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This is a compilation of a few lays (or near misses) from when I was backpacking. I took notes but never posted any of these....
Enjoy!
Unsmooth
My friends drop me off at a hostel. I’ve been abroad about 3 days and jet lag is catching up to me, but I feel calm. The onsen we were just at has me feeling totally relaxed. I’m completely dressed down but decide to put my contacts in once I get to my room because I don’t feel ready to call it a night.
I’m open to meting new people. As I get back into my 6 bed dorm, an attractive japanese woman is at the end of the room. I'm hesitant to open as it's late and there are others nearby but I start a conversation. She seems quite open to talking so I invite her to come outside with me.
I don’t have any idea how to take this from a conversation to a lay, but that’s not important. I remember thinking that all I need is the next step, and right now the next step is to keep talking. She's cute, mixing japanese I can't understand with a very sweet submissive foreign english.
We go up the fire escape for some fresh air. The vibe is still more friendly than sexual, probably because I make no effort to get sexual as it’s been quite a while since I’ve tried to fuck random women I meet. I suggest we go for a walk and she happily obliges. I look for places to go and she says "you need to lead me" well ok. My way it is, we're walking to a nearby park.
At some point, we’re sitting down and I know I need to kiss her to keep things moving. However, I’m fresh off a long break and I can’t tell with her mannerisms if she’s into me or not. Maybe it's culture, maybe I'm rusty, at some point I straight up tell her I want to kiss her. She’s a bit weird about it but doesn't say no. I pull her in, it’s a bit awkward as neither of us are fully passionate at this point.
We sit on the curb for a little while, she laughs saying she's 'not this young anymore'. The streets are deserted except for the trash truck that comes by right as we're kissing. Very sexy. However, I keep building the vibe and eventually we have a one night love story plot going. She leaves tomorrow to her hometown. And see her kids.
Anyways, we’re pretty much locked in on the way back. There’s some unsmoothness on where we’ll bang because she’s leery of doing it in a hostel bunk and the bathrooms are tiny. She gives me an “are you sure? I’m not a prize, etc” and I just say yes. We end up showering together and it’s nice to feel each other but I keep losing my erection when I put a condom on.
We give up and go to sleep saying we’ll try again in the morning. I tell her that she looks good and young before going to my bed.
I have an amazing sleep not expecting anything and it turns out she’s waiting for me. We’re the only two in the dorm, which is perfect. I crawl in her bunk and we chat for a minute then start kissing, fooling around, fucking. At some point we hear someone get up from a lower bunk. Oops, not the only two. We continue quietly and they leave.
We finish and we both agree that it was a nice experience and are happy to have met each other. No contacts or pictures exchanged. Just a happy memory from my first night in a hostel (this trip).
I later tell my friend what happened and he said "her kids are hungry!" lol
Packing
I check into a hostel in a new city. At some point, I notice the filipina receptionist is eyeing me so I play ball.
She’s reserved and has one of those unnecessarily mature vibes I’m not a fan of. She’s two years older than me and makes it a big deal, which annoys me as I don’t get shit like that from women who are 5+ years older.
We talk and get to know each other a bit. I don’t attempt to make any sort of a move but the flirty vibes are there so I’m not worried. We talk about scheduling, days off etc and I invite her to hang out with me in a couple days. She says it’s normal to hang out with guests etc so it’s an uphill battle to begin with. She suggests food and I laugh at her for it. I hate food dates.
I barely saw her the next day and didn’t talk to her when I caught a glimpse; the next day I was out until evening. When I got back, we end up talking/chatting for a while. It’s a lot of work to build a sexual vibe. We played jenga and make a bet that the loser buys soju to split. I win of course, she forks over the dough, and we play again. The whole time giving me shit like "you're from a rich country, I don't make much money, etc" over a $5 bottle but I don't budge. She lost fair and square. Eventually, we get into juicier topics of conversation.
She’s one of those girls who thinks sex is a huge deal. Says hookups are something she doesn’t do, etc and I learn that there was one traveler who used to stay here she used to be a sort of girlfriend to and got dumped. She also mentioned that she got tinder recently but preferred face to face conversation.
I don’t know how much of this is actually true. It seems like every girl says that they only go out with special guys rarely, aren’t comfortable with hookups, etc. Maybe it’s the way I’m interacting with them.
Either way, I buy it and continue on. We’re talking about life in a hostel and get to the topic of sex. She mentions some guy once told her to move over on her bed and she said no way and was uncomfortable. Naturally, I get her to admit that if it was a hot guy she liked etc if she would’ve slept with him. Bingo, now I have a plan.
We’re still in the common room/reception area and she’s afraid to do anything because of all the cameras watching. At some point, I kiss her. This whole time she’s playing hard to get. “No one gets me”, “I’m not easy”, all kinds of bullshit I wade through because obviously she likes me.
A lot of times I just don't bother with girls who act like this. This time I wanted to play.
We’re talking about sleeping together, and she says we’re not gonna do anything just sleep. I agree of course. The staff room isn’t available, I can’t go in her dorm because it’s the all female dorm, she can’t go in mine because of all the cameras, there are people in the common area by the bathrooms, in short poor logistics.
