yeah... I have been taking some classes at XYZ with blah blah professor.
Me: Who? ( wanted to get some small investment, so said who to get her to lean in more and closer to me, plus I could hardly hear her!)
Her: (leans in) blah blah professor.
Me: oh...no idea.
Her: yeah.... ( looks over to the area where her friend went and turns her body away from the conversation).
Now, realizing from the beginning that this was not going anywhere and that I was obviously making her nervous and uncomfortable ( in a bad way). I decided to leave the situation and told her this:
Me: It was nice meeting you, when your friend gets back, you should come join me and my friends. (I was out with my two girlfriends)
Her: okay, sure. ( Turns head quickly)
Needless to say she did not join us... surprised? Not in the least. Why? I used poor fundamentals, and did not showcase proper value, so in her mind I was either a creep that does that a lot or some awkward guy hitting on her. Hence she became nervous b/c not only did I not show anything to offer, but I seemed to want something, a position no person likes to be in. So I realized the situation and exited. Funny enough, I saw her look over at me and my friends through out the night, so I guess most guys don't do that very often, surprise huh?
Anyway, Gentleman, just thought I would say this with you all. I have been engulfed in school lately, finals are coming up. Along with this I am really trying to push my game to from technician to the next level, so I have been reading and re-reading posts, and applying them to my life. I will be doing updates later on when things die down with school.
Cheers
R4L