Well, I know from earlier she’d be okay with me coming to her bed so I know I just need to make her hornier. I pull her a little closer so she can feel my boner. Can’t fake that. I have her touch it briefly and I continue on trying to find a way to make it work. Eventually, I say I’m going to come to her bed when it’s dark and ask which one it is. She tells me which bunk is hers and says she doesn’t believe I’ll come to her bed cause men always lie. Boom, there’s my green light. I leave her be and go outside.
Coincidentally, I meet a girl I end up going out with the next night.
I go back in and she’s gone. I poke in her bed but don’t see or feel her so I text. We go back and forth for a few minutes (would copy but it's long) she tells me no, don't come, I don't want to get caught, etc. Eventually later invites me to sleep with her then says time up as I don't respond for a while so I just ask which bed is hers and when she answers I go crawl in her bed.
Once I’m in, there’s zero hesitation and we fuck as silently as possible. Says "you succeeded to get me".
In general, the sex is just not that good in limited space when you have to be quiet. But this girl had amazing big soft lips and whenever she came it felt like a massage chair for my dick, which made it all worth doing.
Her frame this whole time is she was never flirting with me, we were just friends until I kissed her, basically I am responsible for everything. She’s a pain in the ass actually.
I try to fuck her in the back of a mall the next day which unfortunately didn't happen because I didn't quite lead hard enough. That night she uses her staff privilege and gets a larger bed next to mine for a few days. The first night, I’m out until 6 am with a different (hotter) girl.
The next night, I slept next to her after kissing a different girl who I think just wasn’t sexual enough to lay. The last night, I go on a failed date, come back, meet a super down girl I decide not to fuck because I don’t want to do it in a bathroom, then go back to the receptionist and fuck her to sleep.
It was fun but I will not miss her.
Orange
"Coincidentally, I meet a girl I end up going out with the next night."
This girl was awesome, super hot, fun to be around, great body, everything I like about a girl.
I’m staying right across from an area with a few bars and clubs. Dressed in a ratty t shirt, gym shorts, and flip flops, I wander outside for a couple minutes and see a group of 3 tourists standing outside. I’m a tourist here too.
I can immediately tell it’s a group of hot girls and walk up without thinking. I give a little wave and a smile and ask if they were at the club. They’re a bit leery at first but warm up quickly and the hottest one especially engages me. They’re all chinese and her english is the best.
They’re waiting for a taxi; we talk for a minute then agree to meet up another time. We exchange instagrams. They leave for their taxi and I go inside to be with the other girl. I send her some sort of a nice to meet you text a bit later that night and she responds in kind.
The next day, there’s some back and forth about timing etc and we eventually meet for drinks. Of course, it’s all 4 of us as she’s not going to leave her friends behind. It’s her last night in town. She keeps talking about meeting new friends, shows me pictures of other random people she met, etc - if I hadn’t seen this movie before I might believe it.
She’s a few years older than me. High energy, stylish, imaginative, very fun to be around. Her friends don’t really speak in english even though they know a fair bit of the language.
We get to a table, order a beer tower, and play a game on the receipt. We draw pictures with our finger and the others try to guess what it is. It’s surprisingly fun and we play until the beer runs out then switch venues (which are all within 5 minutes of each other and my place, this town is great).
The new one is too loud for me and I essentially sit at the bar facing away while orange dances in front of me. Thankfully the performers end soon and it’s time to leave. Luckily their hotel is in walking distance and I agree to walk her back.
We get there and her friends go back to their room to sleep. Green light. We go up to the hotel bar and get a drink, talking, getting to know each other one on one. The bar closes and we go down to the lounge. Keep getting to know each other, I try to get more physical but she doesn’t seem into it. I kiss her at one point and she says it was sweet. Weird and I know I have work to do. Worth noting she was not very receptive to touch earlier either.
We're talking and she says she’s not experienced with hooking up or whatever it is. I say it’s okay, yada yada, bottom line is I know I’ll have to lead everything and take it slow. I get her to come to the bathroom with me and it’s just us in the hotel bathroom now at probably 4am.
She says just kiss, nothing else, I agree, sure whatever. We make out for a while and I slowly get her hornier and hornier as I have her touch my dick, etc. Eventually I’m basically fingering her and we try to figure out how to actually fuck in this hotel lounge bathroom. She says I’m not gonna fit. Long story short, we can’t really make it work cause every time I put a condom on I lose 30% of my boner and she’s too tight to make that work. We’re also in super uncomfortable positions in this stupid cramped little bathroom.
Eventually we give up. I’m still not sure how I feel because we never actually did it even though we tried. I bid her goodbye and genuinely wish to see her again. It’s 5:30am and neither of us sleep that night. The next day, I send her a nice message and she leaves me on seen. She replies the next day with a very nice message I keep. I hope to see her again.
This one hurt my soul because a) I liked her a lot and b) I had her ready to go and could not make it work.
**After this experience I make sure to be much more aroused than the bare minimum. And to buy bigger condoms in Asia**
Tare
I get back to my hostel and am beckoned over to the dinner table. There's maybe 12 people, I’m between the owner and a girl who’s a guest.
We’re all mixing it up, there are some fun convos and everyone's having a good time. I chat with this girl a little but don’t really flirt because she’s not my usual type.
These guys are awesome, owner is a G, free drinks and king crab//plenty of food for everyone involved. So I'm barely thinking about this girl.
As it turns out, she’s into me but is very subtle about it, at least to my face. It comes up a couple times that she hasn’t had a boyfriend in a while /// translated as she’s looking for a guy, and based on the table dynamics I’m the only one that would make sense. I forgot to mention, everyone at this table is speaking a language I don’t know and the owner is translating some of the conversations. Me, the girl, and one other guy speak a couple other languages poorly so it’s fun. We’re eating and drinking at the table family style.
We finish dinner and go to the bar next door, I redeem my beer coupon and now it’s mostly just me and the girl. The owner and all his friends have gone somewhere, leaving us two more or less alone.
At this point I say fuck it. She wants me, or rather she wants someone, and I’m down enough to make it happen. This was one of those times I just got lucky, logistics were handled perfectly without me even trying.
We play some darts and chat for a bit, I make some comment about her flirting with me and she denies it etc. I’m barely flirting with her at all, actually not really at all. I don’t make any effort to get to know her or talk about myself because I don’t care.
Our third and fourth languages are the same and I happen to be better at them, so I have a fun time pretending I can speak fluently. I can't, but she doesn't know that. I also beat her handily at darts.
We go back to the hostel and she thinks we’re saying bye so she asks for my instagram. Yeah right. I take her to the roof instead, get closer, get more physical, she’s fine with touching for the most part but turns her head when I go to kiss her. Annoying but whatever.
We go downstairs and she wants to watch netflix with me but I know that’s a dead end so I have her stand with me in the hallway. Again kiss refusal, she says she’s drunk (wants me to say it too), I know she’s horny but not ready to fuck yet, I take her back to the roof. I want to fuck her up here but am having trouble escalating. I have her hand in my pants on my dick but she’s blocking me when I go to do the same although not rebuttoning her pants. She asks what I like about her. Finally. Now I know she just needs a reason I want to fuck her and we’ll be good to go.
There’s nothing remarkable about this girl so I make up something about her being polite. Making myself laugh and it's good enough apparently, now we’re making out and my hand is in her pants. We hear voices, I pull up both our pants and the hostel owner and friends come up and kick us off the roof. Luckily we had enough time to sit down and pretend there’s nothing going on.
I ask how many people are in her room, she says 3, asks mine I say only 1. Okay. I lead her there and expect to take her into the bathroom, but she goes straight into my bed and lies down. The one guy is snoring so we know he’s asleep.
We get on the bed and have to be quiet, I start escalating and she says something about being on her period, being older than me, blocking her pussy with her legs, giving a few bullshit excuses, whatever. I can tell she wants to fuck so I just make her hornier. This girl really likes it when I kiss her collarbone and lick her titties. I go slow and sensual and she’s still blocking with her thighs saying she’s shy. More bullshit but whatever, she just doesn’t want to take responsibility. She kind of turns so I flip her over and start giving a massage. I get down to her ass and she moves it against my hard cock. I pull her pants down and ask if she wants me inside her.
No answer (I’m whispering softly cause there’s a dude sleeping in the room and she doesn’t speak great english) so I ask again. She doesn't understand the question but she does prop her naked ass up in the receiving position. What am I gonna do, sleep? +1 for body language.
I fuck her for a few minutes, she cums, I cum, we lie there holding each other in silence for a bit. I can never sleep right after this especially lying there with a girl so I'm awake lying there for a while as she dozes off. She wakes up when some guy checks in at like 3am (???) and probably panics a little bit. Once he's out of sight she pulls her clothes on, waves bye, and heads to her dorm.
The next morning, I think I see her at the table eating breakfast but she’s surrounded by people and I don’t say anything. I say hi later as she’s looking at a map on the wall and it takes me a minute to realize this is not the same girl as last night. As the two of us chat, the girl I fucked walks past us both out to the street, off to catch the bus back to her hometown.
We never traded contacts and I can’t remember her name. Overall, it was an unremarkable experience.
Freebie
Soon after I'm in yet another hostel and have decided to practice giving off a more manly vibe. I'm talking with a table of a few weird randos and one girl who's pretty cute. She goes off to eat dinner or something and I end up at a different table with a couple brazilian girls and some guy.
They're your typical fun loving south americans and are very lively, friendly, welcoming etc. We play cards for a while and I'm subtly flirting with the hot one while her somewhat cute friend is literally yelling because she's so excited about this game.
I didn't make any move at the time because it just didn't make sense in the current environment. A little later I shower and come back out to play solitaire, just chilling solo when the hot girl's friend comes back out
She kind of giggles...
“My friend likes you”
“Okay”
“What’s she doing now?”
“Do you want her to come out here?”
“Sure”
I say hey as she comes out. There's some slight awkwardness as I continue playing cards - I decide to simply move things forward instead of starting a game with her. I'm cracking up internally (solitaire pull???) but let the awkwardness sit as I finish my game.
"I'm putting these back, want to come with?"
We get into my bed and there's zero hesitation. Good kisser, great body, very passionate, only a bit difficult with positions as the bunk bed is weird.
This whole time there's a fat guy snoring across from us. Above him is some dude pissed off about the guy snoring who says he has decided to pack his bags and leave (it's like 12am).
Naturally, I go get my laundry as it's finally dry. I stick my hand back behind the curtain and signal for her to stay so the guy doesn't see her leave.
I come back in with my laundry and he makes some dumb comment clearly pissed about the noise. Whatever, I bring my laundry into my bed and start passing it to my girl to fold for me.
At first she shakes her head “uh uh”
Then she relents saying “I have plenty of time” and starts folding my laundry for me. Which makes me laugh and gives me a better way to fold socks.
Before she goes to her dorm to sleep I tell her she can fold my laundry anytime
“No I hate that shit” lol
I cannot sleep right away so I go back out to the lounge and the cute girl from earlier is there. For some reason we have chemistry without speaking so I just tell her I like her vibe. She says she likes mine too. The only logical thing to do is go to one of our beds, but she's in the all girls dorm. I don't want to take her back to mine because I literally just had sex there so we go up to the roof.
Unfortunately it's like 50 degrees and windy, there's no shot of anything happening here. We chat and make out a little then start going back downstairs. We're on the stairwell and I make a half ass move then and there but I'm just not feeling it. My balls are dry and my energy is low - she tells me 'not today' and I laugh because if only she knew... anyways we make plans for the next day.
The next day I don't see her whatsoever, she texts me later saying she was sick. No idea if that was true or not.
The brazilian however I see bright and early.
She's testy, I tell her good morning and she starts asking me to do things for her like get her purse or whatever. I refuse because I don't like dumb power games. Texts me later that day “I wanna kiss u again boy” no response cause I'm tired, she unsends and now likes my instagram posts.
Overall just funny circumstances. Didn't have to do much for the lay and almost was a double header.
Funny enough I saw the cute girl from above again randomly in a different country. And again banged a hotter girl that night. Unfortunately (or not) I don't remember much of what happened because I was smashing drunk, basically a group went out for karaoke and I went back with the hot girl.
Along with a few near misses in between, for example:
One girl I pulled from a club who freaked out when I pulled her back to my male only dorm (oops)
A couple girls who refused to go to my dorm that would've gone with me to a private room (who I didn't lead hard enough to pull outside)
And plenty of dates, meetings, hangouts etc that just didn't break my way for one reason or another
Superwoman
I’d seen a girl around my hostel. Immediate spark, said hey a couple times, could tell right away she’s inexperienced/not comfortable hooking up with guys. At one point I’m playing the guitar and she walks by, kind of pokes her head in listening.
I invite her to sit with me and she wants tea so goes and grabs us a couple mugs and some cookies. She’s a kooky gal, it’s fairly awkward between us but the right kind of tension is there. We decide to go to the park together. It’s nice, we sit down on a blanket I brought and hang out. I’m looking at her a bit more sexually thinking it’s a good place to kiss but the vibe just isn’t there. She mentions something about boundaries before I even try.
Not much touching going on at this point. We go back to the hostel to make dinner. She has a salad and I have chicken, we eat together, it’s nice. Now she’s a bit more comfortable and willing to open up, also touching me a little more. We go to a different park and I go to kiss her at some point and she rejects it. Talking about how I’ll be gone in the morning, whatever. I keep building and eventually we’re making out a little bit and I’m playing with her neck with my hands. She really likes it, keeps talking about struggling to make a decision, whatever. I know that I can lead her to the endpoint I want.
However…. that endpoint doesn’t really exist in this environment. It’s cold. I don’t think there’s any pull to happen here at the park so it’s time to go back. But the beds suck, there’s no way to be together here without everyone watching. Only a bathroom which I seeded earlier. I get her up to the floor with bathrooms and I can tell she’s not as horny as she was. Also, every single bathroom is occupied and people are walking past us etc as we’re waiting in the hallway.
The vibe just isn’t there, she says she won’t take a shower with me and we separate. I see her a few minutes later when I come down. She stands up surprised goes ‘oh, not what I expected, I’m going to shower’ and walks away. Definitely not “make a move, dummy” but she was probably opening the door for me. maybe I fucked up there. And yet, I didn’t really wan’t to fuck her in the shower because I’ve never had a good experience doing that - didn’t want it to be just a +1 because I liked this girl so far.
I probably had a window to shower with her. Yet I didn’t want to force it, I didn't feel like she was quite down.
My thoughts after were that if logistics were better we would’ve ended up together. And I'd be annoyed if I didn't see her the next day.
I saw her in the morning before I checked out, she didn’t realize I’m not actually leaving the city yet. Some back and forth, turns out we have similar travel plans. More back and forth and we eventually decide to go together for a couple days. She brings up the idea that there would only be one bed and I brush it aside for the time being.
I had to finesse us going on this trip together but once we left it was pretty much a done deal. Kept myself a bit more reserved & mysterious beforehand, keeping the tension without rushing so that there's always some ambiguity. At night we start kissing and of course one thing led to another.
After she tells me she doesn’t understand how I’m so good because I’m younger than her, she usually likes sex with women better, it takes 8 dates to kiss her, whatever things women say. She’s very sweet, we act like a couple on the trip and ended up staying together longer.
That's it for now. Moral of the story: Go see the world, it's worth it
(and keep a journal real time)
Enjoy!
Unsmooth
My friends drop me off at a hostel. I’ve been abroad about 3 days and jet lag is catching up to me, but I feel calm. The onsen we were just at has me feeling totally relaxed. I’m completely dressed down but decide to put my contacts in once I get to my room because I don’t feel ready to call it a night.
I’m open to meting new people. As I get back into my 6 bed dorm, an attractive japanese woman is at the end of the room. I'm hesitant to open as it's late and there are others nearby but I start a conversation. She seems quite open to talking so I invite her to come outside with me.
I don’t have any idea how to take this from a conversation to a lay, but that’s not important. I remember thinking that all I need is the next step, and right now the next step is to keep talking. She's cute, mixing japanese I can't understand with a very sweet submissive foreign english.
We go up the fire escape for some fresh air. The vibe is still more friendly than sexual, probably because I make no effort to get sexual as it’s been quite a while since I’ve tried to fuck random women I meet. I suggest we go for a walk and she happily obliges. I look for places to go and she says "you need to lead me" well ok. My way it is, we're walking to a nearby park.
At some point, we’re sitting down and I know I need to kiss her to keep things moving. However, I’m fresh off a long break and I can’t tell with her mannerisms if she’s into me or not. Maybe it's culture, maybe I'm rusty, at some point I straight up tell her I want to kiss her. She’s a bit weird about it but doesn't say no. I pull her in, it’s a bit awkward as neither of us are fully passionate at this point.
We sit on the curb for a little while, she laughs saying she's 'not this young anymore'. The streets are deserted except for the trash truck that comes by right as we're kissing. Very sexy. However, I keep building the vibe and eventually we have a one night love story plot going. She leaves tomorrow to her hometown. And see her kids.
Anyways, we’re pretty much locked in on the way back. There’s some unsmoothness on where we’ll bang because she’s leery of doing it in a hostel bunk and the bathrooms are tiny. She gives me an “are you sure? I’m not a prize, etc” and I just say yes. We end up showering together and it’s nice to feel each other but I keep losing my erection when I put a condom on.
We give up and go to sleep saying we’ll try again in the morning. I tell her that she looks good and young before going to my bed.
I have an amazing sleep not expecting anything and it turns out she’s waiting for me. We’re the only two in the dorm, which is perfect. I crawl in her bunk and we chat for a minute then start kissing, fooling around, fucking. At some point we hear someone get up from a lower bunk. Oops, not the only two. We continue quietly and they leave.
We finish and we both agree that it was a nice experience and are happy to have met each other. No contacts or pictures exchanged. Just a happy memory from my first night in a hostel (this trip).
I later tell my friend what happened and he said "her kids are hungry!" lol
Packing
I check into a hostel in a new city. At some point, I notice the filipina receptionist is eyeing me so I play ball.
She’s reserved and has one of those unnecessarily mature vibes I’m not a fan of. She’s two years older than me and makes it a big deal, which annoys me as I don’t get shit like that from women who are 5+ years older.
We talk and get to know each other a bit. I don’t attempt to make any sort of a move but the flirty vibes are there so I’m not worried. We talk about scheduling, days off etc and I invite her to hang out with me in a couple days. She says it’s normal to hang out with guests etc so it’s an uphill battle to begin with. She suggests food and I laugh at her for it. I hate food dates.
I barely saw her the next day and didn’t talk to her when I caught a glimpse; the next day I was out until evening. When I got back, we end up talking/chatting for a while. It’s a lot of work to build a sexual vibe. We played jenga and make a bet that the loser buys soju to split. I win of course, she forks over the dough, and we play again. The whole time giving me shit like "you're from a rich country, I don't make much money, etc" over a $5 bottle but I don't budge. She lost fair and square. Eventually, we get into juicier topics of conversation.
She’s one of those girls who thinks sex is a huge deal. Says hookups are something she doesn’t do, etc and I learn that there was one traveler who used to stay here she used to be a sort of girlfriend to and got dumped. She also mentioned that she got tinder recently but preferred face to face conversation.
I don’t know how much of this is actually true. It seems like every girl says that they only go out with special guys rarely, aren’t comfortable with hookups, etc. Maybe it’s the way I’m interacting with them.
Either way, I buy it and continue on. We’re talking about life in a hostel and get to the topic of sex. She mentions some guy once told her to move over on her bed and she said no way and was uncomfortable. Naturally, I get her to admit that if it was a hot guy she liked etc if she would’ve slept with him. Bingo, now I have a plan.
We’re still in the common room/reception area and she’s afraid to do anything because of all the cameras watching. At some point, I kiss her. This whole time she’s playing hard to get. “No one gets me”, “I’m not easy”, all kinds of bullshit I wade through because obviously she likes me.
A lot of times I just don't bother with girls who act like this. This time I wanted to play.
We’re talking about sleeping together, and she says we’re not gonna do anything just sleep. I agree of course. The staff room isn’t available, I can’t go in her dorm because it’s the all female dorm, she can’t go in mine because of all the cameras, there are people in the common area by the bathrooms, in short poor logistics.
Well, I know from earlier she’d be okay with me coming to her bed so I know I just need to make her hornier. I pull her a little closer so she can feel my boner. Can’t fake that. I have her touch it briefly and I continue on trying to find a way to make it work. Eventually, I say I’m going to come to her bed when it’s dark and ask which one it is. She tells me which bunk is hers and says she doesn’t believe I’ll come to her bed cause men always lie. Boom, there’s my green light. I leave her be and go outside.
Coincidentally, I meet a girl I end up going out with the next night.
I go back in and she’s gone. I poke in her bed but don’t see or feel her so I text. We go back and forth for a few minutes (would copy but it's long) she tells me no, don't come, I don't want to get caught, etc. Eventually later invites me to sleep with her then says time up as I don't respond for a while so I just ask which bed is hers and when she answers I go crawl in her bed.
Once I’m in, there’s zero hesitation and we fuck as silently as possible. Says "you succeeded to get me".
In general, the sex is just not that good in limited space when you have to be quiet. But this girl had amazing big soft lips and whenever she came it felt like a massage chair for my dick, which made it all worth doing.
Her frame this whole time is she was never flirting with me, we were just friends until I kissed her, basically I am responsible for everything. She’s a pain in the ass actually.
I try to fuck her in the back of a mall the next day which unfortunately didn't happen because I didn't quite lead hard enough. That night she uses her staff privilege and gets a larger bed next to mine for a few days. The first night, I’m out until 6 am with a different (hotter) girl.
The next night, I slept next to her after kissing a different girl who I think just wasn’t sexual enough to lay. The last night, I go on a failed date, come back, meet a super down girl I decide not to fuck because I don’t want to do it in a bathroom, then go back to the receptionist and fuck her to sleep.
It was fun but I will not miss her.
Orange
"Coincidentally, I meet a girl I end up going out with the next night."
This girl was awesome, super hot, fun to be around, great body, everything I like about a girl.
I’m staying right across from an area with a few bars and clubs. Dressed in a ratty t shirt, gym shorts, and flip flops, I wander outside for a couple minutes and see a group of 3 tourists standing outside. I’m a tourist here too.
I can immediately tell it’s a group of hot girls and walk up without thinking. I give a little wave and a smile and ask if they were at the club. They’re a bit leery at first but warm up quickly and the hottest one especially engages me. They’re all chinese and her english is the best.
They’re waiting for a taxi; we talk for a minute then agree to meet up another time. We exchange instagrams. They leave for their taxi and I go inside to be with the other girl. I send her some sort of a nice to meet you text a bit later that night and she responds in kind.
The next day, there’s some back and forth about timing etc and we eventually meet for drinks. Of course, it’s all 4 of us as she’s not going to leave her friends behind. It’s her last night in town. She keeps talking about meeting new friends, shows me pictures of other random people she met, etc - if I hadn’t seen this movie before I might believe it.
She’s a few years older than me. High energy, stylish, imaginative, very fun to be around. Her friends don’t really speak in english even though they know a fair bit of the language.
We get to a table, order a beer tower, and play a game on the receipt. We draw pictures with our finger and the others try to guess what it is. It’s surprisingly fun and we play until the beer runs out then switch venues (which are all within 5 minutes of each other and my place, this town is great).
The new one is too loud for me and I essentially sit at the bar facing away while orange dances in front of me. Thankfully the performers end soon and it’s time to leave. Luckily their hotel is in walking distance and I agree to walk her back.
We get there and her friends go back to their room to sleep. Green light. We go up to the hotel bar and get a drink, talking, getting to know each other one on one. The bar closes and we go down to the lounge. Keep getting to know each other, I try to get more physical but she doesn’t seem into it. I kiss her at one point and she says it was sweet. Weird and I know I have work to do. Worth noting she was not very receptive to touch earlier either.
We're talking and she says she’s not experienced with hooking up or whatever it is. I say it’s okay, yada yada, bottom line is I know I’ll have to lead everything and take it slow. I get her to come to the bathroom with me and it’s just us in the hotel bathroom now at probably 4am.
She says just kiss, nothing else, I agree, sure whatever. We make out for a while and I slowly get her hornier and hornier as I have her touch my dick, etc. Eventually I’m basically fingering her and we try to figure out how to actually fuck in this hotel lounge bathroom. She says I’m not gonna fit. Long story short, we can’t really make it work cause every time I put a condom on I lose 30% of my boner and she’s too tight to make that work. We’re also in super uncomfortable positions in this stupid cramped little bathroom.
Eventually we give up. I’m still not sure how I feel because we never actually did it even though we tried. I bid her goodbye and genuinely wish to see her again. It’s 5:30am and neither of us sleep that night. The next day, I send her a nice message and she leaves me on seen. She replies the next day with a very nice message I keep. I hope to see her again.
This one hurt my soul because a) I liked her a lot and b) I had her ready to go and could not make it work.
**After this experience I make sure to be much more aroused than the bare minimum. And to buy bigger condoms in Asia**
Tare
I get back to my hostel and am beckoned over to the dinner table. There's maybe 12 people, I’m between the owner and a girl who’s a guest.
We’re all mixing it up, there are some fun convos and everyone's having a good time. I chat with this girl a little but don’t really flirt because she’s not my usual type.
These guys are awesome, owner is a G, free drinks and king crab//plenty of food for everyone involved. So I'm barely thinking about this girl.
As it turns out, she’s into me but is very subtle about it, at least to my face. It comes up a couple times that she hasn’t had a boyfriend in a while /// translated as she’s looking for a guy, and based on the table dynamics I’m the only one that would make sense. I forgot to mention, everyone at this table is speaking a language I don’t know and the owner is translating some of the conversations. Me, the girl, and one other guy speak a couple other languages poorly so it’s fun. We’re eating and drinking at the table family style.
We finish dinner and go to the bar next door, I redeem my beer coupon and now it’s mostly just me and the girl. The owner and all his friends have gone somewhere, leaving us two more or less alone.
At this point I say fuck it. She wants me, or rather she wants someone, and I’m down enough to make it happen. This was one of those times I just got lucky, logistics were handled perfectly without me even trying.
We play some darts and chat for a bit, I make some comment about her flirting with me and she denies it etc. I’m barely flirting with her at all, actually not really at all. I don’t make any effort to get to know her or talk about myself because I don’t care.
Our third and fourth languages are the same and I happen to be better at them, so I have a fun time pretending I can speak fluently. I can't, but she doesn't know that. I also beat her handily at darts.
We go back to the hostel and she thinks we’re saying bye so she asks for my instagram. Yeah right. I take her to the roof instead, get closer, get more physical, she’s fine with touching for the most part but turns her head when I go to kiss her. Annoying but whatever.
We go downstairs and she wants to watch netflix with me but I know that’s a dead end so I have her stand with me in the hallway. Again kiss refusal, she says she’s drunk (wants me to say it too), I know she’s horny but not ready to fuck yet, I take her back to the roof. I want to fuck her up here but am having trouble escalating. I have her hand in my pants on my dick but she’s blocking me when I go to do the same although not rebuttoning her pants. She asks what I like about her. Finally. Now I know she just needs a reason I want to fuck her and we’ll be good to go.
There’s nothing remarkable about this girl so I make up something about her being polite. Making myself laugh and it's good enough apparently, now we’re making out and my hand is in her pants. We hear voices, I pull up both our pants and the hostel owner and friends come up and kick us off the roof. Luckily we had enough time to sit down and pretend there’s nothing going on.
I ask how many people are in her room, she says 3, asks mine I say only 1. Okay. I lead her there and expect to take her into the bathroom, but she goes straight into my bed and lies down. The one guy is snoring so we know he’s asleep.
We get on the bed and have to be quiet, I start escalating and she says something about being on her period, being older than me, blocking her pussy with her legs, giving a few bullshit excuses, whatever. I can tell she wants to fuck so I just make her hornier. This girl really likes it when I kiss her collarbone and lick her titties. I go slow and sensual and she’s still blocking with her thighs saying she’s shy. More bullshit but whatever, she just doesn’t want to take responsibility. She kind of turns so I flip her over and start giving a massage. I get down to her ass and she moves it against my hard cock. I pull her pants down and ask if she wants me inside her.
No answer (I’m whispering softly cause there’s a dude sleeping in the room and she doesn’t speak great english) so I ask again. She doesn't understand the question but she does prop her naked ass up in the receiving position. What am I gonna do, sleep? +1 for body language.
I fuck her for a few minutes, she cums, I cum, we lie there holding each other in silence for a bit. I can never sleep right after this especially lying there with a girl so I'm awake lying there for a while as she dozes off. She wakes up when some guy checks in at like 3am (???) and probably panics a little bit. Once he's out of sight she pulls her clothes on, waves bye, and heads to her dorm.
The next morning, I think I see her at the table eating breakfast but she’s surrounded by people and I don’t say anything. I say hi later as she’s looking at a map on the wall and it takes me a minute to realize this is not the same girl as last night. As the two of us chat, the girl I fucked walks past us both out to the street, off to catch the bus back to her hometown.
We never traded contacts and I can’t remember her name. Overall, it was an unremarkable experience.
Freebie
Soon after I'm in yet another hostel and have decided to practice giving off a more manly vibe. I'm talking with a table of a few weird randos and one girl who's pretty cute. She goes off to eat dinner or something and I end up at a different table with a couple brazilian girls and some guy.
They're your typical fun loving south americans and are very lively, friendly, welcoming etc. We play cards for a while and I'm subtly flirting with the hot one while her somewhat cute friend is literally yelling because she's so excited about this game.
I didn't make any move at the time because it just didn't make sense in the current environment. A little later I shower and come back out to play solitaire, just chilling solo when the hot girl's friend comes back out
She kind of giggles...
“My friend likes you”
“Okay”
“What’s she doing now?”
“Do you want her to come out here?”
“Sure”
I say hey as she comes out. There's some slight awkwardness as I continue playing cards - I decide to simply move things forward instead of starting a game with her. I'm cracking up internally (solitaire pull???) but let the awkwardness sit as I finish my game.
"I'm putting these back, want to come with?"
We get into my bed and there's zero hesitation. Good kisser, great body, very passionate, only a bit difficult with positions as the bunk bed is weird.
This whole time there's a fat guy snoring across from us. Above him is some dude pissed off about the guy snoring who says he has decided to pack his bags and leave (it's like 12am).
Naturally, I go get my laundry as it's finally dry. I stick my hand back behind the curtain and signal for her to stay so the guy doesn't see her leave.
I come back in with my laundry and he makes some dumb comment clearly pissed about the noise. Whatever, I bring my laundry into my bed and start passing it to my girl to fold for me.
At first she shakes her head “uh uh”
Then she relents saying “I have plenty of time” and starts folding my laundry for me. Which makes me laugh and gives me a better way to fold socks.
Before she goes to her dorm to sleep I tell her she can fold my laundry anytime
“No I hate that shit” lol
I cannot sleep right away so I go back out to the lounge and the cute girl from earlier is there. For some reason we have chemistry without speaking so I just tell her I like her vibe. She says she likes mine too. The only logical thing to do is go to one of our beds, but she's in the all girls dorm. I don't want to take her back to mine because I literally just had sex there so we go up to the roof.
Unfortunately it's like 50 degrees and windy, there's no shot of anything happening here. We chat and make out a little then start going back downstairs. We're on the stairwell and I make a half ass move then and there but I'm just not feeling it. My balls are dry and my energy is low - she tells me 'not today' and I laugh because if only she knew... anyways we make plans for the next day.
The next day I don't see her whatsoever, she texts me later saying she was sick. No idea if that was true or not.
The brazilian however I see bright and early.
She's testy, I tell her good morning and she starts asking me to do things for her like get her purse or whatever. I refuse because I don't like dumb power games. Texts me later that day “I wanna kiss u again boy” no response cause I'm tired, she unsends and now likes my instagram posts.
Overall just funny circumstances. Didn't have to do much for the lay and almost was a double header.
Funny enough I saw the cute girl from above again randomly in a different country. And again banged a hotter girl that night. Unfortunately (or not) I don't remember much of what happened because I was smashing drunk, basically a group went out for karaoke and I went back with the hot girl.
Along with a few near misses in between, for example:
One girl I pulled from a club who freaked out when I pulled her back to my male only dorm (oops)
A couple girls who refused to go to my dorm that would've gone with me to a private room (who I didn't lead hard enough to pull outside)
And plenty of dates, meetings, hangouts etc that just didn't break my way for one reason or another
Superwoman
I’d seen a girl around my hostel. Immediate spark, said hey a couple times, could tell right away she’s inexperienced/not comfortable hooking up with guys. At one point I’m playing the guitar and she walks by, kind of pokes her head in listening.
I invite her to sit with me and she wants tea so goes and grabs us a couple mugs and some cookies. She’s a kooky gal, it’s fairly awkward between us but the right kind of tension is there. We decide to go to the park together. It’s nice, we sit down on a blanket I brought and hang out. I’m looking at her a bit more sexually thinking it’s a good place to kiss but the vibe just isn’t there. She mentions something about boundaries before I even try.
Not much touching going on at this point. We go back to the hostel to make dinner. She has a salad and I have chicken, we eat together, it’s nice. Now she’s a bit more comfortable and willing to open up, also touching me a little more. We go to a different park and I go to kiss her at some point and she rejects it. Talking about how I’ll be gone in the morning, whatever. I keep building and eventually we’re making out a little bit and I’m playing with her neck with my hands. She really likes it, keeps talking about struggling to make a decision, whatever. I know that I can lead her to the endpoint I want.
However…. that endpoint doesn’t really exist in this environment. It’s cold. I don’t think there’s any pull to happen here at the park so it’s time to go back. But the beds suck, there’s no way to be together here without everyone watching. Only a bathroom which I seeded earlier. I get her up to the floor with bathrooms and I can tell she’s not as horny as she was. Also, every single bathroom is occupied and people are walking past us etc as we’re waiting in the hallway.
The vibe just isn’t there, she says she won’t take a shower with me and we separate. I see her a few minutes later when I come down. She stands up surprised goes ‘oh, not what I expected, I’m going to shower’ and walks away. Definitely not “make a move, dummy” but she was probably opening the door for me. maybe I fucked up there. And yet, I didn’t really wan’t to fuck her in the shower because I’ve never had a good experience doing that - didn’t want it to be just a +1 because I liked this girl so far.
I probably had a window to shower with her. Yet I didn’t want to force it, I didn't feel like she was quite down.
My thoughts after were that if logistics were better we would’ve ended up together. And I'd be annoyed if I didn't see her the next day.
I saw her in the morning before I checked out, she didn’t realize I’m not actually leaving the city yet. Some back and forth, turns out we have similar travel plans. More back and forth and we eventually decide to go together for a couple days. She brings up the idea that there would only be one bed and I brush it aside for the time being.
I had to finesse us going on this trip together but once we left it was pretty much a done deal. Kept myself a bit more reserved & mysterious beforehand, keeping the tension without rushing so that there's always some ambiguity. At night we start kissing and of course one thing led to another.
After she tells me she doesn’t understand how I’m so good because I’m younger than her, she usually likes sex with women better, it takes 8 dates to kiss her, whatever things women say. She’s very sweet, we act like a couple on the trip and ended up staying together longer.
That's it for now. Moral of the story: Go see the world, it's worth it
(and keep a journal real time
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